I've had an issue with a long time gaming friend. Long read is going to be long.

I met her a few years ago in a large MMO. And we became instant online buddies. Over the last few months, shes done a lot that has upset me. I've sent over $1k in funds, for items shes been selling, to help her with her medical bills. Its been 2 years since Ive seen any of these items Ive been sending money on. It finally took me pestering her about it, for her to finally send it. This is after Ive watched her send countless other people items. Her excuse for not sending it, was that when she moved, she put the box in storage and lost it. When I did get the products, they were terrible. Crushed, melted, and separated in the bottles. shes also big on saying how shes sending all her friends holiday boxes. She makes a big to-do about it, but then never send anything.

I finally got upset and sort of rambled off at her about how things have been. And then she tells me that shes mad that I got married and that my husband took me away from her. My husband and I still game, and have invited her several times, and she admitted that she didn't want to be the "third wheel".

Lets not talk about how I work at 5am to 4pm job, so my gaming time has also decreased. Because she games a lot from 11pm to 3am, when I am asleep.

"dont get me wrong, im glad you have him, i am very happ, and you are happy. but you and i used to do a lot in game and then you just died. and i honestly felt replaced. "

when I told her that she was wrong for saying something like that, she got defensive.

"I mean, i was no keen on being a third wheel. and then you moved on to other games. "

I lost insterest in that MMO and had moved to another one. One that shes been invited too. And she played mainly while I was at work. And when she was on, and playing, and I was around her, all she did was complain about the game on how it wasnt like the other MMO.

She at one point had added him on all the gaming areas, and she then admitted in our argument that "I see when you two are gaming together so I just dont butt in, I dont want to be that third wheel". Which felt sort of almost "stalker" like to me.

I've had friends leave gaming, have families and kids and I still chat with them. But in no way could I ever tell them "hey your a bad person because you got married and happy and no longer gaming with me." Because thats pretty much how I feel whats being said.

I've talked to my husband about it, which really upset him. Hes gone in and blocked/removed her on all gaming areas, so he can not be seen. and even blocked her on FB. I honestly do not know what to do at this point. Because part of me feels bad, because my life has changed in different ways , while she is at home, 24/7, drawing a disability check and has the "im gonna be single forever" attitude. And Im made to feel like a villain because after gaming 10 years with the same man, we met in person for the first time and fell in love and got married. And now instead of gaming 1000 miles away, we game 10feet away.

Part of me has felt about just splitting away from her. Ghosting and being done with it. When I met her, I got tons of her friends piled on me. Many are close to her as well, so I know if I say something, Its going to cause a large storm, and here lately shes all about drama. Ive thought about talking to some of these people, and being like "this is whats going on, Im more than likely gonna ghost and walk away", because talking to her, Im wrong and shes right. Because I left her in a gaming MMO to be married and happy.

I need some input from people. Because I honestly do not know what to do. Part of me wants to split ways, but when I do, I know its going to cause a lot of grief from other sides as well.

Ghosting is probably the best course of action, but don't tell people that's what you're going to do because that defeats the purpose. People can't start drama if they don't have anything to start it with, and someone naturally distancing themselves is an incredibly boring thing to talk about.

I've been there, and I know there're things you WANT to say to her friends to justify yourself, but they will never take your side (and even the ones that might will pass it on to the ones who won't, and that will create a headache for you when it finally gets back to her.) It seems like it wouldn't be difficult for you to gradually cut her off since your schedules are so different and she's intentionally staying away when your husband's around.

Thank you for the input. I appreciate you giving advise on the matter. Come Monday, Ill start fresh will just ghosting and unfriending. Is probably best at this point.

Again,Thank you. <3 Its been hard, to sit and try to figure out what I need to do, with not many people to speak to on it. Most that I would turn to, are all friends of hers. So its made it extremely more harder to try to get it out there and off my chest.