I'm running on a few years single now. It's not all bad I have my own apartment and a cat, my job keeps me busy. I am pretty much just now starting to feel the affects of being alone. What does one do when their ideal of a good boyfriend would be someone like Danny DeVito? haha sometimes I feel like I should hang around the outside of the animation school on the island and try to pick up voice actors. I feel like I could really be happy if I had another "quite a character" type to spend the rest of my life with.

I kinda feel ya on this. I've been single for a bit and am now wishing to find someone to date.

There's of course online dating, but I'm skeeved out at the prospect of being called names because I can't answer a phone to set up dates or even talk. There's a life outside of the phone or the fact many jobs write up or fire people for non essential phone use.

There's also trying to shop more often at places. Same with signing up for classes or going to events. But the biggest issue is money and ability to have time off to do those things.

Picking someone up at work is an option, but most are already taken. Not to mention how odd it can be if something fails and I don't mean a date or two and seeing if it might work.

So here I sit just going meh

Online dating isn't much of an interest to me I had too many bad brushes with that what I was younger. It's too easy to misrepresent yourself online. We all just want to present the best of ourselves and that not who we'll be most of the time in reality.

I should probably go back to school to be honest. It would be my best bet to meet people around my age and maybe find people with the same mindset. On top of being hopelessly expensive it really makes me nervous. I lost both my best friends to college. They went off and became crazy people I can't even communicate with anymore. I'd like to think it wouldn't happen to me but I'd be a fool to think I'm any better or smarter than any of them; we had all been quite close.

So I sit here, just me and the cat watching old VHS tapes.

I've been browsing and maybe this app could be worth a shot. Bumble. Its co-founded from one person who started tinder so the whole swipe to start talking aspect is there. However females are the ones who open conversations first, cutting out some of the creep factors. It also has a strictly friends function called BFF. This app seems to run off location so people would truly be local to us vs someone many many miles off. The BFF or same sex dating doesn't restrict to girls talking first.

I'm half tempted to try this out. The one down side I saw was if a girl doesn't start a message the match fades off after 24 hours. So if you miss a shot being online for some reason you might miss something as far as dating.

As far as you hitting up school. Is it something you want for yourself? Those types of classes I mean? I ask because I've had friends switch their goals halfway.

And I hear you about representing yourself online. However with me I'm me no matter what. Don't like a thing I'll tell you. Love a food I'll tell you. Feeling down I'll tell you. I only keep stuff to myself that won't matter untill later... Like saying I have a toe nail fungus hahaha what an opening line something like that!

Eh If I had to wait for a woman to talk to me, no one would ever talk to me. so that doesn't sound too great to me.

I'm not really sure what I would take. I should probably go into something practical like wastewater management. We'll always need clean water. I'm pretty smart but i'm also chronically ill so I need to pick something I can still do when I'm in a wheelchair like ten years or so down the road. Or tomorrow if I had an accident. But still something that will always be necessary. But if I don't go back to school I'll be making minimum wage forever.

One of the other weird things I found with online dating is that you don't see the annoying little things people do everyday because no one thinks to talk about them. Nail biting, leaving pubic hair clippings on the toilet, leaving the cap off the toothpaste, putting the milk jug back in emtpy, etc. etc. etc. are all such minor things and usually you discover them as you go but when you date online then suddenly spend a lot of time with someone and all their annoying things come out all at once it can be hard to handle. Very overwhelming in my personally experience.

If only I could find love at school that would be fantastic. I've been single for about 5 years now and went even longer than that before. I've tried everything: open couple, online dating, actual real life dating, speed dating ... I've given up and enjoying my celibate life haha. I'm still in college and unfortunately, my major is 97% made out of girls. It's not that I don't like them, but none of them interest me at all. As for the boys, they are ALREADY dating girls in said major. It's a battlefield. One of the guy even dated over 6 girls from our major. Some of them have kids and I am not able to do that right now. The poll is very small haha.

Would you consider joining group circles (books, games, online playing, fitness or whatever suits your boat)? I've tried that. Met someone that I shortly dated and moved on. I'm really no help but I do hope you'll find someone to share a special bound with.

drop your expectations and be open

I know it's easier than it sounds but we're all guilty of dreaming up our ideal significant other- hell, we even idealize our partners and daydream of situations and scenarios in which they act and react exactly in the way we expect them to. Don't let little things like the annoying things we don't see when we first go on dates with people bother you or serve as an excuse or a hindrance - with the right person, i PROMISE you, these things really don't matter. if these little things about someone irk you this stems from a deeper, more fundamental issue with said person imo

You sound unhappy to me and to me, that is the worst thing in life to be - your happiness is so important. This is your life to live, you only have this life (as far as we know) - what do you have to lose from taking chances and putting yourself out there if not for the sake of happiness?

With that said I don't think going back to school for the sake of meeting new people is the best reason to do so. I myself have graduated a couple months ago and I'm already itching to be back in school because I miss the academic community, I miss being surrounded by intellectuals, having discussions any given day about issues affecting our country, politics, etc. and moving back home and living in suburbia at a job that pays well but requires mindless and repetitive work is quite simply... hell

As for your worries about finding a job that is practical and that is compatible with your chronic illness... I don't know what you struggle with, but I have a friend who struggles with a chronic illness (that affects her physical well being quite significantly) but she has still found fulfillment in life through career and etc.

I know you can too, and I believe in you.

I am not unhappy entirely, and believe me I have plenty of reasons to be, but in generally I manage to find some happiness everyday and that matters a lot to me. I'm happier than I've been in years that is for sure.