I'm probably going to come out soon (with a bit of luck before next year) to my second oldest sister first since she's probably the only one to be 100% fine with it. Also I'll be doing it over text because once I tried coming out to my doctor and I cried like a bitch (also, the doctor was NOT helpful so yay me) and text is just easier to ignore if things go... wrong. I'm 24 (25 soon) and I'm super nervous about this because idk what I'm doing.

I once tried coming out to my mother and she thought it was a joke. Then when I told it's not she said "sure you're not just a butch lesbian?" and just kept asking that. So That got dropped. So for her this would be the second time I'm trying to come out but anyway this is getting confusing. Anyone have tips or advice?

Most importantly, do your best to remember that if your family refuses to accept you, that is absolutely their fault, not a reflection on you. You are trusting them with a very personal and important revelation about yourself and they are the ones choosing to disbelieve or mock that.

If you don't want to deal with the reactions immediately after you send the text, it's ok to turn your phone off and go do something else until you feel mentally prepared to read that. Coming out can be very stressful and there's nothing wrong with wanting to be in a good mental space before you deal with the responses.

Lastly, I don't know if this will apply to your situation, but if you're still dependent on your family (for housing, money, etc) and you're concerned that you might lose those if you come out to them, do your best to have a backup plan: A place you can stay, savings in the bank, etc.

Especially if you're relatively independent, don't overstress about coming out, imo. (Bear in mind, I'm coming from a non-binary perspective with some dysphoria) Being misgendered/deadnamed sends shivers down my spine, but I've found something out: even if you don't 'come out', if you start living as "you", it becomes a lot easier to get people to use the right name/pronouns and treat you the way you'd prefer. I'm no stranger to the 'lol cool phase bro' response, and honestly I gave up 'coming out' as both nb and gay, and just started um, being those things. Have self-confidence, you're valid.

A binder, for instance, would be a good step one if you don't have one already. Cis people need visual aides, apparently. (I recommend GC2B) HRT (if you're going to do that); if that doctor wasn't helpful, there are usually LGBT centers or at least websites with resources near(ish) you to try and find someone who WILL help. If you have the spare cash, there are dozens of trans-helpful items such as packers or stand-to-pee devices. And get yourself some boxers, if you're that kinda guy, a haircut, whatever makes you feel more in line with your gender.

I dunno if any of that is helpful (or if these are already things checked off on your list), but seriously; feel valid in yourself, validation from others sometimes comes slower.