My bf is very nice to everyone in general, but it's also lead to people taking advantage of his kindness or him hanging around people that are just toxic. I usually call out BS when I see it happening, but hes always giving the benefit of the doubt. Normally I end up being right in those situations, and I'll always warn/tell him what I've observed but he ends up learning the hard way and gets hurt by these people. This has happened more than once, and we both know that we can both be around whoever we choose to and still respect each other. Ngl, I'm pretty tired of the same thing happening, and these same people who take advantage of him are always around us by association of other people. I can act civil in social outings, but I get so angry at even the sight of them. I've literally blocked them on everything like social media, phone, etc. My bf and I are comfortable with confronting each other about this sort of stuff, and I've straight up told him I don't like certain people, and would cut them out of my life. Just want to say, I'm very forgiving so for me to hate someone takes a lot.

TLDR: My bf is too nice and a lot of people that ended up befriending him are well... terrible. (though not all of them are like that)

How do you guys deal with it when your S/O is super nice to everyone, and you end up not liking some people he/she meets?

I use to fall victim to this quite a lot, and it would always suck when things would come back and bite me in the butt for it. The one thing that deterred me from continuing down that path was me realizing that it was actually doing damage to my personal well-being, and actually having a negative impact on my own personal life.

It can be quite hard especially when all you want to do is treat people kindly, and show them compassion. Unfortunately, these are the kinds of things that we are forced to look at within ourselves, it isn't really something that anyone else can help with (In my opinion) I have had multiple people, even my own S/O tell me that people are treating me bad, and to cut them out, but I use to not be able to because to me that was too much like giving up on the person,a nd I never wanted to be associated with giving up on any one.

There will always be toxic people in people's lives, but until your S/O can see that toxicity for himself, and is willing to take steps to change it, I don't know what else can be done. As far as what you can do, maybe try talking to him about all the ways these things are negatively impacting him, or you for that matter, and see if anything comes from that. I do hope this helps, I am not the best with advice, but I try ^^;.

I agree with the previous poster. Even though you know this isn't good for your bf, it's really something he has to figure out for himself. I would just continue to warn him if you see a problem, but ultimately it's his decision in the end. But, you also have a choice who you want to associate with, so you're absolutely free to not talk to these people. I just recommend respecting his choice if he wants to associate with them.

I had a situation where my then bf had a long-time friend who had been away and moved back to the area. They started hanging out again. She was manipulative and constantly abusing his generosity, and I mentioned a few red flags I saw to him. Although I didn't really like her, I tried to be cordial at least since I knew that she and my bf had been "friends" for a long time. In the end, my bf ended up cheating on me with her even though she was also in a relationship at the time. It honestly meant nothing to her and she just did it because she could and she liked causing chaos. We broke up over it, but he quickly realized afterwards that she was untrustworthy and as far as I know, they no longer talk.

So, even though it wasn't the happiest ending, I think we both ended up better off. He's learned a little bit about choosing who his friends are more carefully and I'm in a much happier relationship now.

Sorry I can't give better advice, but some things can't be taught to others. Hope that helped a little.

You have to trust him - and in fault - only he will be able to make a change. You can say what you want and so forth, but only he can make the first step into seeing this for himself.

You can always talk to him, but he has to listen.

I agree with both Darkness and windsinger. It's unfortunate, but you have already done your part trying to help him, but you can't actually help him if he doesn't help himself. If you find a way to deal with this so that his actions won't hurt you by association, then I guess you both are fine even if he takes more time to change or doesn't change this at all.

But, if you can't let go of this problem, then something has to change. Though that's for later. I hope things have been going fine!