So. I'm not proud to say this but i'm 24 and living at home with my mom and my step dad (living situation before did not work out). Now mind you i pay rent, buy my own food,buy the cat food and get THEIR dog stuff if he needs it. I do not have a car at the moment so i rely on using my moms car or getting a ride by her to and from work,i give her gas money included in the rent as well as put some if i take it myself. I also pay the full cable bill by myself and they use it more than i do im a netflix person okay. anyways i realize this is part of being an adult i truly do and i realize i would be paying waaaaaay more in apartment by myself and im not trying to sound spoiled and all this wouldnt bother me but heres the thing, my work has cut hours back like alot (now most of you are probably thinking get another job quit etc etc not going to get into that but neither are an option at the moment) the money i go her doesnt go to anything but partying and booze which mind you both of them are alcoholics through and through not that they would ever admit that but they are anyone could see that. I've been depressed about my situation for a very long time and i hate asking for help hence why i dont go to the government center and get housing which i feel like i should which makes me more depressed i dont know how to explain it. and on my way to cash my check today and realizing i'm giving them over half my check so they can go out and party and have fun while i bust my ass and scrape by day to day .so i finally snapped and told her i was cancelling the cable bill since i dont go to work to hand her over half my check needless to say that didnt go over well and she flipped out saying horrible things demanding money and even went as far as to try and snatch my purse out of my hands and take the money from me. im just so lost and hurt and i dont know what to do.

Hi. First off, it is not uncommon for young adults to stay with their parents but still manage an independent (or half) life. I will turn 23 soon and I don't plan to move out anytime soon because life is darn expensive. Do you qualify for government help/housing? If yes, you should look into it. You seem to be distressed and lost about this situation and it seems rather unhealthy, don't you agree? There is nothing to be ashamed of. If you can afford to have your own place, what about finding a nice roommate to share half and half each? I know it's easier with a friend, so peharps it could be a solution? You seem to be upset about how your mom and your step dad are living their lives. The thing is that you cannot do anything about it. You cannot force them nor you can have a control over them. If you can't change them, you need to change the environment (which you can do). Just tossing a few ideas out there. @ clatskani

Your parents are taking advantage of you, big time.

Because of a screw-up with a predatory academy, I'm looking forward to another 3 years living at home, and I'm 23. Not only was I allowed to quit my job because I hated it, I don't pay rent, utilities, anything. I take out the recycling when asked and that's it, I don't even walk the dog. My parents pay for my school supplies/tuition, car, food, and hygienic supplies. Oh, and I bought myself pets in direct defiance of being told no just because I knew they would be locked up in my room and hard to get rid of ethically.

I'm the definition of a spoiled brat and the most I get is a wow, you're lucky. :l Don't be ashamed of the state you live in, YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. Your parents are SELFISH and MEAN. Get out of there before they decide they're going to make things worse one day, and they will. Just for the hell of it. Because they can.