There's lots of people like this. Most don't bother me. I mean, what do you expect lol? Some people are just like that. You deal with them and move on. But...there's one type that bothers me, really bothers me. It's those people who've been through...I'm sorry -"hard times". Not the people actually going through bad stuff, no, I don't care if they're focused on their own problems and only want to discuss those. That's understandable. I mean the people who will bring up things from 4 years ago, and be like "this really hurt me" when it's like a splinter compared to an axe wound. I know you're not supposed to judge how hard something is for someone, but when you've been through a hell of a lot of stuff, it's quite hard not to judge people for stuff like this. There's this girl I met on tumblr; let's call her Alice(idek what her actual name is tbh lol). Alice and I have followed each other for a few years, and she's now going to be attending the same college I've been going to come next fall. So she's been talking to me about school, herself, yadayada. Before she's brought up the whole "hs was hard for me" and i was like okay I don't want to talk about this bc she /sounds/ like she just wants to talk about herself. I averted the topic. Last night she did it again, so I asked her why it was hard for her. She goes on to tell me this story about how freshman year some friends were mean to her and abandoned her, and I know being alone sucks, okay, I'm not saying it doesn't but it was only freshman year. She describes the rest of her years as unnecessary -meaning nothing bad happens- but still carries this ugh my life is so sad aura. So I'm like, okay -you know what, fine. I don't like discussing my hs/middle school years, but, she's kind of annoying me. So I respond with a vague idea of what happened to me. I wanted to test if she'd ignore it or brush it off, to prove that she didn't care what I said or think. Basically like "I had a lot of bad family stuff in hs and middle school, and although coming to college took away the source of it all I'm still dealing with the aftermath". I didn't think it was too heavy, dramatic, ohmygodhowdoireply -I mean, was it? I just wanted to give the idea -yeah I've been through stuff, too, and still am. She doesn't respond. UNTIL, of course, she wants to talk about college. She completely ignores what I said. And I don't think it's a problem with what I said, I think it's just her attitude of wanting attention for her "hellish" problems. Maybe I'm being petty. I don't know. It truly bothers me when people are like that though, like they want a prize for being ohsosad~. I've basically just been ranting in this post, but...anyone else have similar experiences? Rant about it here, respond with other stories or insights on mine or just why people can be that way. Because how I see it, they don't care how you feel or are, they just want to talk about themselves. I don't know. Let's discuss it lol!

Well, I tend to go somewhat easy on people when they seem to overstate their life problems, the reason for that is... People have different life experiences (obviously) and something that seems little to you may be one of the worst experiences they have had in life so far, and maybe it is genuinely stressful. Now, we tend to look down on such people, but how they have gone through life isn't their fault, since that's all due to chance. Lots of younger people have had less time to have really bad experiences, but they seem dramatic because their lives are changing drastically as are their very own brains and hormones. They're going through their firsts.

Another thing, look at rich people, see how they go through life and how unhappy they can be, they just haven't had the truly bad experiences, and likewise people who live in the first world in general have it so good compared to people in impoverished countries. There's always someone who has it worse than you, should you just shut up and be happy all the time? If you complain, should somebody who has had it worse just roll their eyes at you and be condescending, or even have some sort of misery contest with you? Does it really make you feel better to know the person you're talking to has bigger problems? I say no, because being happy all the time is simply impossible, and belittling people doesn't help anyone.

Another thing is that some people maybe more hardwired to look at things negatively and dwell/ruminate on things, in fact, a lot of people who do that are people who have had really bad life experiences, or they've been cooped up inside too long. People with a history of abuse often develop anxiety problems and get upset over things that, compared to what they've been through, are relatively minor issues. Plus seemingly small things can have bigger hidden meanings that attack people's insecurities. Somebody insult you? Well, maybe you really are a worthless piece of shit, says your inner critic.

I've been the listener plenty of times, and I've been the complainer. I try to be less of the latter and I try to be a nice person by trying to be good at being the former. I rarely offer advice because I know people hardly take it, people will feel the way they do regardless of what you say, often people in a negative mindset are self-absorbed in a self-harming way and can't get out of it. They need to try some more positive introspecting, which requires a certain motivation and I myself have no idea how to get people to do that and often can't get myself to do it, I wish I did. I don't blame people for wanting attention though they need to be made aware of the fact that that they are attention-seeking.

From the sounds of it, she's one of the ones that has been cooped up too long, it is a little odd and I don't blame you for being annoyed. It sucks when people's​ experiences isn't the problem as much as it is their dwelling on the topic.

Also, since she didn't listen to you, I'd just like to say sorry for whatever hardships you have gone through. Hope things are going well for you now.