My boyfriend of 3 years recently (almost two months ago) ended our relationship, quite suddenly. I thought he was "the one". Just weeks before someone asked if I thought we would get married one day and I said yes. He threw away a lot of my things and the break up was bad. We were living together so I moved back in with my parents, which is in the middle of no where. I'm currently trying to find a new job but even then I feel hopeless about meeting someone new. Even when I think months or years down the line it's hard for me to imagine being in a healthy, loving relationship.

(I've tried Tinder and that was a mistake)

I've been scared to try online dating myself.

However things happen as they are meant. It may seem impossible but you will find your way :)

I've tried all of the popular dating apps... and deleted them the same day lol. I may try one or two that require paid subscription someday because I feel like people are more likely to take dating seriously there.

Thank you!! :)

Just focus on your own interests and what YOU like to do. Its likely you will find someone that way because it can be a chance to meet people and do something you enjoy, which takes away from the dating pressure

Its prolly a bit hard in the middle of nowhere so maybe a job/ a way to commute easier to more populated areas? either way, it sounds like youre doing well and focus on healing :)

One day, when you have been treating yourself kindly and enough time has passed, you will come to count the breakup as a blessing. I can't tell you why myself because there's not enough to know, and there's no use in analyzing someone else's rash decisions.

There's nothing wrong with going a year or more without dating. Youre going through changes in your self image, and the way you percieve the world. Give the dust some time to settle. Just take good care of yourself and your health in the meanwhile and you will open yourself to far more and better than what you ever imagined.

Thank you, so much!! c: I am starting to feel better. I've thrown a lot of things away that I've held onto for years (I'm a bit of a hoarder) and I'm looking forward to starting over.

I'm sorry for your heart break. Do give things time and I agree with , sometimes things happen for a reason.

I was in a 3 year relationship, when things went downhill quickly. I wanted marriage and family and he wanted to run the roads. I left to find greater things in life. After 3 years of being in a relationship (that now when I look back, was almost on a line of abusive), I spent time on myself and doing better. I did volunteer work. I treated myself out and I traveled. I saw the sites and I had fun. Its now been 5 years later, and I am 3 months away from my 1 year anniversary of being married. Im extremely happy. Him. He pokes me from time to time. Hes not gone anywhere in life and not matched up to much of anything.

Sweetie, enjoy life. Things happen for a reason. Even with the breakup, sit and stay positive on the lessons learned and the good times together. Do not dwell on the negative side of things, for it will only cloud your heart.

PLEASE be safe with online dating sites. They can be scary and people are not always as they say they are. If you ever need someone to chat with, drop me a line. <3 Stay positive <3 !

thank you so much! <3 Yesterday I got accepted for a job in the field I recently got a certification in! Things are slowly turning around. I was feeling so lost and hopeless when I made the first post. Congrats on the anniversary! That's wonderful to hear.

WOOT! Congrats sweetie!

Keep your chin up and stay positive. Things happen for a reason. Have fun with your new job. Live and learn as much as you can and love will be there too.

I understand what you're feeling. When my first love and I ended things, I thought I'd never find another love -- at that time, I really thought he was my only love, because it was such an intense feeling. It took me almost 3 or 4 years to actually move on. This wasn't helped by the fact that we were a bit on and off during the time. I don't think I really wanted to move on.

You get sort of attached to that bittersweet love.

But new love does come. I met my fiance almost two years ago, and the love was fast but it hasn't wavered one bit. Honestly, too? Your current love will always trump your past ones, if you keep striving for health and communication. For improvement. Your heart won't hurt; you'll be glad you experienced the heart break you did, to have the love you eventually find.

There is love again. It just takes time.

My best advice is to stop looking for it and let it come to you. You aren't going to find the love of your life on tinder ( possibly crazier things have happened) so just get out there. Go to places you love. Do things with friends the universe is strange and life is too short to worry about being with someone

;; i'm in a similar boat, but i'm getting over it. the one thing i can say is letting go of it was the best decision i made, but i still try and check in from time to time on his page to see how his life is doing. OTL i'm a glutton for punishment, i guess.

we were on and off again for over 3 years but never officially dated. and he finally was ready to give me that chance (even tho i shouldn't have given him), but the new facing problem is that it was now long distance. i lived in the states and he lived in asia. (we met on a college campus b/c he was an international student.) told his family i was the girl he wanted to marry and just every good thing that could happen, i'd even skyped and chatted with his brother! and then.... he blocked me not even 4 months later and now has a new girlfriend and he's doing all "our" things we planned for our life with her. down to the matching tattoo concept. but, i can't say i'm not surprised. /shrug

the best thing that's worked for me is just driving my attention into one thing and succeeding at it. my highest GPA was that semester. if i wanted to check in then (i wasn't emotionally strong enough to cope like i am now) i would just work. with that, i definitely recommend just focusing on anything that makes YOU happy or unique. hobbies, sports, crafts, etc. just give it time. some relationship professionals even claim it takes about half the time you were with someone to get over them, so just take everything at your own pace.

but you got this. there is light at the end of the road, take it from someone who's finally seeing it. c:

check this out ❤️ it´s just 10 minutes and it has helped me so much.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BXy8_ZX2W3k

hugs!

I was previously married for 11 years, and did everything I could to make things work. 13 total years of relationship, most of it abusive. I finally got out after discovering some things that I just couldn't deal with (beyond the abuse). I thought at that point that I was too old and had lost out on too many opportunities to be able to pick up and move on with my life. I couldn't imagine getting into another committed relationship ever again, and even went so far as to plan my suicide. It was bad.

And you know what?

My divorce was about 6 years ago. Here I am, doing better than ever, remarried, with a beautiful son and another baby on the way. I could never have imagined that I would ever have such a happy life, let alone allowed myself to hope or dream that it could be this good.

It does get better, and you can survive this, no matter how messy it may have been. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for. This is a learning experience, one you can ultimately benefit from and use to your advantage in the future. You've got this.

I know your relationship ended a few months ago but as someone who went through a very similar situation and was heartbroken for years, I thought it might be worthwhile to post in case you are still having a rough time. I had been with someone for almost 4 years and I was madly in love with them until they ended our relationship very abruptly. It took me a few years to finally move on and accept the fact that we weren't meant to be together. Even though I believed they were the one at the time, that breakup taught me a lot about myself and now that I look back, I am honestly pretty glad it happened even though it was really painful at first. Don't pressure yourself to fall in love again, take time to know more about yourself, experience new things in life (whatever they might be) and enjoy everything that life has to offer! I believe the best relationships happen when you least expect it, so live your life freely without expecting too much and I'm sure you will eventually meet the person you are meant to be with!

I know it hurts a lot at first as they were a part of you and you certainly had hopes and dreams for the future, but be assured that time will definitely heal your wounds and you will surely encounter new people that will make you feel whole again. ♡

Going through a divorce currently & I have no idea how to even date anymore.