So there's this girl I've known since preschool. We both just graduated high school and her boyfriend, one of my best friends since 5th grade, cheated on her with a girl he had no feelings for. He performed sexual acts on this other girl after he and his girlfriend had almost been dating two years. She knows, but she is so in love with him, she's not going to cut ties. Worst of all, he's in Oklahoma with his family and she is staying in Illinois for the next four years for school. All of her and his friends are trying to convince her that she can't ever trust him again. What do I do? What do I say to her? She's such a nice, genuine person and I hate thinking about her getting hurt.

Tell her he's a jerk and after that, leave it alone. People make mistakes and if she can accept that he screwed up, then that's her choice. Honestly, should it matter to you if she stays with him? When friends get involved because they need to get justice for their "bff" things get even messier and upsetting for everyone involved. I'd say, just let it go. It's her relationship.

At no point did I say "she can't stay with him." I want her to be happy and I've expressed that to her countless times, I just don't think she understands how fucked up this situation is. It was not a one-time "mistake." He planned the act out over several days with this other girl, and after it happened, he schemed with her to do it again in the future. It was not a heat-of-the-moment, drunken act of passion. He was sneaking around behind her back with another girl, and told her that he had never even thought about her before she did it. She's a very religious person and she believes God will tell her what to do, and I respect that, it's just that everyone else she speaks to stands with me on she loves him too much to see how awful he really is.

It's not your problem. Step back from it. You can't save her, you might as well not try. I know you're close to her, and you love her, and can't imagine letting this happen to her, but that's exactly what you have to do. You cannot sweep in and fix it no matter how much you'd like to.

There's nothing you're going to be able to tell her that will break her haze. If you dig at it you might even end up destroying your relationship with her because she'll push you away. You could end up being 'the jerk that hates him' if she stays. It's her heart, her head, her relationship, her problem. The only thing you should be doing is be a supportive friend. If it becomes too much to hear, tell her that. But leave it alone.