Okay...so this is like really random.. (& sorry mods if I put this in the wrong section of chit chat-it seemed like advice? Or an issue)

But I was watching Jeff Jeffries (I think latest) comedy special on Netflix ...

And in this special he rates his appearance on a scale of 1-10...

And goes on and on about how most of us are 4,5, or 6 -average - & how seeing a "1" is a rare thing out in public (because usually you only see them on route to the doctors-air lifted out of their house or car) but a disturbing thing- how it ruins your whole day- makes you physically sick-you lose your lunch are distracted at work..etc etc..

And it just got me thinking.. Holy #%@$ am I a 1? (Blink blink)

Let me explain.. I'm waiting to have another heart surgery... & am kinda skinny & odd looking because of it

& I fit this bill of usually only leaving home to run errands, or go to pt (physical therapy) or to doctors appointments..

So do me a solid Solve my problem Satiate my curiosity

Take a look at my recent pictures (hospital selfies lol -only a few months old. Not much has changed. Hair is a little longer and redder) and grade me please lol ;)

Be totally honest Rate me 1-10 You won't hurt my feelings (I mean unless you want to call me names or something. Don't take it to a prick level ok lol)

I'm surrounded by loved ones who lie to me and say I'm a 10 ;) (Which I know I'm not)

I'm just curious if I'm making anyone lose their lunch (like Jeff jefferies said) If I'm some hideous sea creature that's walking around thinking they are a 5 when their a 1

Thanks! If you want I'll return the favor & rate you too :) (Not that any of this matters because inner beauty is more important but you know)

Dude, you're totally a 5! I think you're adorable ^^

I thought 1-10 is 1 being ugly and 10 being the upmost attractive? I personally think most people are a 5 (normal).

How can beauty be measured tho. What are numbers compared to beauty. What's beauty.

I rate F for fabulous. Nice eyeballs tho!

Okay, I'm gonna be brutally honest here.

You look perfectly fine. Maybe those photos are just flattering, but like, you look 100% fine to me. In fact, I'd rate you higher than a 5. I would rate you a 7 or 8 based on these photos. You're really pretty, in my opinion. You're not pretty enough that you'd stand out in a crowd. But you look very much like a "normal" person, maybe even slightly above average.

I wanna see pics of your current hair, I'm very curious about what it looks like "redder" because in these photos it's very dark. Also because I also have black hair which I've dyed red, so I'm curious if yours looks like mine...

I do want to comment however on the idea that seeing a "1" in public is "a disturbing thing- how it ruins your whole day- makes you physically sick-you lose your lunch are distracted at work..etc etc.."

I don't think anybody's physical appearance could make me react in that way, no matter how deformed they might be, or how ugly I secretly think they are. It would ruin my day to see someone get badly hurt, but somebody being very ugly would not ruin my day. I wouldn't want to be around anyone who finds your physical appearance THAT important :/

Like you said, "inner beauty" and all :)

You are totes adorbs. Like seriously. I don't think appearance can really be quantified but maybe a 7 or 8 as was said above? Just know you're lovely and no one would look at you and be all "ew." ;u; Plus, inner beauty > outer beauty

Also, I think you look a little like a cross between Charlotte Ritchie and Phoebe Waller-Bridge.

I totally understand the worry of grossing people out via your appearance, though. I supposedly have Body Dysmorphic Disorder and when I look in the mirror I pretty much see a deformed human being. :/

If it's not tooooooo much to ask, could you and anyone else be super brutally honest and rate me, too? Ugh I feel like I seem vain right now, but I look in the mirror and see horrible things and I want a ton of plastic surgery and it drives me nuts (don't worry, I'm in therapy!). I have pictures on my instagram here. >>

- awww thank you (cuddles)! It is so nice of you to say I am adorable..hehe blush. Phew! Deep breath. That makes me feel a bit better.

(& yes that's exactly how I was thinking of it..10 like full on distractingly gorgeous-like those nymphs from Greek myth that make you go blind hehe, and 1 being like "oh that unfortunate creature -pat pat")

I'm so glad to know I would not make you sick to your stomach if you passed me in the supermarket or sat next to me in the waiting room...I don't know why...but with this new body of mine (losing 30 + pounds due to illness -being 5'7'' and 90 pounds) I'm sensitive to like freaking people out...

Probably because I've had family say I don't look like myself.. (My grandfather served in ww2 and he said, I kid you not, that I look as thin as people he "liberated" from internment camps! Yikes. Makes a girl think ya know)

I appreciate you stopping in and giving your two cents and placating my neurosis-blush...

~ very true very true..as Margaret Wolfe Hungerford said beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder...

but I thank you for your grade of "F" (only F I've ever been happy to get) and will wear it proudly :)

You get a "S rank" grade for super sweet (I've been playing a lot of video games lately) -thank you for indulging me and stopping in...

Oh & Thank you for the eyeball compliment lol ? I can honestly say that's a part of me that has never been complimented before...

- thank you dear for not only being "brutally honest" ( I appreciate it- that's totally what I want) but for bumping me up to a 7 or 8 just on some random hospital selfies (totally not flattering or my best photos by any means. One of those -run a brush thru your hair, put on some blush and mascara and fly out the door so your not late for your appointment- I have a bad habit of sleeping thru my alarm because they work me so hard in physical therapy lol..I'm the queen of abusing the snooze alarm. Drives my spouse crazy..hehe)

Blush...hugs. & I know it wasn't the point of this board but (I wasn't like "hey say nice things about me and cheer me up.." it was more "hey let me know if I have to drown myself in clothes and cover my face in a hoodie so I don't scare children" lol) You really made me feel better about this new odd body of mine I find myself in. (It's a strange sensation to see yourself in your brain one way then catch yourself in a mirror and be like "who is that girl? I don't know her")

And I totally agree- I never see someone and am like...well there goes my lunch..I'm disgusted..I more just feel incredible sympathy for them and want to cuddle them lol- and then have to resist the urge to stare at them -smiling at them like a crazy person..

But...I figured that I was an oddity with that...that it was because I have disabilities (my 3 genetic disorders just affect the inside..not the outside so people can never tell and think I'm "normal". Well ok that's not entirely true.

I have something called Ehler Danlos-it's a connective tissue disorder- and people that have it usually have really pale skin that's soft to the touch like velvet, and long limbs with slender fingers & were double jointed- very flexible. So traits that a lot of people find endearing or attractive..in fact all my spouses first compliments to me were just pretty much saying "I love your disease" lol..I was like their in love with my illness not me)

So that because I'm disabled I don't view people with "odd appearances" in a poor light...they are like "my people"-but it's good to know your like that too :) hug! & I agree..I don't know if I would want to be close friends with someone who was really wrapped up in appearances.

P.s. My new hair color is similar in color to /32902708572/in/dateposted-public/">Tori Amos here (I even went out and bought similar glasses. Gah! I love her style..and music)

But I still have it shaved on one side and curled

During the war in 1939 (I should've just said WWII) people were so thin, it was reported that they were literally nothing but skin and protruding bones and sunken eyes and cheek bones.

You don't look like that at all <3

P.S. But, we want to see that new picture XD

you're actually pretty cute, solid 7. ;)

Necro'd thread.