Alright, so I don't have a lot of options when I create a male HA so I end up using the Subeta "default" features, IE: hair, eyes, possibly other features.

I am having the worst time getting them off and on. Like in this post, it shows my HA bald but when I'm trying to work on a new HA it's still trying to show me the "default" hair I had on.

Also, in wardrobe it shows the default eyes as gone, yet on the forums they are still showing.

Is this a time thing for it to "update" or what?

Is it too much to ask for exactly how to get the default items on and back off without having to just click arbitrarily until it works? Apparently I'm too thick to get it sorted out. :(

Changing HA genders never bothered mine like that. I'd try https://subeta.net/repair_avatar.php and go from there, honestly.

clicking the 'remove hair' button in the hair tab should get rid of the hair (make sure you save after doing so) but the wardrobe might not immediately reflect that change - i've had times where i've had to refresh a couple of times before the hair was actually gone. as for eyes, you can simply layer them under the avatar base, and put them back over it when you want them visible again.

It's mostly just the "features I use" it doesn't matter which gender I use. I was just saying for example I usually only use the "default" hair or features when I create a male HA.

So there isn't just a way to select "remove"?

you don't need to remove facial features because you can just layer them under the base.