I'm having an AHA moment right now and I kinda feel sick to my stomach.

I've never been in a relationship ever before nor have I been intimate with anyone however I've been on dates and the likes but nothing too much. Now, I met someone who I agreed to go out with for just a day, just to see where it goes. And as early as now, he's already implying we'll be close by the end of the day and that we might be together after that day and I'm like.. Umm.. No?

So now, from his messages, I can already see he's not the type to wait and I'm not like that.. I think.

I'm imagining holding hands and cuddling and hugging are all really lovely..

But thinking about sex about me and someone else makes me wanna throw up. And it's not even the sex I feel bad about, it's the me part.

Please, understand that this is new to me and I don't know.. Is anybody like this too? Or maybe my nerves are acting up since this is something I've never experienced before?

Please don't worry about labels (heterosexual/homosexual/bi/pan/wtv). Just go with what you feel like, because labels can change throughout your life. I used to believe I was gay because I never felt attraction towards guys. Only girls. Even still I rarely have sexual feelings for guys, (and still get turned on by girls) but once I opened my mind to relationships I became very infatuated with one guy when I was 20. I lost my virginity to him 2 years later and I regret it, because he didn't have feelings for me and completely broke my heart after a little over a year of having sex with him, having never being given a chance at a relationship and being rejected a lot of the time (but not ALL the time, yay mind games).

Now, the thought of being with anyone else doesn't make me want to throw up, but it's very, very unappealing to me. Even if I can look at a person and be like "yeah, they're pretty attractive" I don't actually want to get in their pants or cuddle, you know? I just don't get anything out of it. It may change in a few years if I fall in love with another person, but if I were in your situation, where I'm basically "just seeing how it goes" no way in hell would I feel sexual feelings for someone that quickly, and especially not with a guy who's overly eager like that, to me that's a real turn off. I personally don't feel like having sex unless I love the person, and I would say wait until you fall in love but sometimes that's dangerous because they can just take advantage of you if you just jump right in.

If you don't like it right now then you don't like it right now. Don't TRY to like it, don't rush it (even if you really like the person) and be careful not to lead anybody on (VERY easy to do if you're "trying" something). Always, always, always make sure to communicate how you feel to the person you're going out with. There's nothing wrong with not feeling like it, just be happy single and focus on yourself and what makes you happy. If people want to get with you and you're not sure/don't feel like it, learn how to express yourself and say no, annnd avoid drinking around people you like and around people who like you if you're not ready for sex, and try to establish a decent friendship with whoever you do like before having sex with them so they don't break your heart so easily.

I feel that way too. I question the sanity of others who go into this almost blindly. Though my stand is based on fractured views, along with schizophrenia. I don't understand why anyone would want anything to do with me, I ask "What's wrong with them?"

At this point, its less than dead last on my priorities. I've made no effort...

Thank you for sharing and for the advice! I'm shutting him down as early as now. He's making a deal with me something about dating via mountain climbing and take note that I don't know this guy! I have met him once 5 years ago and he's only started talking to me the day I posted this thread. I feel like he won't listen to what I say anyway, based on the flow of our conversation and I'm a pretty opinionated and head strong person but I am also someone who's very careful with words as I would hate to make him feel bad or something. I'm trying to write that rejection message now.

Thank you so much again for taking the time reading this. I may not know now for sure if I am asexual or not but time will tell I guess. I'm single now and well, very happy actually cause I like keeping to myself playing online, reading manga, watching shows and drawing on my free time.

Asexuality is, like everything else, very fluid. Keep in mind, sexuality and attraction typically are considered two different things - for instance, I'm personally panromantic asexual. Panromantic means that there's the chance of romantic feelings (built up, obviously) towards anyone of any gender. Where (actual) sex is concerned for me, that's a no go.

You can be sex-positive, sex-neutral or sex-negative asexual and still fall under it, You can be demisexual which falls under asexuality where you have to be in a relationship for a long time and get that emotional attachment/connection built up. There's no wrong way to be asexual. You can have sex and still be asexual, you can never have sex and be asexual, it doesn't matter. It's how you feel on the matter. That's what's important.