So...I guess to give the skinny would be best. I am 25, and a mom to one, adorable 1 year old toddler. I have been seeing this guy for almost year, he is not the biological father, but my son loves him, he has been there for me and my son since day one. Well...I also take care of my mom, who has colon cancer, fibro, and a few other things going on, and I live with her to take care of her, cause she is terminal. Well, me and the mister got into it today pretty bad, my mother hears it...comes to my defense, like any good mother would, things escalated to a boiling point. Now he has been thrown out of the house in a fit of anger, I didn't mean, he didn't mean it...I want him to come home...but the lady of the house isn't having it. I can't sleep...and I have to work tomorrow...ugh...I just...cant. Help?

Ouch. That sounds really tough. My mother is a 3 time Cancer survivor with Fibro, so on a little level, I understand how tough it must be to have that weight on your shoulders, though it sounds even worse for you. I know it's probably hard too, but just give her some time to cool down and then try approaching the subject of him coming home again slowly. Beyond that, can you go out to see him at least?

As for sleep, have you considered trying some Melatonin? It's a natural chemical our body produces that you can usually find along the vitamins at the drug store. It helps you get that sleepy feeling and fall asleep.

While everything can't be fixed in an instant, try to remember that letting things fall to worse isn't any better and hopefully it can will some sleep nearer and help keep things running smoothly til things settle down again.

Hang in there! You got this!

Best solution I have is to let her cool down and try to explain that it was just a situation that got blown out of proportion. My boyfriend was forbidden at my parents home for a while while I was living there. Things are still rocky between them but they are nice to each other. My boyfriend uses Melatonin to help him sleep. He's offered me some but I've never actually tried it. He seems to like it a lot though.

Thanks, it has been a couple of nights now...I am handling it better. I still catch myself tearing up at odd moments. I am an assistant where I work, and sometimes after I close I get to go see him...but it is only for so many minutes at a time due to where he is staying at. So, I am dealing, I just have to take it one day at a time. I can't help but feel a little resentment about it, but I am not going to let this ruin the holidays...He will be able to come back home eventually...it's just hard.

I have tried the melatonin, and it works, so thank you for the suggestion and kind words!

That must be hard. It was hard for me and my bf to see each other for a while after the drama cause it was simply difficult to get together someplace. I was mad at my parents for a while because of the circumstances under which they chose to banish him. Even if they aren't going about it the way we think they should, parents who love us are just doing their best to keep us safe (:

I wish I could agree there, the fighting has only continued. I have gotten to spend a little bit of time with him though. It's just such a bummer that it has to be around the holidays man...

It's just a difference in point of views, that escalated way too much. I think the only solution is do my best to get a place of our own sooner than we thought. I will still continue to talk to my mom and visit her. I just think it is time for us to have wider spaces.

- Yes, I agree with your solution of finding a new place. Consider how much you and your BF make per month and where you guys frequent and work. Affordable apartments are really hard to find in a lot of places. It takes a lot of time and research to find a decent place.

If this is the route you would like to take, let me know and I can give links and advice on searching.

think the location is what makes it hardest. I work at the convenience store as an assistant, and he works as fry man for zaxbys, it isn't a lot in the way of money, but it isn't THAT bad. Once you consider that I get paid weekly and he gets paid every two weeks. I make 9, so I bring home about 300$ a week. Which averages out anywhere between 900$ or 1200$ a month.

I also live in Tennessee, so our cost of living isn't that high.

think the location is what makes it hardest. I work at the convenience store as an assistant, and he works as fry man for zaxbys, it isn't a lot in the way of money, but it isn't THAT bad. Once you consider that I get paid weekly and he gets paid every two weeks. I make 9, so I bring home about 300$ a week. Which averages out anywhere between 900$ or 1200$ a month.

I also live in Tennessee, so our cost of living isn't that high.

think the location is what makes it hardest. I work at the convenience store as an assistant, and he works as fry man for zaxbys, it isn't a lot in the way of money, but it isn't THAT bad. Once you consider that I get paid weekly and he gets paid every two weeks. I make 9, so I bring home about 300$ a week. Which averages out anywhere between 900$ or 1200$ a month.

I also live in Tennessee, so our cost of living isn't that high.

- I'm glad I checked this thread again, as the non existent user you pinged wasn't me.

Oh, that's definitely enough money to get an apartment! And, having a lower cost of living is very helpful. What about the location is difficult? Is there nothing near work?

I am not sure if there is anything near my work. Then again, we haven't checked things like craigslist. I don't like that site though, simply because there is a lot of sketchy stuff that happens

- Here's some sites I use for apartment hunting:

Truila - This is especially helpful for its crime heat map. Even if you don't find an apartment listing in a certain street but you find it in another site, you can still use the heat map.

Zillow - It allows you to save the apartments you like best. However, it looks like this will only be helpful if you live around the major cities.

apartments.com - SUPER creative name. But, it looks like there's more town options.

apartmentguide.com - Again, creative name.

There's also some websites specific to your state, like this one.

There's so many other sites out there. Just google something like "[your town] apartments for rent". You can also drive/walk around the area you're interested in and see if there's any places for rent. Sometimes, places don't list that they're renting online.

Craigslist... Yeah, you do have to be careful. Anything that is significantly cheaper than the average is definitely a scam. Any ad that asks for personal information is a scam. Also, don't respond to an ad that instructs you to just meet the person at the apartment.

There are legit listings, and I have found a roommate before using Craiglist. You ALWAYS want to meet the renter in a public place first.