is my jealousy getting the best of me? Here's the situation. (Please, I appreciate any and all advice, but I will not tolerate being bashed. I know Jealousy isn't good in a relationship, but no one is perfect and I'd be surprised if no one has felt any pangs of it through-out a relationship.)

My partner and I's background: We've been together for 7 years, and we have an almost 3 year old son. Like most relationships, we have ups and downs, but things are pretty good overall. I love my partner with all of me, and I know they love me just as much. ( Although my mind likes to try to convince me other wise, yes I am aware and seeking help for my emotional/mental issues) Anywho-

My partner started college like 3-4 years ago, and everything is going okay it seems. For awhile, my partner had a job at the on school grounds bookstore (Where you go to get your books for the semester) and of course, had co-workers. Well, one in particular, seemed pretty nice, and was always friendly to them. Always seemed like they had a bit of a small crush on my partner, but ya know, it happens. My partner is fairly friendly and nice, and it may seem like they are flirting at times, but in all honestly, flirting for them is pretty, well awkward, so I don't believe my partner really IS flirting. Well, this person stopped working there shortly after my partner stopped, we were having issues so time off was requested a bit too often, and they "let 'em go." Shortly after, it turns out that this person who was my partner's co-worker took time off from college, and took up a job, at a gas-station that my partner goes to all the time for drinks to and from classes. Ok, cool. Jobs are hard to find, and it was close to the school, no big deal. My partner tells me at times that this other person is REAL interested in them, and very friendly and super happy to see 'em when they go in to get a drink, or see him with our son. I've gone in a few times, and they get this silly smile on their face like " Oh gosh, my crush!" type face, and is super friendly. I was introduced to her once, and she seemed nice, and pleasant, but I was bothered a bit that she acted towards my partner as she has, and apparently talks to my partner all the time. Given that it seems like she has a small crush, I'm really not surprised. Over the course of our relationships, my partner tends to find himself in a crush from someone a few times. I do have a bit of a Jealousy to me, and while I fight it off as best as I can sometimes it overcrowds my already full mind with it's yuckiness, but I can typically handle it and stave it off. But here is where it gets worse for me. Our neighbor (we live in a duplex) is moving this month, and who would it be to have snatched that side of the duplex? You guessed it, that person who seemingly has a crush on my partner.

So here is my head going " Okay, so they worked together, and she really seemed to like my partner. Then, she got a job at the gas-station that my partner has gone to since we first moved here. Now she's moving in not just next door, but into the building that is connected singularly to ours. Wtf?"

I'm not worried, exactly that my partner will cheat, but I do have low enough self-esteem to be worried that she may try to take my partner away from me. It's probably unlikely, because I know my partner loves and cares for me, but my worry is still there.

Now my question is, am I nutty or do you think I have a reason to feel this way. Does it seem off to you? Or is it just a coincidence?

In general: People will judge too easy and honest assumptions may already be painful enough. But feelings like jealousy, suspicion, distrust could be painfully honest, they are not exactly the same as prejudice tough.

, I can't judge about somebody I don't know if your feelings are right. I think you can better judge about yourself than somebody else. It could be also there is no need to judge. Feelings are not a choice. Judge is a choice.

Is it in your head like a red alarm rings? Or is it more a light feeling that is a little uncomfortable, but not so urgently?

Feelings like jealousy could be high, low and in all this between.

Okay when I read that she was moving in right next to you guys I flipped out. Alarms went off. That sounds like a lifetime movie stalker type thing o-0 At first I just found it to be a coincidence but things keep getting weirder and weirder.

But by the way you described it, it sounds like your partner is very faithful and MIGHT enjoy the flattering attention from another, but wont cross any lines. But you are the best judge out there. Follow your gut feeling, and maybe just talk to him about it. Did you ask him if he thought it was odd? Because with my bf Id be like "uhhhh this girl is stalking us I feel? o-0" But im too forward xD

You are not crazy. If I was in your shoes. All my alarms would be sounding off!

Hmm that is something I'll have to think about. Thanks for your input!

lol Yeah, it is a bit creepy. He's not sure what to think, he finds it odd, but he likes to give everyone the benefit of the doubt as well. He says it's probably a coincidence, and I'm like Yeeahhh Probably, but still. xD I'm pretty forward too, but I guess it'll have to be a wait and see thing. She may end up being cool, I'm not sure. I am glad that she's moving in with a room mate, and not just by herself though. A bit less creepy. xD