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Jun 17, 2017 8 years ago
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That's very good you are seeking counseling for this because it looks like there isn't many family members to turn to for this problem. I'm sorry not many people are seeing the issue, but maybe they are and they are turning a blind eye because you know.. it's family. Maybe once you get far enough in counseling you can have your mom joy you to express your thoughts. I do hope the best for you, and I would avoid your uncles and aunts for now till your therapist thinks it's okay.

Jun 17, 2017 8 years ago
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I'm not seeking therapy for this issue.. I'd like counseling in general. I think everyone is against me. You know, I'm not innocent either. I think dirty and talk dirty.

My mom had a bag to drop off at my Aunt's and Uncles and when we showed up, Uncle R only spoke to my mom. Didn't look at me, didn't say hi to me or ask me how I was doing.

Uncle R said to me one time "I'm watching Uncle J and if it gets out of hand, I'll let him know".

Uncle J even drove home drunk once.


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Jun 18, 2017 8 years ago
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Eh, I mean, you did make a mistake but it's not fair how your family is treating you. It sounds like they're treating you like the bad guy, when your uncle was the one who acted inappropriately first. It's definitely a good idea to avoid them if you can. In the future, you probably want to just ignore and get away instead of trying to confront them (like by trying to "give him a taste of his own medicine" - bad idea, as you've seen) People like that don't get hints, they don't get it if you try to treat them the same way, so it's best to just stay as far away as possible.

I get the feeling of "everyone is against me", I mean your family definitely doesn't sound supportive. You sound like you need some supportive friends in your life. Do you have anyone where you live, or do you think you could try and meet people somewhere? It's definitely tough if you're forced to go through everything alone.

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Jun 18, 2017 8 years ago
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All the friends I did have (I made in college) and I found out they were losers. I ditched them all. I have a hard time making and keeping friends. It's also mostly due to the fact that I do not like 98% of people.

My mom has the "If a girl is barely wearing clothes, she's asking for it and it's her fault that she gets raped". She told me it's my fault what happened to me in 2009. This is why I have decided I can't talk to my mom. She wouldn't believe me anyway....


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Jun 18, 2017 8 years ago
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Yeah I totally understand that. She has a terrible attitude so I don't blame you for not trusting her. Do you have a plan for moving out/getting away from your family? I feel like your mental health would improve a lot just by not having to deal with them anymore.

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Jun 18, 2017 8 years ago
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I don't live with my parents lol. I've been on my own for 8 years.

I'd actually like to move out of the city, but it takes money to do that. My parent's are "ok" for the most part, except for the days where they really piss me off and that turns into "I hate your living guts" until I get out of the depression mode (if I'm in one). I'm closer to my mom than my dad. He was never there for us or did anything with us. He'd rather work than get to know his kids. It's still like that today.


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Jun 18, 2017 8 years ago
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Oh lol I thought you lived with them cuz you interact with them so much and talk about relying on them for transportation. If you live in a city I'm surprised you have issues with that tbh, most cities have really good public transportation. And depending on where you live there might be stores and stuff within walking distance that are good.

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Jul 22, 2017 8 years ago
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I would just confront them all and be like first off uncle j was being inappropriate making me uncomfortable talking about weird shis so I gave him a dose of how hes making me feel uncomfortable so don't treat me like I am some kind of weirdo maybe uncle j needs to go seek mental help, lol it might make it worse but at least you can let them know they are the delusional ones and they shouldn't drink so much because it toxic ;P maybe not even be around that uncle j though he sounds like trouble to be alone around if hes talking about having kids with relatives who knows what he would do.

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