Today I lost my "mother." I say "mother" because she isn't my biological mother, nor a stepmother. She's the mother of one of my closest friends, and I've always just called her Mom. She's the fourth family death I've had this year, and I just don't know that I can cope anymore. But beyond my inability to cope, how do I even begin to comfort my friend? I don't want to push/pester her. I know when I lost my grandpa earlier this year, I mostly just wanted to be left alone. For the time being, I just told her I loved her and Mom, that if she needed me she knew where to find me, and I didn't care if it was 3am when she needed me.

I'm so lost right now. .____.

I'm truly sorry for your loss. It's never easy and the pain never truly goes away. I do believe that those we've lost are still always there, it's those little moments when you just know. It's good that your friend knows you're always there no matter what. Even just silence while being right next to them can mean the most. Wish I could be more of help, but I'm not too good with words, especially when it comes to things like this.

I'm so sorry. I truly hope you find healing and comfort soon.

Don't be afraid to reach out to someone if you need it. From what you've said, it sounds like you've done everything you can for your friend (for now). And while it's great that you're able to help her out if/when she needs it, you shouldn't forget to give yourself time to grieve, too, whatever you feel that entails.