I've ignored his message and deleted it. Thank you to everyone who helped me. :)

A few weeks ago, one of my exs sent a series of texts talking about his life. This caught me off guard, since he hasn't messaged me in months. Last time I messaged him, I said I was willing to help him figure his life out and stuff.

But, over the last few months, I've decided to delete him off of Facebook, remove my old Facebook, and start anew with my future name. I didn't want to keep contact with the people I deemed toxic.

I don't know what to do. Should I ignore him and go against my word or message him and risk him sticking around longer and finding out my future name? I know the answer should be obvious, but I hate breaking promises. Maybe I just need some people to convince me that I'm doing what's best for me.

FYI, here's a post I wrote in the Vent Room about him:

I have read your spoiler and consider your annoyances towards him, my advise is definitely ignore.

I don't know your ex is aggressive, but I had trouble with an ex-colleague (She was just not a good match with me mildly said). That ex-colleague was raised, aggressive and she even stalked me and I let her know I want nothing to do with her on a similar way on your spoiler and it doesn't work. Things got only more worse.

Whatever may have happened if your dissatisfaction is such towards him, then it is better not to be fulfill your promises.

Too bad.

I have made the same mistake by my ex-colleague to promised to talk after a quarrel, but she did not listen to reason. Then fulfill a promise has no sense.

Everything has a limit. Too bad to deviate than from any principles, but sometimes it is needed. Plain realistic.

- I'm sorry you had a stalker. Those are always awful. D:

You're definitely right. Not everyone listens to reason or kindness, and it's better to let go of such people. I'm still hesitant to break a promise, since I've been abandoned before. But, it is something I should just do and realize it's for my own sake.

At least my ex is not aggressive. He's just... pathetic.

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Yeah, I'm glad she let me finely alone. Stalkers are indeed always awful. There is no exeption.

What about your ex. I don't know what's pathetic on concrete sense. It is a relative term. ;) However he annoys you very much anyway. That's reason enough to let him go.

I don't like brake promises too, but indeed sometimes you must chose for your own.

Wrong user, hun! I'll ping here for you, though.

- Thank you for helping me feel better about my decision. :)

Ignoar

He sounds like my old ex. Always writing to me to complain about his life & how he hates being lazy but can't help it. Each time I offered the best solutions I could think of but he'd ignore it but continue complaining.

The first thing for someone to figure their life out really is to do it on their own, and not depend on others to do figure it out for them. That's not figuring your life out. I don't know the details and so I hope I'm not projecting too much but I'm guessing there's really not much you can do. The worst thing that could happen from ignoring him is that instead of learning his lesson he'll find some other poor girl to use as his mental dumping grounds. The best thing would be him realizing eventually he just needs to take things in his own hands.

@ Holden - Yep, he ignored my help months ago, which is why I decided against helping him again.

He originally dated me, because he thought that dating would solve all of his problems, which it didn't. He then thought being alone would work, but it didn't. Hooker didn't help neither. Changing jobs didn't help. So, at this point, he's a lost cause to me. It's clear he doesn't want to help himself.

Moving on is best is some situations. I suggest not even ranting to him about why he annoyed you. He doesn't deserve your breath and it seems you're putting to much energy into something that's not there anymore. Best of wishes ~ ❤️

My ex and me are on civil terms. But he texts me nearly every day with boring memes and asks to hangout. I should've kept a farther distance from him. Lol oh well.

- Yeah, he's definitely not worth my time any more. I've deleted his text and have no idea what his phone number is. If he attempts toi contact me again (which I doubt), I'll block his number. Thank you for helping me confirm my decision. ^^

Also, sounds like your ex is a nuisance. O.o