TW: Abuse So, to keep this short here's the TL;DR version of the situation: my mom's ex husband was really abusive and is the textbook definition of a psychopath, when I turned 18 I moved out and haven't been back since. I now live with my grandmother (where my mother also lives) and we thought he was out of our lives but I found out she still keeps contact with him and now he's been showing up at our house leaving his business card in places outside the house just to let us know he was here. Now, I don't currently have money saved up to just leave or any money to file a restraining order, but I'm honestly fearing for my safety staying here.

Subeta, what is your opinion on best course of action?

EDIT - I asked my mom if she would consider filing a restraining order and she said she doesn't know if she wants to yet. I'm not going to pretend to understand her stockholm syndrome.

- The restraining order would be the best immediate option. I would imagine that everyone in your household is in danger, and the order would protect everyone as best as you can.

In the meantime, save up to move out. And, don't tell family where you're moving to, so you don't run the risk of your mother telling her ex husband where you went.

I'm agree what Cherri already said.

I'm sorry for you you overcome this. Tell not only on Subeta aubout your problem, but also to your friends and kind neighbours. How more witnesses, how better you get help from the agenties for a restraining to the ex of your mother. Don't wait too long to call for help.

In the meantime ignore the ex of your mother. Give never ever a response to him, when he will try to make contact with you.