I'm 30 and never had a boyfriend. Had a couple suitors in college but wasn't interested. I know my mom wishes I was more social and I'm wondering if she'd want me to have a boyfriend. I want to ask her but I don't want to stress her out about it. She already has depression and worries about me and I don't want to add one more thing to her plate.

You should only be seeking a boyfriend if you want to have one, not to make your mother happy.

That's something else. I'm really not sure I don't want one. But I'm not sure I'd be very good at it. I don't really know how I feel about it. It's very confusing.

Dip your toe in with some online dating. OKCupid is free. See how that works out, if you find anyone that piques your interest. Going in to dating half-hearted, doing it partially just to please your mom, isn't fair to the person/people you're dating.

Finding a person to date is your business alone, not your mother's. Don't worry about asking her anything, or even what her thoughts are on the matter. It's YOUR life to live. Go out and pursue dating only if you feel it is the right choice for you at this particular point in your life. Finding a match does not have a timeline. : )

I guess. I'm still not really sure how I feel about it. None of the scenarios I play with in my head seem to work. Doesn't help the romantice I'm exposed to are on TV.

Dating someone just to please a parent will only lead to more stress and pain for all parties. You should take your time into finding a boyfriend and if you're not ready for one, then you're not ready. Don't rush into these things just to please someone else. :c

But I don't know if I am or not. It's like I want one but I don't at the same time. Not like I want one one minute and don't the next. It's like someone took two different colored pieces of clay and are mushing them together but they're not mixing. It's a really weird and confusing feeling.

Yeah there's not a lot of places to really be with people other than bars and I don't drink and most of them are kind of shady. And the place I work at doesn't have a lot of guys shopping there unless they came with their girlfriends.

I have AS so I'm not very social either and I don't really like being touched so snuggling or even holding hands will be a challenge. And sex will definitely NEVER happen. Ever.

I'm 24 and I've never had a boyfriend either. Do what you want to do. Do you just want more a companionship/romantic companion? if that's more the case, and you definitely do not ever ever want sex, you might want to check out asexual dating sites as well, then.

I'm not sure what I want. I don't know how I really feel about it.

Hmmm. Well that seems to be the root of your issue, then. Don't date anyone to make your mother happy, though. If you don't want to date that's fine, if you do, that's also fine. I would say take time to figure out what you want first, and worry about the other stuff later.

But I don't know which is the real one. I don't know how to get past it and figure out which way I really feel. I've tried to deal with it for a long time but I never get anywhere.

I'm not sure I can really help you then. What you feel is what you feel, and sometimes it's difficult to figure it out. Possibly start writing it down, or think about WHY you might feel you want or do not want a boyfriend.

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I think just join some hobby clubs is a better way if you want become more social than immideately looking for a boyfriend.

Besides, have got a boyfriend is not a warrenty you will become less lonely. Coupples could be lonely despite they have got a relation.

An other point to figure out what you really need is to write up for yourself how you spend your time in a day. On this way you get more clearnes if you have left over some time for more social events or you have got allready too few things to finish alone in one day.

I am 37 and have never had a boyfriend either. It does bother my mom. She wants grandchildren and she wants me to fit into the mold of the children of her friends and siblings. That has never been what I wanted though. I have never wanted my own children. I am not particularly social. I have a hard time stepping out of my comfort zone and I can be pretty inflexible at times.

There was a time when I felt torn about having a boyfriend. I get lonely at times like anyone else. As I have become more comfortable in who I am though, I have realized I that I didn't really need a boyfriend to feel fulfilled. I have never fully connected with the idea of being in a relationship. In the past year, I have begun to realize I am probably asexual at least. I will admit that there are times when I still wouldn't mind someone to cuddle with, but overall, I can't honestly see how a boyfriend would fit into my life as it exists and that is ok.

It is hard to feel like you might be letting your mom down or that you are adding to her stress levels in some way. My mom is a talker so I have never had the option to not talk to her about her feelings. I wouldn't bring it up to her unless she initiated a conversation though. I got lucky in that my mother married a man with grandkids a year ago and that has taken some of the pressure off of my brothers and myself. I would have never been happy finding someone to make her happy. There seems to be this template we are raised thinking our life should fit into and it feels like a failure somehow when we just doesn't.

Like I said, there's really not a lot to do around here. When I'm not working I'm usually watching tv, playing video games, watching anime or on youtube watching videos about everything I just mentioned.

I don't think my mom is comparing me to her friends' kids. She doesn't really have any friends either. She just doesn't want me to be alone all the time. I don't really know how to handle a boyfriend. All I know is what I see on Tv. I don't know if I'm ok with being alone or if I'm just used to it.

But it could be some time of relaxing could be importand. Meybe you are just happy with your life you have got. I don't know how you want to share your time with a boyfriend, who would probably watch other programs wich have not particular your interest. Meybe the programs and music he wants you mey even dislike. Some different prefers in music could become absolutely an issue. It could be he likes also other food.

If you don't feel much for Physical affection, then the most boy's will not be your match. There are boy's who don't need much physical affection too, but they are more rare.

If you really want to share your life with another, then it seems a prerequisite that there is enough a match in the same kind of interests, music genres and programs.

By the way. You can't always believe the TV how to handle with a boyfriend.

I can honestly say I am definitely not happy with my life. This is so not where I wanted to be at this point.

But aren't there a lot of couples who like different things but are still together? Not like I want to date my clone.