Hi! My bf and I are college students, and so we're not the most financially stable first off. He's facing much more problems than me that I wouldn't like to go into, but basically he's not very well off at the moment money wise. Our sixth month is on Monday, his birthday is in Dec, and there's Christmas coming up but he keeps saying that he doesn't want me to buy him anything. He says the present should be under 10 dollars if I do get him something (he knows I'm stubborn) when I've already planned to buy him a sort of pricey blanket for when he plays video games and it's cold.

If you were dating someone like that, would you buy them the present anyways? I was thinking of getting it early since it's just starting to become cold here in TX, but i'm not sure if I should get him the blanket or not. He's done a lot for me, and when he was more financially stable he bought me a lot, so I feel like I should be allowed to buy him stuff, too. What do you guys think?

I say go for it. Tell him it's a combination anniversary, birthday and Christmas gift. If he knows its price, tell him that's why you felt justified in spending more; if he doesn't, don't mention anything about how much it cost (even if he asks). And, if you do give it to him early, you can always just make something for the day-of. Bake him cookies or something. You won't have spent much, but it's still a present you can give to him to make the day special.

(Also, my husband and I were BOTH born in December, and we were even married in December, too. Add Christmas into the mix... it's gonna be a busy month. I know how you feel. XD)

if it was me, when i say i don't want something, i meant it.

you know your bf better than anyone else. if he is a direct person like me, he probably meant what he says. but i doubt he will be upset if you buy it anyway ;)

I wouldn't get him anything if he really doesn't want a gift. My brother is the same way. Maybe just bake him some cookies instead to show you care? c:

If he says he doesn't want anything, he does NOT want anything. :) And I wouldn't buy presents if someone said so. It shows respect.

If someone showed up with a gift and I told them I didn't want anything, I'd be angry and disappointed. It makes me uncomfy from time to time. I think you should respect the fact that he doesn't want a gift c:

You could always make him something. There are so many online tutorials for stuff.

I'm gonna follow the majority here; please respect his wish. If he says he doesn't want a present, do not get him one. I've been in his shoes, where my ex-boyfriend directly to my face refused to respect it when I told him I didn't want him to get me a Christmas present, and showed up with one anyway. It was the worst.

I think it's a great idea to find other ways to show him that you care about him, and want to help him get through the rough patch. :)

I would respect his wishes and not get him anything. You could always make him some cookies and a nice dinner as a gift. That way you are still showing him you care but you aren't giving him a gift per say.

I suggest sticking with inexpensive stuff like his favorite snack/foods or some day to day things he would normally buy and use up. This would help relieve some of his financial burden cause he wouldn't have to buy those things for a little while longer and it's a gift! That's what I'm going to do for my boyfriend. Our story is almost the exact same haha We're in College Station, he goes to A&M.

Meybe he just wants your cosiness and nothing more. I think it's more value to give him the feeling you take him seriously to give him nothing, than to give him something, when he doesn't want get.

Just my two cents.