So it's been a bit that I broke up with my ex. I kinda feel like I might be ready to start dating again! However also not.

I have plenty of time when I'm off work to go have a dinner or movie or walking in a park with people. Yet I just don't feel motivated to go out to places lately. I'm kinda getting into Diablo 3 again or reading.

My roommate is encouraging me to get into online dating. He says tinder is good? Idk much about dating apps or sites myself. I do like his encouragement and excitement over his somewhat results on tinder. However out of all the match ups he gets it seems within a few days to a week they stop talking with him. And only one has made it over once. So it kinda puts me off to think I might get dropped just as fast as he is if not faster.

I feel torn I want to go on dates and have fun but yet horrified at the prospect of being tossed like trash.

My break up sucked but wasn't the worst ever. So I don't think it's any of that type of stuff. Even my other friends (males included) want me to be happy and encourage me dating but all have said they'd be mad at me if I simply settle for someone like my past experience has been.

So I feel torn.

Why not start slow and try going to community events first? Try a wine/paint night, group nature trail walks, pottery class, book club etc. That way, you'll feel good about getting out and doing stuff, and you may be able to meet a guy/gal in a casual setting who shares a common interest. Don't put pressure on yourself. Even if you don't meet someone special, you could make some good friends or learn a new hobby.

I would have to agree wtih . Take your time and find little things to go out and do. If your into gaming (I havent started the new d3 seasonal yet), try local gaming hang outs or going to conventions.

After my divorce, I lived life for myself. I went out and volunteered for several events. I made lots of friends and dated a gent for a while I had met while doing it. (He moved away). Online dating can be sort of scary. The POF thing was what was popular when I was looking.

Never down yourself for guys who "drops you". At times it has happened to me, I found out some weird stuff later, and normally was glad that the dude just toddled off. Sometimes you are watched over a bit. ^.^