Well.. my alcoholic coworker decided to pick on me in the wee hours this morning, which resulted in a heavy crying spell.

Maybe I'm just a huge cry baby(?), but this is what she said to me

This all came from a recipe I made that didn't work out because the sauce I had made, was absolutely awful. I followed the recipe to a T and yes, I know how to cook.

So.. my summary of all this is: "You are a fat lazy fuck"

I called my mom crying and she said "She's right"

I also just want to state that, hair loss and fungal infections from long term mold exposure is REAL, but apparently, I rely on Google.

No sense complaining to my boss. She whines about this girl not showing up for her shifts, but somehow.. she's still employed and job searching in this city is next to impossible.

P.S. If I'm so lazy... why did I make pancakes for breakfast?

P.P.S

I guess I need to feel validated n.n

Some People can be jerks, pay them no mind.

You wanna see a fat lazy person?

-points to self- Right here.

You are amazing, do not let anyone else try and bring you down. Their life is falling apart and they only feel better making others feel miserable.

Oh, well then! We got ourselves an Expert on Life over here. xD I guess I'm too lazy as well, as I certainly don't cook three meals a day. I don't even necessarily cook three times a week! When I cook, I cook large meals with lots of leftovers. I do a fair amount of microwaving. ("Work smart, not hard"? shrug)

She's clearly talking out of her rear, and likely doesn't know enough about you to judge (even if that was her business, which it really isn't).

As an aside, has she heard of the Spoon Theory? Not everyone can live by her Amazing Rules of Amazingness. There are lots of reasons why.

My question is why are you still talking to this co-worker? She commented using Google, that's quite specific which makes me believe you brought Google up? Unless she's just really random and states things not talked about, idk.

Complaining to jerks like her is a one-way ticket to getting insulted. They thrive off your reaction which could probably be said of your mom as well judging by her reply. I know it's good to commiserate and hear from someone it's not you it's them but being your own spokesperson sounds like your best bet at work.

I've had instances where I wanted to cry over comments made to me at work but had to suck it up. A good way of preventing tears is to try to stimulate your fight or flight sympathetic system by pinching yourself. Adrenaline = less tears. It's saved me many times when I was on the verge of tears.

I know this is probably not the advice/comment you wanted, sorry! There's nothing wrong with being a nice person and sensitive, it's just how we allow ourselves to cope and what that means for our well-being in the longer run. c;

I don't understand why microwaves are the spawn of Satan all of a sudden lmao? You can cook healthy stuff and use a microwave to warm it up.

Obviously, we aren't getting the whole picture. But microwaves aren't a bad thing haha.

you don't see people from the 70s dying from microwave use lmao :P oh how concepts have changed

Thank you guys. You made me feel better already ;o;

I was on Google and it's possible that my hair loss is from the long term mold exposure in my apartment because the pictures on the internet look EXACTLY like my scalp. So I thought "Damn! Maybe it's not psoriasis after all!" and then she commented about Google.

I don't know what the whole microwave thing is about, honestly. I only make potatoes in the microwave (and heat things up) lol

but the best part is? Someone from work tattled on me and told her what I said about her via facebook. She drinks and I called her an alcoholic on FB and yeah.. I guess I work with 12 year olds.

KARMA. I feel good in that aspect because now she knows how I felt.

P.S. She's mean. I'm tired of her walking all over me. I talk to her because I work with her, but clearly.. you can't be friends with everyone. I'm just trying to be nice. She keeps telling me "we'll go for supper" or "to a movie" and then she conveniently makes up an excuse.

OMG. NOT THE RADIATION!

I don't think this person would appreciate you spilling the beans about her private life online. If you don't want the same thing done about you, then you do what you do.

I just think it isn't about the whole microwave thing anymore?

I never broadcasted anything about her seeing him FB. Every one at work knows because he's always showing up bringing her things and she takes a really long lunch when we're only allowed 30min.

The only thing she commented to me was that blurb I put in my first post, but all I'm saying is she boasts about him and she said she doesn't care if she destroys his kids life.

Pretty sure people just generally suck in general, and if they don't they are precious. Kinda difficult to find these days. I'm sorry things have been rough for you I've had a rough few months too, dunno how I'm still alive honestly. PS. Love youu

I've read all the comments up till now and this coworker seems like trash. Her opinion shouldn't be of any value to you.

Listen...I am not going to say this person was right, I don't know you, I don't know what you look like and I certainly do not know your lifestyle, but I will say this. Body shaming is not okay, creating a hostile work environment is not okay, being put down all the time for making a statement, is not okay.

I relied heavily on my mother and fast food, tbh, my mother never taught me how to cook and if we are being BRUTALLY honest, she didn't know how to cook either. I didn't know what real food was until my brother got out of jail and started cooking dinner at home. Now, I am a single mother and I cook...sometimes. Honestly, it all depends on how I am feeling. I just worked a 12 hour shift, then hell no. I don't cook, your right, I go and pick up some McDonalds. No shame.

and as for your mother, are you sure she was agreeing completely with this co worker or was she just saying that you DO rely on her? Also, it is not shameful to rely on your mother...they are your mother. Your supposed to be able to rely on them for things. Its not like this is a contest...this is life. There is no real right way or wrong way to go about things. We all make the same mistakes. Besides...sounds like she might be one of those hamburger helper bitches.

I wouldn't sweat it if I were you. Let that shit just roll off your back. Do you. Don't worry about these hos.

I do rely on my mom, but not every single night of the week. I cook when I want to, or have the money to pick up groceries. Meat is very expensive here and since our minimum wage went up, the price of groceries went up too.

Yes, I'm lazy and I eat take out.

I also need to exercise more.

She was just mad that I called a spade a spade. I do admit that calling her an alcoholic on facebook wasn't nice, but I can't lie that I didn't and she told me "I don't care what people think of me. I'm not an alcoholic. They drink all the time". If she didn't care, why did she feel the need to tell me that? I do know that alcohol dependency is also a thing. They will go without and then hammer it back.

In my honest opinion, drinking is drinking.

P.S. My mom agreed with my coworker that I am fat and lazy. But. Whatever.

Hello my dear friend, I am sorry to hear that those toxic people have filled your head with negativity, Pay them no mind, as you are a wonderful person who deserves happiness. They are in no way judges, and therefore should keep their mouths shut. However, there will always be those that are ignorant, and those that choose to make things worse for people. Have confidence in yourself, and remember that you are amazing regardless of what everyone else says.

Personally, I don't think eating out is evil. As I said, body shaming has to stop. Humanity is diverse, always has been,always will be. I don't think personal and work should be mixed so closely...I always found problems with that when I did it myself. Besides...some people are just drama. If you guys talked about it, then it is between ya'll at that point. No mother should call their kid fat.

I would just stick to myself for a little while. It will die down eventually if it hasn't already.

that work environment is toxic. No one should talk to you that way in a professional setting, period, no matter what you do. I'm sorry that happened to you.