I love my bf, and we are currently going 3 years strong. We've had our ups and downs and we are honest with each other. I've straight up told him I dislike some of his friends mainly because they were liars and treated their gf's like trash and were very manipulative. I can't condone being friends with people who don't see what's wrong with their actions. Their actions have cost so much damage to the point were one of my friends attempted suicide twice. There was once another situation were two of his friends broke up with their gfs at the SAME TIME. Like they literally couldn't make a decision without their 'bro' helping making the decision. I wanted to speak up about the issue because things were getting worse, no one was doing anything, and people were calling out for help. His other friends who weren't directly involved tried to shut me up because they thought it wasn't my place to say anything. I felt pretty hurt, I was trying to defend my friends but others were telling me I'd look like the villain, but I didn't care. I didn't feel that my reputation mattered if someone close to me felt the need to remove her self from the world because she felt that she never mattered due to a manipulative and cheating bf. I wouldn't feel the need to do anything and let them handle it if they actually DID SOMETHING about it.

Sorry if none if this made sense, I'm kinda just ranting about an experience that crossed my mind. My bf doesn't isn't really close to these people anymore, but he's just so genuinely kind to everyone and well, I'm really blunt lol. Though, I'm also very forgiving. But just the fact they didn't own up to anything really bothered me.

He'll still be nice to them, but I'm more guarded and I choose not to associate with them. Even till this day, they pretty much got away with all that bs.

Don't get me wrong though, who he hangs out with is his choice, I have NEVER told him who he should and shouldn't hang around.

TLDR: My bf has the most drama-causing group of friends I've ever had to deal with. Personally, my personal friends never have this kind of problem jfc.

Have you guys had any problems with your partner and his/her friends?

Yes, definitly. My ex boyfriend had one friend who was the biggest dick in the world and he totally hates me from the very first time. I don't even talk to him before and I don't think he heard of me before. So I treat him with humor and the same snarky tone. I could live with that and he also, but I don't know how he treats other woman.

My current boyfriend has some strange friends, one of them cheats on every girlfriend. I said to him that I dislike that and that he should maybe find an open relationship. He didn't of course, because he don't want his girlfriend fuck with someone else. Even if he cheated he was also a loyal friend, so I didn't hate him or something and I think that his relationship it's not my battle and I shouldn't treat him bad because of this. Another friend of my bf was an asshole, I told him that and my boyfriend. His friend was still always nice to me, but I don't want him in my home or visit him. He had self-referred personality and one time he try to punch my boyfriend as he want to protect another friend. After this we ignore him together.

It's something different that your friend get involved with his friends. The best desicion would be totally ignore him. I know that my boyfriend hate two friends of me and I understand the reason, but sometimes your love your friend despite their shitty behavior. You should get a distance from them and try to respect that your boyfriend is still talk nice to them. I mean it's a nice site of him, if he is kind enough.

So sorry for my english. I hope you understand me anyway.

Yes and no... My issues aren't as big as yours. I probably just lack the patience. My current BF's friends are all very nice intelligent people. They're all just very neurotic. Everyone is extra sensitive, manic, and have a lot of difficulty being outside of their very small comfort zone. I even had some minor difficulty with my boyfriend at first, who was very wary or trying new things and being bold. Luckily he's grown out of it for the most part.

I can spend time with his friends, but sometimes having to listen to the things that they can't handle makes me bite my tongue really hard. It kind of comes off as a large self-pity circle jerk sometimes. I've learned to just keep quiet about it an not try to form more than friendly bonds with them.

I like all of my boyfriend's friends...except his best friend. We were all buddies for a long time but then all three of us became roommates for 2 years and things were ROUGH for the last year. We had completely different living styles and I was so stressed out by him. Slob, loud, passive aggressive, etc. When he finally moved out I was so happy. Things between my boyfriend and me are better, but I haven't spoken to his friend since then.

I've definitely never been in a situation that is exactly like that, but I definitely dislike some of my husband's friends. He has one friend in particular who is one of the rudest, most annoying people I have ever met. If he thinks you're wrong about something, he'll argue and be a huge ass about it, and then talk your ear off trying to prove that he's right, and he is super competitive and just obnoxious. I haven't liked him since the first time I met him, and I choose not to hang out with him, but it hasn't had a huge negative impact on my relationship with my husband or anything like that, other than him being kind of annoyed that I don't want this dude coming over while I'm home because he annoys the hell out of me.

No, they are okay. Some friends of my boy friend are more interesting to talk and going on with, others less, but also they who are not so interesting for me and I'm not for them, are still fine and okay. I'm lucky I've no trouble with his friends.

I believe in general, it's frustrating and even in very bad cases, a reason to end the relation when your partner cares more about his/her friends you can't not match with.

A friend of your partner who hates you and your partner doesn't support you and doesn't comes up for you, is a reason to brake the relation.

My friends don't need to love him so much as I do, but they must also handle my boy friend with respect.

Yes I do! They are a bit immature, but I guess that's just because of how some people are in their personalities. I have some immature friends as well. So I can't really judge! I've made friends with some of his friends as well!

I wouldn't say that I dislike them, but there are definitely days where I am not up for socializing with them. At this point, they're my friends too, but I often just need a lot of personal space and less social interaction.

I've only met a few of my boyfriend's friends. One of them is a total creep and ended up stalking me online and doing really creepy stuff. I made sure he knew I didn't want him anywhere near me... Some of his other friends are pretty immature as well. It's difficult for me to explain, but I'm in that "grey area" where I don't dislike them but I don't exactly... like them, either..

I'm glad this thread exists because there are a few of my partner's friends whom I'm not a big fan of, and I didn't know so many other couples deal with this.

Overall I enjoy my partner's friends but there are a few that I just don't connect with. Some are very irresponsible and immature and it rubs me the wrong way. I stay friendly and respectful but honestly, if we didn't have a mutual, I probably would never have engaged with them.

mentioned a "gray area" in which you don't dislike them but also don't exactly like them... That explains it very well.

I guess I'm in the minority, I actually really like most of my boyfriend's friends :v his best friend's girlfriend and I have really bonded in particular. His female friends that he met in college have all been really nice to me too. It probably helps that I live 2 hours away so I only get to see his friends every once in a while and he doesn't really have a clique-y friend group. His coworkers on the other hand...

I'm really lucky, I love my wife's friends to the point that I consider her best friend a sister to me. Most of the friends we make, we tend to make as a couple since people uniformly always get along with both of us.

I like her friends since some are mine as well, but I really dislike two of them. One is because they are not a good influence for her. The other one is because they don't know their place (also I know this person was a past crush from her... probably normal to dislike this person though (?))

Welcome to adulthood. I don't like most of my husband's friends, he doesn't like most of mine.

I'm lucky enough that I've found my exes in my friend groups, so we always shared friends. It's difficult when you break up though, because then your friends feel like they need to pick a side and, well, I would never win. Hence me having multiple exes and multiple friend groups. I'm not sure the "friends prior to dating" thing really matters though, because I usually get along with everybody.