So there's this guy who I've been pretty sure is into me. He stares at me quite a bit in "that way", is always listening to me even when he appears to not be listening and got jealous when a girl (he thought it was a guy) wrote a flirty note on my coffee cup. He acts a little different around me in that when he talks about being single or living alone his eyes always seek me out, and when he says something stupid he always corrects himself and gauges my reactions.

Its cute, but really I have so little experience in dating that I am super shy around him, say ridiculously stupid things and honestly find it hard to have conversations with him without stating the obvious. On top of that I keep doubting that all these signs aren't him just being friendly. I mean, I've been single for four years and my last boyfriend was a high school sweetheart.. Maybe I'm inventing attraction where there is none..or I'm blowing it by being a dysfunctional flirt!

I want to at least form a friendship with him, but I hate how I go from being an extremely confident woman to a blushing, jabbering mess when I try to talk to him. Has anyone ever went through this and figured out how to be less of a mess? face palm I need to be more calm, but how do you do that? Im a mess! Fix me Subeta!

In terms of not being sure if he's really into you or if you're just hoping he is, maybe you could hangout with another friend of yours and then get your friend's opinion on it? Sometimes an outside view is very helpful. But you did say he looks at you in "that way" and even displayed jealously so it does seem like he has at least some kind of interest.

As for being more calm around him, I would honestly suggest to just be yourself and don't worry about things like that. Guys mostly don't even notice little things that seem like a big deal to us girls. If your shy behavior was bothering him he would have shown it by now. Be yourself, relax and have fun. Don't take yourself too seriously and don't think too much.

Hope that helps and good luck :)