i have a few doozeys when it comes to break ups, but i know there are probably some good horror stories to learn something from out there, man

whether you dumped them, or you were dumped, let it out i wanna know, i'm nosy

Ok, I've got this.

So in 2008 when I was 20, for some genius reason, I not so smartly married my best friend so that I would be able to get into the same income restricted college that he was going to. I know, right? Younger me was not very smart. Anyway, we were married for almost a year, and then I decided that I was done with the situation, because it basically wasn't a real relationship, but he still wanted to be this controlling douchebag, and he was trying to force a vegetarian lifestyle on me, and didn't ever want me to see my friends, and blah blah. Psycho. So, since I didn't even get into the college that I was trying to go to, I tell him that I'm done with him, and that I'm filing for divorce and that he is not to contact me again, other than to arrange to pick up his stuff that is still in my apartment. (He lived at college 2 hours away). So, for some reason I guess he thought I was kidding, because he just kept sending me messages and being a real ass about the entire situation. Fast forward to a couple of weeks later after I have blocked him on social media and am working with my lawyer about the divorce and whatnot. So one night, I go to hang out with my friends, and when I come home about 1am, I just get a weird feeling, because the dude had originally planned to be up there that weekend. So I lock my door and windows, and close all of my blinds, and just go about my business. So he proceeds to just start freaking blowing up my phone, both from his phone number and his dad's. I turn my phone on silent, no biggie. Sure he called me 40 times in 3 minutes, but whatever, I can ignore that. Then the banging on my door starts. I lived in a ground floor apartment, so all of my windows were at about ground level, so I'm kinda freaking out. He literally goes around banging on all of my windows and the door and is outside screaming and throwing a damn fit. Eventually, I called a friend on my home phone for moral support, because I didn't want to call the police (if you had the police at the apartment complex, they tended to go for eviction so I was avoiding that) but then he started to not only bang on all of my windows and scream, but he started to call my friends. At this point, it is like 2am. He woke up several people and their families to scream like a lunatic and just be a general douche canoe to whoever answered the phone. People started calling me and telling me to deal with it, because they were getting yelled at by family members that were being woken up. So, two of my friends came over to try to sneak me out of the apartment. So the two of them get there, and one of them comes in the front door of the building, while the other one goes around the back of the building to talk to the dude. The first one comes into the apartment and we call the police. Meanwhile, my exhusband is screaming at and threatening my friend, who is recording the entire conversation. Around 4am, the police show up and escort him off the premises, because his name isn't on the lease or anything. I ended up with a restraining order against him, and him not even being half assed to show up for the divorce trial.

oh my gooDNESS wow starting off strong !! i was expecting some highschool drama but that's a real divorce and what sounds like a real douche canoe indeed !! i mean if you two talked about it from day one like "hey man this is technically not a real marriage," he shouldn't have gotten any idea that he could try to control you. i mean yeesh he sounds like a nightmare. since then, has he ever tried to contact you?

Nope, he gave up after he was ordered to have a police escort to even pick up his stuff from my apartment. Luckily. I do have a friend who went to college with him who told me that he basically came back to college and was really bitter and obnoxious about to literally everyone else he knew, though. Glad I could exceed your story expectations, lol. Like I said, younger me wasn't very smart.

i'm glad you got out of there without being harmed physically or anything, the guy sounds like a mess :/ i guess you probably got the worst break up out of the way when you were younger, now it's smooth sailin B)

I'm really glad I got out of that without being harmed physically, too. I was also shocked that none of my windows or whatever got broken. He was a freaking mess as a human being. I did get the worst one out of the way early. xD I'm 27 now and I've been married to for 3 years, and he's the damn best.

oH GOSH couples who subeta together, stay together !! ehehe

/bow You are a shameless flatterer. <3

Okay so my break up story is definitely not as juicy as what has been posted and tbh it's just drama (not even in high school wow) but sure, let's go into it. My ex and I dated for just over 3 years, not quite 3.5. He dumped me through a text message of all things. The best part is that we were going to the same college but he wouldn't even walk a whole 15 minutes to my dorm building to do it face-to-face. We were each other's first bf/gf and for dating that long, I really feel like you should have the guts to end things the right way.

Honestly we had a rocky relationship for probably half the time we dated, and it's so sad that I thought I was happy during the whole thing. After it ended and I healed, I realized how broken down I truly was and that I was holding onto a pointless relationship. Towards the last 8 months of our relationship, he admitted that his mom wanted him to break up with me. She had dated her first bf for 5 years and they had broken up, so basically she believed that your first relationship will never be the one that lasts a lifetime (what bull; of course it can happen). Apparently she even tried to convince him to cheat on me right before we broke up. Course, that came from him so idk how true that really is, but she was a pretty horrible person honestly so I could see her doing that. He actually ended it because "his mom told him to" and he didn't want to anger her since she was paying for his college.

I held on for the last 8 months even though I was so upset, because I wanted to see how things were once he began college (I was a year ahead of him school-wise.) I wanted him to get away from his mom and make a decision for himself. He said that he still loved me during the mess. But then a month after the break up, we decided just to meet up and see if we could remain friends. He accidentally said "I love you," and I said "No you don't." Then he said "I'm sorry, I was just trying to make you feel better." THAT was when it really hit me. It made me wonder how long he has just been saying 'I love you' to me and if he ever really meant it within the remaining months of our relationship. Oh, and he had told me that he got over me three days after we broke up and began talking to other girls already. Three. Days. After a 3-year long relationship with his first gf. Right.

So needless to say, once I truly was over it, I realized how stupid I was to stay in such a toxic relationship. There were times he told me he would like me more if I lost some weight. There was a time when he was talking to a girl behind my back who he sort of had a crush on, and she liked him back. (He accidentally let it slip to me, while talking on Xbox Live with two other school friends in the party...nice.) No argument was his fault; it was always mine. There's so many other things but those are the biggies.

BUT WHATEVER I learned from my mistakes. I ended up getting a new bf before he got a new gf (course it wasn't a race or anything, but at the same time it felt good because he thought I was too hung up on him to get another bf.) and now I'm engaged to him. He's the complete opposite of my ex. This guy literally treats me like a princess and constantly tells me that I'm beautiful SOOO good riddance to my ex lol.

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wow congrats!!

sdfsdf i had a wall of text here but the thought of it being exposed is-- self please. tl;dr he was really controlling but i latched on bc he'd turn around and apologize and be sweet at the end of the day, rinse and repeat. monitored what i did daily and all that. yelled at me/played up the guilt trips when i didn't do what he wanted. he realized he was trying to mold me into his idea of a perfect girl so he was the one to break it off, but i am still bitter bc he is still a jerk. the end!!

My pathetic stories lol

Dating younger people is nothing but trouble. I've learned from that lol.

Wow. Your story is just mind blowing. Marrying someone that young was probably not the greatest idea, but at least you realized that.

I don't really have a break-up story, but I got my heart stepped on. I was a teenager and I was totally smitten with this boy (younger than me). We worked together and I was interested in him. He would always talk to his friends and never me. That hurt. He was a total geek. Into games and stuff. That annoyed me. He would also blow me off for his friends. My first kiss was with him and it was horrible, but I was so happy. One day, I kissed him at work and he put in a sexual harassment claim against me. Dick.

There was also this separate incident where this guy who was in love with me, felt up my leg at work. I told a male supervisor the next day and I got in trouble by Bipolar B*tch ass boss. She moved the supervisor to day shifts and asked me if I wanted this boy to still have a job. He ended up quitting after he heard what I did.

OMG yo... I don't think these poor people want the novel of what my flipping ex-fiance did to me.. It was one of them most horrible destroying things I've endured. And with it on top of an Anxiety Disorder, I damn near went suicidal. >.>

Mhm. Younger me didn't always make the best life choices. Luckily, I've learned a lot and gotten it together as a person. I still make stupid choices sometimes, but nothing that stupid.

oof those both sound baaad, im sorry they both happened at work, that's never a good place for romance or even worse-- unwanted romantic advances. why was it that you got in trouble for reporting an incident ?

hehe i get that, sometimes i feel like typing out a whole big rant fueled by my own rage !!!! but then i'm like "or not," and backspace and take a rage nap jdfjahd how long did you guys date for? it sounds like a complicated situation :// reminds me of the first time i tried to date. i dated a guy in middle school to highschool (like 2 years....when i was like 13 , that's waaaaay too long) for some reason he was really controlling ?? it's weird to think about considering we were so young :/

congrats on the engagement ! that sounds like a shitshow kdjfad okay but he must have been an adult when he broke thing off "because his mom said so" ??? that's no good. in a personal situation like idk...... .. . .a relationship ?? i hope that he'd take it personally and make that choice on his own i'm so glad you found something that is going so much better !

ok you guys i have a question now tho..... have you guys ever had a break up that caused a rift in a friend group? i had a messy break up from a long term relationship about 8 months ago and everyone associated me with her for years, but now that we're apart, people are picking sides and it's just.......awful?? i mean, all of my friends from every circle of people in my life have given up on me 100% and i feel forgotten. idk i don't wanna sound like a bummer but it's just been getting to me today ;;

I was told I should've gone a female supervisor. But to me, it doesn't matter who you go to.

not very long, just about a month! we were also each other's firsts sooo how turned out was probably due to inexperience too. we'd known and were close friends for a little over a decade, and the recent years kind of built up to there, then it ended ahaha. about the friend rift--that's kinda what went down but not exactly. we shared a circle of friends (about 5+ yrs) and i disappeared since he stayed. the relationship was always a secret, so p sure they didn't know, maybe they've caught on by now. they did talk to me a bit after they noticed i was gone, but now i only keep in touch with two of them. s'all good.

pats, i think it's nice you can talk about it on here at least ;; hopefully some of these stories give you some solace. to hear ppl you know picking sides is... 8( ughh that just really sucks. when you're a bystander, it's so easy to point fingers and ppl seem unwilling to think for a moment how hurtful it can be.

Yeah. I've learned it the hard way. I've dated a few girls here and there but I'm probably not suited for any type of romantic relationship. Some break ups were seriously damaging for me, even the relationships were damaging too. I think I have a thing for abuser and whatnot. I hadn't dated for 4 years? if not more before her and I made a terrible mistake ha ha.

I've never had a boyfriend and I've never went on a date. I'm just not interested.

My first (we've been together for five years) boyfriend was pretty toxic. He ddn't allow me to meet up with my friends, talk to male people and he even wanted to decide where I should work. His jealousy and aggressive character made me SO scared. He even made some "surprise" visits at my workingplace to see if I really don't talk with any male coworkers or else. Also, he was pretty boring (he always wanted to stay at home or do a walk...we havent been to the cinema for like three years even though I always wanted to do stuff with him).

Some day we've had an argument over one little thing (I think it was that he wanted ketchup instead of mayo when I was ordering some food) and he pretty much flipped the table because of it. I went away scared to the tram station and was about to leave him there...his words were "If you get in that tram it's over". I was pretty happy because "that's pretty easy for a breakup xD" and got into the tram.

Later that evening he acted like nothing happened...and the next weekend he wanted me to come to his place. I remember it like it was yesterday...I was playing League of Legends with some coworkers from my new working place (don't blame me! T_T) and I broke up with him over the phone. Not a gentlewoman move, but I was too afraid of his reaction. He threatened to end his life, then he wanted to end my live. After I hushed him by saying that I would call the police if he says that one more time he cried and hung up. That was it. Then a lot of badmouthing about me happened on facebook, he always tried to contact me and behaved like a crazyass little kid. I couldn't believe that I thought I was in love with him...after I threatened to screenshot the conversation and send it to his new gf (we broke up one month ago at the time...) he hushed. After two more encounters in my town (he yelled at me like a whacky car salesman and threw heavy insults at me) I've never seen him again. Thank god.

Then my second BF treated me like a f***doll after breaking up with me and getting together with a coworker, exploiting the fact that I was still loving him...but it was too funny when I told him that I now have a bf that actually cares for me. That was over one year ago - still happy with my bf aaaand the other one is suffering because of that. Serves him right imo.

Sorry for the text wall and I PROMISE to improve my english :x