Welp, I thought this holiday season would be fun times with my fiance's family. That went down the drain, was clogged up, and overflowed.

First of all, my fiance's parents got a divorce last month. That was already hard on him. We spent Thanksgiving with his mother while his sister spent it with his father. It was awkward. Then, he spends a few days at his mother's while I'm with my friend.

We've been living with my mother for the last 3 months. We got into an argument around 1 am with him yelling. My mother was not happy, but said she would give him a second chance. However, the day both of us were supposed to go back to my mother's house, she said that my fiance was kicked out and not welcome in the house. He ended up going back to his mother's, which at first was a relief because I thought he would become homeless. Oh boy, was I wrong.

Apparently, his mother was the one who wanted the divorce. Her story was very suspicious, and his father believes she was cheating. I'm not sure, but she is definitely hiding something.

She has always favored the sister and the sister's girlfriend over me. Like, she likes talking to them and having fun with them. Me... no. I don't know why she doesn't like me. And now, she doesn't like my fiance either. It was different before. But now, even he wants nothing to do with her once we move out.

My fiance has been back at his mother's for the last 2 weeks. We're miserable and miss each other a lot. I can't spend the night with him or have any privacy. I can only come over when his mother is there, and even then, I have to stay downstairs. Before my fiance moved out of his mother's, I could go upstairs and stay when she was gone. Two days ago, she installed a camera at the front door. She did this so she can make sure I don't enter the house without her permission or go upstairs. Seriously, we're adults. She's acting like I was stealing things. This sort of control has put me beyond the edge.

With the way she is controlling us and the circumstances around the divorce, I can't like her anymore. I tried several times at my fiance's request to give her a chance. But, I just can't. At least he agrees with my decision now.

We've been trying desperately to find a place to move to. I don't have a job, and he only has part time work. (My job situation is complicated at the moment.) We have no friends who are able to help us and the only place we can afford is smack dab in the middle of a notoriously bad, crime infested neighborhood. I have tried various non profits in the past to help me (I have an abusive mother), but no one took me seriously. But, we found one that is willing to help, which is amazing! We even get free therapy! But, we don't know how long it will be until we can get housing assistance from them. For now, we are stuck where we are.

We're trying to cope, but it's obvious it's affecting us greatly. He gets angrier at work, has a hard time sleeping, has consistent stomach pain and headaches, and has lost interest in nearly everything. My anxiety is through the roof, I'm constantly exhausted, I get annoyed very easily, and I just want to run away from everything. All of this scares me greatly.

I'm ready to move on with my life. Sever all ties with my biological family, start working on my culinary career, move away from the city, get married, and just live a peaceful life with my fiance. But, all I'm doing is constant research on finding ways out of the situation, feeling lonely at night, and crying. I'm hanging on, but I'm terribly exhausted.

Sorry for the long rant. I've just been a mess lately.

Is there any reason your fiance can't stay with his father?

You might want to spend some time reading Captain Awkward archives. She talks a lot about boundaries, scripts for talking to difficult people and a bunch of other really useful advice for people stuck in bad situations.

http://captainawkward.com/archives/

- His father is living in a tiny apartment which doesn't even have enough room for the father. My fiance already discussed that possibility.

Neat, I'll check out the archives. Thank you~

Thought that might be the case, with the divorce and all, but sometimes people just don't think of fathers, so I figured I'd mention it.

Captain Awkward is great, she gives way better advice than I can :)

I am the Fiancee she is talking about and I have suspicions the camera is fake, as i had to text her when Star was entering and exiting for the bathroom while my mother was with my aunt and grandma in Atlanta. She claimed it was foe security but I have moved the camera and she said nothing