So I got told the other day that being bi is wrong. Being gay and pan and straight and anything else is fine, apparently, but being bi means I'm a judgemental asshole. I'm into men and women. I don't like like people of any other gender. I just don't. That doesn't mean that I don't possibly friend-like them, I just don't love/relationship-like them. Why is this an issue?! I've just started to even accept this in myself. My parents don't even know. Only one friend knows. I only really talk about it online. But this asshole was all 'Oh, if you like two genders, then you must like them all.' That's...not how that works. Why are straight people never grilled like this? If I were a woman who only liked men, people wouldn't be all 'Oh you hate women!' Even if I was a lesbian, people wouldn't be all 'Oh you must hate all men then.' I just...I don't get why bi people are kind of looked down upon and hated at. How is being bi different than anything else? I'm bi, you're straight, she's pan, who fucking cares. I don't get it.

damn i feel this. when i told my mother i was bi she said "well that doesn't make any sense? that sounds selfish."

People are dumb. For some reason i still feel like bisexuality is the most looked down on sexuality in the mainstream. and looked down by even people in the LGBTQA community

For some reason people can not grasp "both". its one or the other.

There's how many ever people in the world and your being bi makes you selfish, omg, lmao. You're gonna date 7 billion people. How could you.

It's like me trying to explain being nonbinary to people. "You can only be trans!" Uhm, no?

"BUT BUT I dont understand so It CaNt Be ReAl!"

Honestly I've never run into anyone who said negative things about bi people. I guess I've just been lucky. I've heard plenty of homophobic and transphobic things but nothing bi-specific.

I don't understand why people have a problem with bi and pan people. I mean, "selfish"?? How do people come up with stuff like that? And how do people that stupid even remember how to breathe?

If it's okay I want to throw out a mini-rant about how stupid people are with nonbinary genders and pronouns. "I don't know if I can call you 'they', it's too confusing! It's not grammatically correct!" That's only ever been said to me by people who, 1) Use 'they' as a singular pronoun all the time for strangers and 2) Have poor grammar anyway. They'll mix up there/their/they're all the time but god forbid they use "they" as a singular pronoun because it's "grammatically incorrect" (it's not). This is in addition to people just refusing to respect nonbinary genders in the first place.

Gasp!

People are too stuck on labels. As soon as they see something they've never seen before, they think it's 'alien'. Newsflash: aliens exist. Whatever.

my fave part of that is why do people think "they" is not grammatically correct (within the English language) I speak french and since its a romance language, it can be confusing for people. But generally masc. is used for terms like "we" "they" "us" or if you dont know someones gender.

Yeah, "they" as a singular pronoun has been around since at least Shakespeare's time and most people use it in conversations on a daily basis. Yet, when someone uses it as their pronoun people suddenly forget how to use it in regular speech. It makes no sense, lol.

I've had exes ask me "How do you know you aren't into women? Have you tried?" And no I'm not. I'm as straight as it gets as far as sexual life goes. But I know this about me even without "trying" out dating a girl. Sometimes you just know aspects about yourself without question. No I didn't grow up with a religious household nor forced to believe love only "exists" for a man and woman who are married.

I can give other ladies compliments on things like hair or an outfit. I can even say when another girl looks cute. But by no means does it mean I "want" them like an ex of mine thought. I can compliment anyone on anything nice looking really. Some people don't get that just because it looks nice it doesn't mean we are sexually attracted to it.

Also on the topic of love I feel there's many levels and types. I love my best friend, but not in love with him. I love people I know in different ways. I feel society has placed too many complications on love and what its "supposed" to mean that others are afraid of it. My best friend loves me but won't say it or verbally express it. Theres also 10 years and many life experiences of differences between us too. I know his love for me is there because he remembers and enacts small things I've told him.

People need to stop being scared of sexuality and love. But thanks to social "meanings" to them many are scared to find out, let alone express it. So power to those of us who know ourselves and to those still finding it out, you'll get there in time. Life is a never ending journey of learning please keep at it :)

That's the hardest part of being a french speaker (myself included). I'm always asking for pronouns of choice, but they is always difficult to translate in french as we mostly stick with masculine and feminine. We don't have much neutral!

come @ me dumb people

I totally get what you mean. When I tell people that I'm "Pan" most people say.. "oh, so you're bi?" and I have to explain the difference mostly to be respectful of bi people. To illustrate your point further- even though I'm pan, I'm actually not attracted to every gender identity equally!! There's still a range that tickles my fancy and while it may be wider than some peoples it actually isn't anything and everything.

EDIT: This topic has prompted me to do some research and I think actually Polysexual- "attracted to many genders" might be a better fit for me than Pansexual which actually does have the implication of attraction regardless of gender/to all genders. Although label aside the experience is relatable I think. ;)