Just a friend of mine in real life is still single. She has dreams about prince charming and she is not sure if it's actually foolish to believe in such kind of dreams.

I've told her that the reality is much more interesting than what you could imagine. I didn't know that before I have got a boyfriend. It just seems so to be. I got my boyfriend at a time when I was actually not consciously looking for. It just came on my path.

But she thinks my arguments didn't help her really. I have experience with a real boyfriend, but NOT with the combination to have still dreams in the meanwhile. So I have no idea if it's possible to have both. My friend wants to know if it could be possible without get drama's or so.

She likes to dream, but on the other hand she wants to stay open for a relation in the reality.

At this moment I have no idea how to help her with more ideas how to handle between dreams and reality. But that is what she wants to learn.

Has somebody else an advice for my friend?

Let her know that having standards is fine, don't give someone a chance if you don't think you could ever really care for them or find them interesting. But don't say "No" just because someone doesn't tick every box.

Too true. You have absolutely right. Yesterday I have walked with her and observe random people. I ask her just to look at their energy and try to have less attention to their appearance. That was also the way how my boyfriend has chosen me. ^_^

Edit: sorry, since I think I misunderstood your first post and I think you misunderstood some of mine, I just deleted this.

My own relation was absolutely not a "BOOM" moment too. He was just interesting and nice and it grows unnoticed between him and me.

What about my friend. She has not really high wishes it's more she has not much experience. She is nervous about the idea how to get a boyfriend in reality.

Edit: deleted this too, no point in going on about a topic when we both seem to be misunderstanding each other :)

She likes to have dreams, but she wants also stay open for the reality. She is indeed aware the change that her real boyfriend is not as her ideal-image.

But I and my friend has discovered that to have a prince charming could be a mental help way to know better what kind of inner persona my friend really likes.

I have ask her what kind of inner persona she expects by her prince charming and we go into detail by every part of her prince charming.

We are both sober, but it was interesting to hear what she supposes by what kind of clothes, hairdo, etc. Also the differences how we interpret some points by the same picture of her prince charming was enlightening.

I believe it will not be a problem if her real boyfriend in the future is not for 100% like her prince charming. She still doubt about possibility's, but I believe it is possible to have dreams and a real boyfriend so long dreams stay still dreams and are not too much wanted in reality. She is just insecure about this.