Hi guys, I haven't posted in awhile so I wanted to ask for some advice. Long story short, I finally moved out of my toxic relatives house, and finally found a job after moving to another area with some roommates. However, I started feeling really depressed after the first two months of living in my new apartment due to my lack of social support, and achievements which I felt like all my time was wasted in dealing with my mother's drama as well as the toxic people that kept invading my whole life. I am also starting to develop some trust issues due to some severe psychological abuse I endured as an teenager and young adult from the adults in my life that I thought I could trust. I thought if I moved out away from that area it would end. However, it did not and the past keeps rearing it's ugly head. I have been getting into some altercations with my roommates over ridiculous stuff such as listening to music with my earbuds which they don't realize helps me relax and be calm, or even telling me to "shut the f*ck up" after I got mugged by two thugs on my way from the park. Don't get me wrong, I like having my own room with a door and being able to cook for myself with no nagging from my parents but I want better than going through a situation where I am questioning if I am going to be able to have a future or if any of the people I meet are trustworthy at all. I also want to mention that the job I am working at now is at Sonic Drive-in, however it can be very stressful and will sometimes get overworked due to being short staffed which my boss does not seem to care that I need to be able to have time to go to doctor's appointments or even wash clothes. I sometimes pass out right on top of my bed having no energy left to even cook something. I recently lost a couple of friends due to this and mainly from unrealistic expectations that I could not meet because of said job even though I tried to explain to them that I could not just take off from work. I am so SICK of these shitty people and shitty situations enough to the point that I feel like I am going batshit insane which I desperately wish for them to take a flying leap into the sun. UGH!!! So dear Subetans, as a fellow human, I am asking you, what should I do? I want to accomplish something in my life and feel like I have a say on what goes on in my life instead of these narcissistic, sociopathic pieces of crap running my life down to the ground. I have thought about going back to college to finish the last remaining three classes I have to get my degree and even thought about going through Peace Corps to go outside the U.S. I even wanted to start my own art shop on Etsy as well as so many other things on my list that I feel like I really want instead of this crap I am going through. I am so fed up with these narcissistic pieces of crap labeling me with some sort of condition and gaslighting me into thinking there is something wrong with me while trying to taking advantage of me!! Hell no!! I don't want to slave away at some fast food job that is extremely stressful while the people I know remain unsupportive and manipulative of my well-being! I don't want to put up with any more crap from people who only give a damn about themselves while playing mind games with me! No! No! No! No! So please, what should I do? I have control over my money but how do I like repel these toxic people from personally invading my life? I am seriously not joking and have thought multiple times that maybe I should finish my degree and move out of state which I believe would give me a much needed fresh start away from this insane asylum of an area that I live around. I feel like there's some kind of magnetic force attracting these types of people to me which for the love of God, I do not know why but realize being in those kind of relationships are not healthy so please, please help!! I am getting to the point where I am starting to feel like I am losing it, and starting to hit rock bottom so anything is a better option than this which I would greatly appreciate! Thanks again!!

- I don't know all the details of your life, and you don't need to explain in deep detail. I can just give you some of my thoughts.

• Why did your roommates tell you to be quiet about being mugged? That is seriously messed up. That sounds like a very unsafe environment to live in if they do not have your back and if I were you I would be questioning whether or not you should continue to live there with those kind of people. Most importantly I hope you reported the incident to the police.

• I do know what it is like to live in a town that has a toxic people. I have lived all my life in an economically depressed city and there is, the only way I can describe it without getting nasty, just some bad air and additude here. It is a black hole that can swallow you if you loose your way, or if you want out you can get trapped here for financial reasons (like myself. ex: cheapest rent and housing around). I'm going to take a guess and say you don't live in a good area? Moving elsewhere would give you that breath of fresh air. It may not have to be out of state. Sometimes you just need to hop over a town or so.

• Is there any true benefit to completing your degree? Will it really help you get a job in your field? Are those jobs out there (in your area or an area you would want to move to), what do starting salaries look like? Can you get a job in your field without completing the degree, or get that job as your are finishing it? Can you afford to go back? Is it feasible to maybe work and take the last 3 classes on the side? There are a lot of questions you need to ask yourself and weigh the pros and cons of completing your degree. It depends on what you want to do and finances. (I know a few people who I went to college with who did not complete their degrees and they stopped going to college to pursue full-time jobs or create their own businesses. And I know many others who got their degree and are not working in their field or are not in a good place. Getting a college degree is not the be-all end-all, it is to better yourself and to get the key to get your foot in the door at a career, success lies with you).

• I highly suggest you talk to someone, about college, about career and job opportunities for your degree. Talk to someone about the Peace Corp if that is really something you want to pursue. Talk to someone, a councilor that you can go into detail with about your situation more than you can online.

• either deciding to move, changing jobs, or going back to college should take priority over an etsy shop. You can do that later down the road when you are more settled.

• I can only say, it takes wisdom and experience to learn how to sniff out people who are trouble. Never tolerate and waste time with shitty behavior.