Several months ago, my friends and I went to a LARP event. Hundreds of people are there. Some of the camps tend to be close together. There was a new girl and guy from camp we will call Skull Drink. The leader of Skull Drink told these new people they didn't need to bring food, many clothes at all, and Haven (my camp) would help them out. So the entire event, they were constantly eating our food and stinking up our camp with their disgusting body odor. BUT THAT WASN'T ENOUGH. Constantly, this girl would get drunk, and insist people babysit her. She asked us to walk her to the port-a-potties that were less than 50 feet from out camp site! She would force her attention on guys. Sitting in their laps. Plopping her ass on them hard enough she broke a chair. BUT THAT WASN'T ENOUGH. I said I was uncomfortable with her massaging my boyfriend. Sitting in his lap. ETC. She responded with a facebook message saying she is a flirt, how your boyfriend responds is on them. How you respond is on you. Skull Drink and Haven are friends most of the time. We party together when we come to the real world. Several in my group told me she is just awkward to give her a second chance. So I did. Abby was housing a birthday party for her. I agreed to come. My boyfriend got very drunk. He fell asleep on the couch so he didn't drive drunk. He didn't have me take him because he would need his car to get to work in the morning. I hung out until 3AM, getting a nervous feeling about it. The girl in question and her boyfriend (she says they are in an open relationship, no judgement) laid on the floor next to his couch. As one of the friends who walked by said, "I'm pretty sure that she was fake sleeping. If he rolled over, he would be right on top of her." When my boyfriend got home the next day, he told me several times in the night she would poke him to say hi. He told her to stop. She showed up at his job and acted like she had no idea he worked there. I heard from my friends, WHO SHE ASKED WHERE HE WORKED, that she was acting very innocent when she asked where he worked. Then she claimed she was going to go for a walk. SHE DROVE TO THE OTHER SIDE OF TOWN. TO SEE MY BOYFRIEND OF OVER 2 YEARS. She acted like she had no idea. When my friend told her it was not ok, she said he came onto her. When she went for a walk, she said he came outside and pinned her to the wall. I'm going to lose my shit. She is lying and she is stalking my boyfriend. She won't leave him alone. I don't want to go to jail for murder, but I just might.

By stalking I have got an image from somebody who treats and bully the other. Follow the other on the internet and in real life to make terror. A real stalker could be a creep and a psychopath.

In your topic this is not clear for me if she intimidates you or him, makes also terror and treatments. It seems for me this is in the first case she is just an importunate and very annoying person.

I'm not sure if I understand you right.

Does he suffers by her rapprochements too? Are you concerned he falls in love with her? Is she a real creep who threats him and you? Intimidates she you and your boyfriend? Is she usually nipping and fell? Does she blackmailing you on a more subtle way? ... Or do I understand you still wrong at this moment?

Do you talk with your boyfriend, with your family and with your friends about this issue? That seems sensible in any case to do.

If she is really a stalker she'll eventually try to mount your friends against you too sooner or later. Real stalkers can be terribly cruel sadists.

But for clarity, I can't make out your story enough to determine whether she is only importunate and annoying or she is really a big horror of a stalker.

We are banning her from our group. Everyone is recounting the events in a letter to our board. In her letter, she says she performed oral sex on him and that they were all over each other when no one was around. She said he denounced his relationship with me. She implied that he slammed her against the wall and forced his tongue down her throat. This is slanderous at this point. She is trying to meet my boyfriend when no one is around. She is trying to get near him any chance she gets. The fact that she is writing her side of the story as an official document and that was what she wrote scares the crap out of me. Either she is very cunning or she is completely delusional.

Well if she writes such things she can not do good with you and him. I do not know what the law is in America, but in the Netherlands defamation is a crime. In America, this seems likely also be punishable. It is very unpleasant, but the best you can do is to keep all details of what she writes. You'll need it as testimony. Look as soon as possible for help from aid agencies against stalkers.

Being as she will be banned from all of our events, it is likely she will not have much of a chance to see him. If she continues after that, we will persue a restraining order which means she must stay away from him.

I hope for you that this will be sufficient.

I was a victim of stalking by an ex-colleague who was extremely offended when I said that I am not amused with her fierce way of conversation and I was clear I was not willing to take her seriously anymore. Then she started to stalk me. I had a lot of work to do and a I was forced to spend a lot of of time with gathering evidence before I finally was helped by such authorities and finally got through the bureaucratic red tape. I can assure you that all of this was not a pleasant experience (Mildly said).

So I'll cross my fingers you and your boyfriend get no trouble with her anymore.

Thank you. I'll be so glad when I don't have to deal with that bitch.

It's possible she's telling the truth, I mean if they were alone together at some point after you left that no one knew about it's possible. Otherwise why would she make all of this stuff up? She might be crazy and yeah stalking him, but I've come to learn in life that if someone comes up with stuff like this there is usually some truth to it. Good luck though, hopefully keeping her out of the picture is enough.