It's been about a month and I'm still not over it. I came home from a 3 hour long drive back home and my dad opened the gate. There was 3 of us in the car and none of us saw my dog ran out. She's real small, she's a Shih Tzu, she was about 10 years old+. Her mom died the same way few years back, and her brother just passed away last year due to heart failure.

My dad's car was quite low but somehow she darted out or something and I ran over her twice not knowing it was her. I wasn't driving fast cause I was already at the front of the house. In fact, I even stopped to let my dad down but he didn't want to go down. I wanted to make a 3 point turn when it happened.

Everything that could go wrong just went wrong that day. Still devastated and affected by it. I know it's not my fault but it still feels horrible till this day. Would love some advice or support.

Rest in peace, Mimi.

This is absolutely awful; I'm so sorry for your loss. I really think talking to someone may be of benefit. You could try a therapist, or otherwise look for pet loss grief support groups. You could try calling local vets to see if they know of any groups that have meetings; sometimes the groups 'network' with local vets to get their names out there.

Also, because you said this is now the second dog killed in the driveway, on a more cut-and-dry note, I think your family needs a more solid pet safety plan. For example 'the gate containing the pets is not to be opened unless all vehicles are at a complete stop' might be a new and useful rule. Keeping pets indoors and removing pet doors that allow the dogs to run out when no one is at home might also be useful, if that is what you have. Creating an agreed-upon safety plan could bring some peace of mind during this troubling time to keep any other current or future pets safe. Again, I'm very sorry for the loss of Mimi, and hope she is resting peacefully.

thank you so much for your kind words <3 Initially I thought no one commented, which kind of broke my heart a little. But thankfully I just saw that you did. Do tag me if you post again :)

Anyways, thanks so much for the advice too. I think I shall seek some support from active Facebook groups instead.I think I'd be more comfortable there instead because I haven't actually tried support groups in real life yet.

And initially we did have a so-called safety precaution by having plastic wirings on the main gate. But there was renovation at my house last year and guess it got removed somehow. Not entirely sure as I was overseas studying. It never got replaced but yes, I think if we were to get a new dog we should discuss a plan instead, it's a great idea.

Also, my dad can be a little careless with the main door leaving it opened. And that day my housemaid was with my dog at the back of the house. She must have heard the car coming or gate opening and ran outside to greet us cause we were outstation for a week or so.

Very sad but I hope she's resting well too, my dad buried her at the back of my house but till this day I'm somewhat reluctant to approach it still. Rest in peace, Mimi <3 Hope I shall find peace as well soon.

Thank you once again, for showing your loving care.

Oh, I am so so sorry for your loss! Magic gave some wonderful advice, and it sounds like you have some pretty good ideas moving forward. I think one of the most important things is to try to find a way to forgive yourself (so much easier said than done). Once again, I am SO sorry that you're going through this. Thanks for sharing a photo of Mimi. What a special girl <3

You're very welcome, and thank you for your sweet words. <3 I think a FB support group could be a good place to start!

As Magic suggested I would talk to a therapist or a grief support group. Even talking to your dad might help. He might have some suggestions on how to work through the grieving process.

Oh gosh, I am so sorry to hear that hun. Losing a pet is awful..but that just has to cut to the bone I imagine. I would highly suggest counselling of some kind. I know sometimes it doesn't help everyone but it is worth a shot. If you're afraid of talking to someone face to face I can send you an online resource you can use to talk to trained people anonymously.