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Apr 15, 2016 10 years ago
The Gourmand
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Edit: I feel embarrassed and I wish I could delete this..... sorry I never replied back, KyRicLes. 2016 was not a good year for me. Thank you for your advice.



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Apr 18, 2016 10 years ago
KyRicLeS
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I haven't posted on one of these forums for a long time, but I'm breaking my silence now because I feel like I was in the same position and wish I had the courage to post something. I went through a very similar thing early last year. As a stranger, I'm not sure what exactly caused you two to fall out, but I think you have a few things to weigh out. Firstly, I think your writing seems to suggest you did truly treasure the friendship enough with him to let down aspects of your pride and approach him first. If that's the case, I would suggest asking him if he's willing to talk (some people don't respond well to sudden long messages) before discussing with him how you feel/doing your part to repair the relationship. And I guess at this stage, you have to be aware that there is a chance he may not meet you halfway and want to rekindle the friendship, as mine did not. And you have to be able to accept that if it does happen, and it won't be easy, but it's your best chance for moving on.

I think the longer you leave it, the more cobwebs are going to form in the path between you two and the harder it's going to be to ever make things right. Because to me, I think the best way you're going to find peace with it is if you've done all within your ability to make things right, and at least know deep down you've tried your best for something you knew was worth it, and you're not going to regret not having tried in the future.

And if you're scared of what could happen, the worst alternative is that he turns you down and refuses your friendship. In my case, my ex best friend extended an apology as well with regards to our "break up" but told me up front he had no intention of rebuilding the friendship. And just like you did at the start, I respected and understood his feelings though I was hurt. I went through all kinds of tormented feelings for the first part of it, but I think that was the first step I made towards letting it go. It's been a year and I do miss him sometimes, I'm not going to lie. But I know I tried and there's only forwards to look.

Good luck, I think you can do it. :)


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