A lot is going on right now.

First of all, my dad doesn't accept that I'm trans. He's not going to stop me, but he refuses to help me financially, and he's trying his damnedest to talk me out of it. I don't have enough money to finish HRT for a full year, and if all the changes I want don't come in by then, idk what I'll do. I need to have everything done before I graduate so I don't have to explain it to employers. If I put the transition behind me before I start trying to work, I won't have to deal with finding an LGBT friendly environment, which is going to be seriously rough in my chosen field. My mom is emotionally abusive and won't let me live it down if I ask her, so I was really hoping he'd be up for it. Maybe I can tell him it's for school...

Secondly, I have a friend with some serious trouble. Her fiance just left her for her best friend, and no one understands why she's so upset about it. This is also not the first time this has happened. With that same exact friend. Whom she can't just give the finger cause she'll spin the situation and put it on her, and that selfish rotten circle of family/friends will actually fall for it, cause this girl is the golden child. The situation sucks.

She's leaning on me for support since no one else cares and she can't afford therapy, but I'm far from a professional. I'm trying to help as best as I can, but she really needs that professional care she can't pay for. I know I can talk/walk her through it and everything will eventually be okay (in the distant future...), but it's getting to the point where I'm spending every evening, all evening, being her support. It's not that bad of a thing - I enjoy her presence - but it's a drain on my spoons that's affecting my schoolwork, and I don't have the answer to everything. I can't just leave her alone, cause she'll think she's annoying me and it'll make her feel even worse. Not sure what to do. She managed to get anxiety meds and she's SO MUCH CALMER. So, that's one down. :3

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Hi! I stumbled upon your post earlier today. I don't have much words of advice because I admiteddly do not know much about trans / LGBT. I do however understand that feeling of trying to gather everything in one piece and struggling to make it happen. All I can say is that you are trying hard, and this is the first step to success. Everything starts out of sheer will, and you lack of no courage here ? As for your friend, I think it is a beautiful gesture to be there for her, but as you've said, she needs professional help. I've been there too, being the person to comfort and advise even though it is not my professional field: it is draining and one day, it will become too much. It will drag your worries with hers. Your personal health comes first. If she goes to school, can she see a school councellor, or seek medical advice? Possibly she could be referred somewhere to alleviate the weight off your shoulder a bit. I hope everything goes better for you, and I wish you luck finding the funds for your HTR ? 2016

That... was the nicest thing anyone's ever done for me. The seven items off my wishlist were NOT cheap by any means; I have no idea how you managed to get them all. Words can't express my appreciation. I might still be under a lot of stress, but this made my day regardless. Thank you, anon!

Do you have a Planned Parenthood in your area? Several of them offer services related to HRT and may be able to help you either in obtaining/administering the hormones or finding you an affordable alternative if they can't. They're also a great source of LGBT friendly resources in general.

As far as your friend, you're being very kind to her and she's lucky to have your support. But you also have to take care of yourself and you might have to tell her that at some point. By no means cut ties or turn her away; just ask her that, if nothing else, your guys' support can be mutual and she can help you navigate your problems as well. If you two are in college, there might be on-campus resources like a Student Health and Counseling Center. They can be life-savers if you're in a tight financial situation and need therapy and/or medication.

I never even thought of that. I can definitely check them out, thank you.

I'm in college, but my friend graduated about a decade ago. :/