venting about pets. come anyone/everyone and heal
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i want to hear your stories, i want those who lost a pet recently, or a long time ago, to get it all out and feel better. talking about it and crying about it isn't a sign of weakness, i feel like it helps weakness leave the body. sometimes you need a good cry too. and it's surprising, yet morbidly comforting(?) how many people have felt the same pain and care about your pets, and other deep relationships, even though they might not have met them or you. pets i feel are something that binds all of us together on a level you can't physically see. (maybe get some advice too if you need it. i've gotten a lot this past week and a half and have been using all of it to learn and grow as a person and a pet owner.)
feel free to ping, or post without pinging, whatever makes you feel more comfortable. -big hug-
i also wanted to thank everyone who has talked to me up until now FOR ANY REASON WHATSOEVER. some days are a lot harder than others. the easier ones i feel are the ones where i make basic human interaction and even talk about it when i can. distracting myself during the day helps, but when i lay down for the night, i still think about him very much. it'll get easier. it has to.
a handful of people i am thanking from the bottom of my heart. PLEASE, tell me if there's anything i can do for you... i will do my best to do it for you! ❤ -big warm hug-
and to those who didn't know, this is why i've been trash at keeping up with my board and replies (sorry for double pings for some 😣 )
Omg. I read it all and... it was so hard not to cry as I got close to the end of the pics. I really felt like closing the page, but.... uhhh. T_____T Why our little babies have to die so soon!?
I really don't want to talk about my dog because it'll just make me cry more.
I'm sorry for your loss, my dear. I hope you slowly start to feel better.
ALSO, BEGU WAS IMPRESSIVELY CUTE IN A LOT OF THOSE PHOTOS. LOOK AT THIS ONE. OMG. IT'S MY FAVORITE BY FAR.
And shit, I totally need to buy costumes like that astronaut one for my kitties ;3; so qt~~
I am so sorry for your loss. I know the heartbreak of losing fur babies too well. They go to a better place and seeing you, smelling your scent, being close to you, that's always the best thing right before they go. /hug
T_____T im really sorry for your loss... death is imminent in everything on this earth, but still it hits us with a dead crushing weight. please dont blame yourself for his death, as im used to doing as well when something bad happens, because it just happens. youre so strong to be there for your kitty, theres nothing that compares to spending last moments with someone you love, and im sure Begu felt the same. i know it will take a long time to heal from this, and dont force yourself, but please also remember that as much as its important remembering the past, life is worth living for the living.
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Losing a pet is one of the most crushing things to have to deal with EVER. I've had 2 pets who I considered family members pass away. Both times I was just crushed by it. Honestly what put is what I'd have put but worded a million times better than I could hope to. ❤️
The pets: (Spoilers are my old pets)
Ferdy
FERDY - Calico Cat She was my cat I had growing up. I got her as a belated birthday present when I was 5. Named after a fox from a stupidly old Casper cartoon I had on VHS. Still remember getting into the car and suddenly hearing a meow to find her hiding beneath the passenger seat. Sadly I don't think she lived as long of a life as a lot of cats because she had liver failure. She had to be put down at the young age of 9. She was my everything growing up. Unfortunately no pictures since I don't have any of them digitally.
Jimmie
JIMMIE - Golden Retriver Jimmie was a purebred golden retriever I got from my high school friend who bred dogs for free due to his medical issues. He was my first dog. My family and I got him at the age of 5, he was epileptic and needed extra attention to keep him safe. Thankfully he didn't have seizures too often, I was trained how to take care of him properly to ensure he didn't hurt himself. Jimmie was a big baby who just wanted to cuddle and go on adventures. Brought him on camping trips often so he could explore. Unfortunately he was poisoned over a long period of time from the Swiffer wet jet fluid. The study came out after he passed that it was actually toxic to pets cause it would be on the pads of their feet and they would clean it off their paws. There was no warnings anywhere for it, we were so angry. It was awful, we had no idea until we started seeing signs that Jimmie wasn't acting like himself. Anywho, with all the meds he was on for his epilepsy plus the Swiffer poisoning, when his kidneys and liver failed we knew he was going to a better place.
WINSTON - Golden/husky mix Winston is my life and soul. Adopted him for my 25th birthday. He was a rescue dog, his previous owners neglected him and thought he was too stupid to go to the bathroom outside. (Trained him to go potty in his crate!) It's been a long fun trip with my fuzzy bundle of joy, we've been through so many epic moments together and I hope we get to go through many many more! Winston has so much personality and extra to spare. Be careful he'll steal your heart and be your best friend for life!
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- -cliiiiiiing ❤ - I'M SO SORRY!! 9__9 i really don't want to make you cry or anything!!! ❤ 💔 i was crying sooooo much typing out the second half yesterday. each time i talk about it, it does feel easier. not like i'm building up a resistance to all of my feelings with him, but more like accepting how things happened and how they will happen again when the next loved one in my life dies. and i know when something happens to one of your babies, i'll be right here for you and know what you're going through and do what it takes to make you feel better and go through proper grieving.
if i may ask, are you talking about the one that was to move in with you, Roberto, and his mother? or are you talking about a doggy from a while back? 😰
some things feel a lot better, some things feel the same as the day i lost him and a little before that. i really wish i could have found out more about his kidney failure. i swear on my life we don't have plants, but i wonder if it could have been something else in my home. if so i want to expel it from my home at once. if Tetra suffers the same fate i'm going to be beside myself. :/ both cats i love unconditionally, but Tetters is the one who needs my attention always and depends on me more on an hourly basis. since Begu left us, she has been my alarm clock that goes off too early X_X and i know she's lonely with me not here, but i'm not going out as much and i can't get her a new sibling right now. there's so much i have to take care on and when i think about that, that's when the wound feels freshest; i am well aware i'm not done grieving. sure i can laugh, and play, and i'm taking care of myself again, but i still think about him so much and the pain hits me in different frequencies 😢
sorry for that ramble!! 😣 you should!! pets in costumes is the best! ❤ they make amazing photos and memories and experiences when you dress them with someone else! ❤ 😭
I KNOW, RIGHT!?!? (glad you think so too!!) he could be so photogenic and handsome!! 💔 he got ragged on by my family for being so lanky and prepubescent looking, but i thought it was a very unique look, and his face was full of personality. you would have loved him if you ever got the chance to meet him. T_T he always got excited when visitors came over. i honestly think his favorite people, if not my mother, were our friends, Tyler and our one friend Brandon (they both don't like each other, but that's neither here nor there,) Begu seemed to get pretty riled up and rub against them over anyone else. Martez loves Tetra and Tetra is very "overbearing" with Martez for whatever reason so Begu leaves Tetra fans alone ^^; but you know what cats like! i seriously think they both would have jumped up to you and cried for your affection ❤
- than you soooooooo much! =T_T= i hope his last memory wasn't "my momma is panicking, what a wimp." there were a lot of times he acted as though i were bothering him and (i literally take it personally because i care about what cats think about me 😭 ) there was nothing i could do to calm myself down from what we had to do. i don't think his nose was stuffed so just hoping my scent was the last thing he thought of. ok, already wiping tears from my eyes again V_V
btw; i never mentioned this before because i didn't know how to bring it up, but i really like your forum signature. it makes me feel like it's a reminder to yourself every time you post ❤ i can tell your heart is sooooo big and loving and knowing you love animals and have been hurt by your fur babies' passings makes me want to hand deliver you a really warm hug =T_T= it seriously hurts me when i find out you have pain when you are so good to everyone in your life and even are decent to the ones that don't deserve it after how they have treated you ❤ i'm really wishing all the luck and hope for you and your family and what you're worknig on right now in your life ❤ ❤
- i've come to terms with almost everything now just being out of sheer UNLUCKINESS. but the one thing i wish i could get closure on was what it was that potentially poisoned him if it wasn't a house plant... reading super into all the foods and flowers cats can't ingest before i bring a new food into my home and having a no-scraps policy i thought would save him from a fate like this T__T i think i'm thinking about his life just about as much as his final 24 hours. and i think you're right about thinking more on life. i need to find a way to do it because thinking about him growing up fills me with a bittersweet pain, and just thinking about the end makes me feel only bitter besides the fact i did everything i could to send him no his way and the fact that so many people were there for him. i need to crop all the bad thoughts out of him and his passing and the sooner i do it i know the better it will be for me -biiiiig hug- thank you so much for your words ❤ ❤ ❤ and if there's anything you need, i am here for you too! you're always so sweet and not afraid to say HI! i always like seeing you everywhere i do on this site because you're a ray of sunshine that never wants to hurt anybody. we don't know each other well, but you make me feel safe. =VwV=
Here! Have a post! A lot of times if you put things under spoilers or just throw a spoiler in there with nothing in it you can break the character limit. ❤️ AND NOW YOU KNOW! Knowing is half the battle, GI JOE! //let's self out
- OMG THAT WAS CUTE ;3;
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Cyroris - i really REALLY like your post. it made me feel so many emotions! 😭 ❤ (btw, you're adorable and your hair looks so healthy and i'm jelly!)
i've never heard of a pet with the name FERDY before 😊 i love it! ❤ and my heart swelled when i read about the meow behind the seat!! what a wonderful surprise!!! ❤ ❤ 😭 it feels vivid to me too!! T.T double digits seems very normal in a housecat's life so i see how you can feel that way too. i truly believe you loved your kitty soooo much! a first kitty is something so special! ❤ aww, i would have loved to see a picture, but the thing that matters most is that she mattered the most to you growing up! ❤ i hope you are able to see her again, i bet she misses you too after all this time.... =9w9= annnd now i'm crying for your kitty too! it hurts, but it feels good... i really liked reading about them and could feel all the love you had for them!
ohhhhhhhh that looks like a good boy right there!!! 😭 ❤ ❤ that looks like a dog you can pet on the floor for hours and he'd just lay there and love it ❤ those kind of dogs steal my heart HNNG D"x and you and your family put so much effort and love into him! that's absolutely amazing and inspiring! BUT THAT IS SO HORRIBLE ABOUT THE SWIFFER FLUID!! D'8 ngl, i was thinking about getting one for my kitchen because my kitchen is what gets messiest the fastest and the linoleum is light colored and dirties up way too quickly :/ even if they change the formula, i think i want to be safe. that is just super horrible though and cheap! all that effort for something that you wouldn't usually think twice about. and it's obvious you didn't know!! :/ -big hug- i feel like not knowing what it was that killed Begu makes me feel more like it was my fault. honestly, if they knew what it was and told me, and it was something in my home, i would feel a lot worse. it was never ever my intention to hurt him obviously, but when he started to get sick, i wonder if he blamed me. my fiance' says "cats aren't smart enough to think such malice," but i really don't know. i mostly just want him to go down loving me. uggh, part of me thinks it's selfish too for expect an animal to love me if i take care of it and love it first -holds head- ughhhHHH these are the last of my lingering worries, likely caused by my own insecurity... i hope they go away :/ ....and you and your family took such good care of your dog! i hope you don't feel anything bad towards yourself about it anymore if you did :/
-rubs his belly through the screen- ;W; that's a good rescue boy!! ❤ i'm sold on him too!! ;O; and he lives with you currently where you're at right!? get to come home to him every day and he's waiting for you and you guys are together for the whole night? =9w9= no sad things there with you now, right??? he gets all the love in the world and everything's happy!?? i bet he loves you sooooo much! hnnng hapy things make me happy MY POST IS A ROLLER COASTER OF EMOTIONS!!! D':
i have a lot to thank you for too. one of the things i'm best known for (that my offline friends point out to me a lot 😭 ) is that i isolate and tune out to the point where weeks go by and people wonder wtf happen to me. i seriously love my friends and if any one of them needs anything, they have permission to track me down at my home at whatever hours and i'll be there for them and cook them comfort food and do my best to distract them or talk it out with them. i've been off and on a lot this year, but losing my little buddy had me seriously contemplating hiatus again. it's hard to see a point when things look dark, and i know that's when i should be most motivated. but i'll admit i'm stubborn, it's hard, and it hurts like hell emotionally =T___T= i've gotten very used to holing up on my couch and in my room. and i probably would have done that for a good amount of time, but i'm glad you persuaded me to play V3 with you ❤ ❤ ❤ i thought waiting until i felt better would make it more enjoyable but it seriously is what i needed, to play it with someone and watch hope and despair collide (don't mind the cheese! 😭 ) i'm enjoying very much so getting to know you and finding out you're a big sweetheart too! there's so much i want to do for everyone (including you!) to show my appreciation for everything you have done for me! like, it means so much! a lot of times i feel useless, unless there's something in the moment i can quickly and determinedly put together. and i knooow people usually frown over "asking for things" but srsly, i love the honesty and i WANT to do it. even if it's to play a game, need something from an event shop, needing an opinion on something. i don't have a lot of raw talent. money isn't amazing and i wear my flaws on my sleeve, but i'm super devoted and will always stand by my friends 😊 and thank you again! ❤ i'm so happy we started talking ❤ ❤
YOU KEEP CHANGING MY LIFE =;O;=
Haha that was an old picture, I had just cut off 10 inches to donate to kids for a wig.^w^;;
I'm quite sentimental, I still have my cat and Jimmie's old collars. Have them on some of my carefully kept plushies. ❤️ My old cat was a grey cat, white belly and the inside of her legs and had a few large brown spots. c:
YA! Swiffer Wet Jet is bad for pets!! If you have a lot of hard floors, steam mops are better and they last longer. They only use water so they're super safe for pets!
WINSTON! Have more of him! May he fill you with joy! ❤️ Funny enough, he comes in to work with me. So he's never actually by himself unless I go out then it's 4-5 hours at most. I feel awful cause I can't walk well right now due to a pinched nerve/slipped disc, he's not getting the exercise he deserves. BUT YEAH! He's my bestest boy! Always a sucker for belly rubs, and loves being fussed. Also he likes to think he's about a tiny 10lb. dog and wants to sit in your lap, but in reality he's 90 lbs. of pure love lol.
<3 <3 <3 I'm so happy I was able to be there for you to help you get through this rough patch! I'm always around in some way or another. Super hyped to have someone to talk to about Danganronpa LOL. I was worried I'd have nobody to talk to about it. Absolutely love talking to you about your speculations and things, it makes my days so much more enjoyable! That last part goes both ways, if ever there's anything I can do or get for you let me know! Super happy to have met you and become your friend!
No, no. I wasn't talking about one of Roberto's dogs who died this year. I was talking about my only and one dog, Meg, who died last year.
It was a heart attack. It happened very quickly and... eh... better not to talk about this. T_____T It gets me depressed eeeevery time.
Ohhh, I am so sorry for your loss. Losing your pet is like losing a family member.
I'll share the stories of my late-dog, Chili, and my current dog, Jake.
Chili
Chili was a Christmas present when I was in the 3rd grade. I had finally convinced my parents that I was ready to get a dog and my dad actually found her picture online. PetsMart was hosting an adoption event and Chili's shelter was going to make an appearance at it. Dad let me look through the pictures of the dogs, and as soon as I saw Chili, I knew that she was the one. My dad made the call that we were extremely interested in her a few days in advance. December 22nd was the day we drove out to that PetsMart. I'll never forget the moment I first saw her. Although the store was crowded with people for the holidays, our eyes locked and she actually came straight up to me. Definitely one of those love-at-first-sight moments, haha.
I had always dreamed of having a dog to play with, but I quickly found out that Chili's personality didn't fit that. She was so mellow. She had actually been adopted once and returned within the same week for this reason. A family of 6, which included four boys around my age at the time, had adopted her but returned her because she didn't want to play tug-of-war or fetch. They adopted a puppy instead. But I still loved Chili regardless. She was completely content lying next to you and being pet, so that was all good with me.
I wish life was easier for her, but she had a benign tumor. She went through 4 surgeries to get this tumor removed from her front leg, and went through the cone-of-shame 4 times as well. It grew back a 5th time towards the end of her life. However, with her age of 12, recovering from surgery would be too difficult on her. The vet ensured us that she was in no pain from the tumor.
I had gone away for college for her last year of life. I missed her sooo much while I was gone and was always anxious to see her when I returned home to visit. I came home for Thanksgiving and it was rough. Over the night, she had a stroke and the left side of her body was partially paralyzed. After a couple days though, she was all good. But this happened again briefly a couple months later. Again, she recovered.
Then I came home to celebrate both my mom and husband's (boyfriend at the time) birthday. The weekend had ended and it was time for me to go...but I just had this feeling. I hugged her a little longer that evening. I knew very well that that may be the last time I would ever get to see her. Two days later, she passed away.
It was extremely difficult. A few of my relatives had passed away, but at the time I was like 2-4 and the death really didn't pack a punch to me since I was so young. Chili's death was the first painful experience I had ever gone through. I still miss her so much, but it comforts me knowing that she is no longer in pain. Best dog I could ever ask for. Enjoy the picture below of her relaxing on the porch. She loved people-watching.
Chili
Jake
Jake is my current dog. Like Chili, Jake had been adopted but ultimately returned. I'm pretty sure he has some anxiety problems. He is house-trained, but gets really submissive if you bend down to pet him. He often has accidents inside because of this, but he never purposely goes to the bathroom inside on his own. I try to take him outside as often as I can to prevent this from happening.
Anyway, I adopted him when he was about 2 years old. It's hard to believe that he's 5.5 years old already! I've wanted a corgi ever since I was in the 7th grade (no, I never wanted to replace Chili!! Just one day, I wanted a corgi). It wasn't easy convincing my parents to get another dog, but they caved and I'm so happy that they did. Adopting a corgi was a dream come true. He has so much personality and likes to make noises, as if he's trying to talk to you. He simply adores car rides.
Best part? My husband and I just got married this past Saturday, and Jake has officially moved in with the two of us! Now we're a happy family of three ❤ I think it's the herding dog in him, but he loooves to chase you around. If you run away unexpectedly, he will chase you. My husband loves to run away from him lol. He also likes to play hide-and-seek. It's fun to hide, yell his name, and watch him struggle trying to find you!
Jake and his squad
Oh my goodness! Reading about the Swiffer broke my heart! I've never heard of such a thing happening to a pet before. I'm so sorry. But I'm sure you gave Jimmie such a wonderful life! He was such a pretty boy.
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Thank you for that compliment. I really do ❤️ everyday, even if it means heartache at times. I originally had pictures of the furbabies i lost, but within time more were added so i decided to write a simple statement. I miss them all everyday, but i grow to love new furry ones. c:
I'm sure your furbaby had a great past memory. I hope you have a better weekend and that my words and everyone else's here have helped you. ^_^
I'm sorry for your lost pets. They were awesome. It seems they had a good life by you.
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can't get over how happy he looks! ;w; (especially in the first one. LOOK AT HIM. HAVE YOU SEEN HIM!? LOOK AT HIM RADIATE THAT HAPPINESS!!! 😭 😭 ) that's amazing he comes into work with you!! i bet everyone either gets super excited, or lowkey excited. the rare occasion a customer comes in with a service dog, i get so hyped up and tell my coworkers.... and i know i mustn't touch, because that dog is on the job and doing its best T_T -clenches hands into a fist- animals are so amazing!! i'm really sorry about your pinched nerve/slipped disk! that sounds very awful! your pupper still knows hes loved though and i bet he's getting so much care still! ❤ it's so wonderful to hear about how much you care about him! ❤ ❤
(and that's so sweet too; you donating your hair! ❤ 😭 so very kind of you!! )
and heyhey! ❤ Begu's loss is hitting me harder again. :/ sorry for not replying. i've been in my own little world again with all my bad luck. i went to my new doctor last wednesday and got my physical/exams/hpv and tetanus shots. thursday night i came down with fever-like symptoms and didn't feel better until this morning :/ (i read that a fever is a common side affect for both of these shots so fml i had to leave work early friday and call in saturday.) .......so! i've been extra not here mentally 😩 ....and i'm sowwy. and i miss hearing about danganronpa. can i play it later today? 😂
- that first picture is heart melting 😢 i love the little wink she's giving! you both look so happy together!! ok, i thought you were talking about the one of Roberto's dogs. i don't think you ever told me about Meg extensively. regardless, i am so sorry for your loss! 😢 😔 -comforting pats- we'll talk at lot and have a lot of fun this month! ❤ i don't want you sad!!! ❤ ❤ ❤ i want to make you feel better!!!!!
- very much so enjoyed reading about your 2 dogs!! ❤ i can relate with a lot of the feelings you had with your pets, especially Chili (omg Chili is a dog supermodel!! What a captivating looking sweetie! ❤ ) i think you felt very close to Chili to know that. the sixth sense we get with things we care about is very strange. like, how do we just know? i wish you could have been able to be there to send her off, but life doesn't stop for anyone. i hope you don't feel any guilt for not being there. you really do sound like an optimal and loving pet owner and that's all a pet can really ask for! ❤ i'm happy to hear that both of your dogs are so special and important to you! ❤ hehe, corgis are way too adorable for this world but i'm glad the world doesn't have to go without them! 😊 if i never end up getting a single big dog with my dream home, then i do want a corgi myself! (Ein from Cowboy Bebop is what convinced me ❤ ) your current family of 3 sounds like heaven and i hope, when sad things do come up in your home, the love you 3 have for one another will get you through any hardship! ❤ i love hearing real life happy stories, and your life is one of them! 😊
- -hugs back- you are very welcome, deary! 😊 i hope i can be able to do what you do, never forget, but still be open to love. i have been super disconnected to this world since his passing and having him back is all i've been wanting, besides a big house with a sun room for him to lay in :/ and i'm aware that one if these parts is unrealistic now. i'm not ready to open up my heart to a new baby atm. i want to be. but i know my heart doesn't agree yet. searching for a new one and looking at all of the other babies who need love is always one of the most emotionally exhausting things i can do to myself. i can tell you have a lot of inner strength as well and all and all know what must be done. i really aspire to have your strength while keeping a big heart, like you, in my future =9w9=
- -clings to- =T_T= thank you, deary ❤ i hope to skype with you about him soon. ❤ and i want to hear about you as well. i'm counting on you to have better news than me! -lolcryyy-
Aww you're so sweet. ❤️ Things will get better. ^_^
I'm so sorry for everyone's losses in this thread. :( Didn't think I was going to need to talk about losing a pet so soon, but one of my rats passed away just a few days ago.
I miss her terribly. She'd always come up to me and just hold my finger with her two little hands and lick me T-T Unfortunately I could never really get any good pictures of her, but she was white with a black mask and was very soft and friendly.
Coming home to a pet who's passed on is the worst feeling. But I'm going to keep going and not give up on the other pets I have just because of that. It's hard, but Poncho will live in my memory.
This was a good venting thread, thank you <3 I hope everyone's doing all right with their losses... it's made me realize that pets are so worth it, though. All the joy they give us is what makes the hardest parts still worth it.
A Russian Bluuuuuue! He looks so much like my own, Emma. She's only about 5 or 6 years old now, but I'm already dreading the day she's gone. She's the best friend I've ever had. She's family. I love her so much. I have another cat too, Holly, and I love her as well, but Emma and I have a special bond. I almost lost her when she was just about 6 months old; found out she's vaccine-allergic the hard way. I had to rush her back to the vet and leave her there for a few hours while they got her stabilized. I know she knew that she almost died too, because when she came home from the vet, she was never far away from me and she's still by my side all the time when I'm home.
first and foremost, let me say that i am SO SO sorry for your loss. ❤
i know the feeling, i just lost my cat calvin, who was nothing short of my entire world. i've been in a weird funk the past few weeks and it's been extremely hard on me.
one thing that definitely helped me out though was i bought a personalized keychain and a personalized pillow with my favorite pictures of him on it. ❤
if you ever need someone to talk to, i'm here for you. i know our babies are up there playing around and getting into trouble together! :')
i'm sorry. i can't stop crying i'm just gonna xpost from my ig
i’ll miss you, sweetheart. 10 years ago we were bringing you home from a breeder in mayo, fl and you were just a little pup. on the way home, you would cry unless i took you from the carrier and held you in my lap. i remember shadow didn’t like you very much at first, and frankly, i don’t think she ever got to like you entirely, but now she wonders where you are. i can’t believe you’re gone, but i’ll never forget my ni’say. you did not die. 11062017
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