I'm on my phone so I'm going to try and make this as short as possible. Me and this dude have known each other for a year or so. We have tried to get together a few times (i assumed i was a booty call only!) but every time we made plans something came up and it just never happened. About two weeks ago we started texting again. And he told me that he had always been interested in me and he actually liked me and he wasn't in it just for sex. He's a mature guy. Early 30s, hasn't been with anyone in over a year. Has two sons. Is he playing games with me? Because over text he is super flirty and really lays it on thick. He flew me out here to visit him for the weekend and now that I am here its the complete opposite. He tried to shake my hand when he had to run to the store lol....he has hugged me but he's being pretty quiet and not flirty at all. We kissed but we were drinking and he won't even touch me or get close to me. What is going on???? I'm so confused

If you're willing to be flown out to see a guy then you need to be willing to communicate openly with that guy.

The only person who knows what is going on is him. There could be a ton of reasons from the chemistry isn't there for him to he is nervous and freaked out. Let him know that you're confused, because the chemistry over text was way better, and need to know where his head is at.

Just want to throw out that having kids and being 30-something, doesnt make someone mature.

Anyway, just talk to him. Ask him whats going on. If he is mature, then hopefully he can shed some light on the behavior difference.

I agree with on the maturity part!

I'm glad you got to see him, but maybe he is just shy? And more nervous in person? It could be he really likes you and wants to do a good impression, but just can't own up the courage to do that. Who knows - the only person that knows what he is thinking is him. You're going to have to ask and communicate with it! Best of luck!

BEYOND TRUE!!! i know mid 30's year olds who act like they are 17.

He might just be shy, I know when I meet someone for the first time, the first few hangouts/weeks together are awkward and you try not to do anything that might scare the other one away.

I'd give it a little time to see if he starts warming up to you, if not, yall might need to talk. If you go back home and stops talking to you, then you will know! Only time will tell! Good luck!

Sounds like to you need to talk to him. If he's flirty with you on the phone and not in real life, well, something has to change so it can work out between the two of you. Hope all works out~