Now when I saw never, I mean that the first girlfriend he did have was more or less not a good person. She did not know how to communicate with him, treated him poorly, used him financially, and the list could drag on. We have been dating for almost two months at this point, and I have been trying to navigate my way through some things since he is fairly new to dating and relationships in general (he's twenty-one and I am twenty-four, and this is my first experience with any younger guy). I am not saying I have an issue with his lack of experience, but this other girl really had a huge impact on how he views dating and his self-esteem. My experience actually put him off, and from I could tell when we first started to discuss our interest in one another and these things, may have intimidated him to an extent. I have now dated six guys (this includes him), and I have only been serious with one. I feel like I am expecting a lot more from him than what he is aware of what may come with dating, if that makes any sense in the least? I am trying to remain patient with him, and inform him of some things here and there, but at times it becomes really irritating and frustrating. Of course there is that small part of me that feels like I should not have to consistently nag or nitpick at him for certain things. He has told me to just tell him when I feel like things should change, but I don't want our time together to basically be me with a list of things he does not do for me... That's silly.

We see each other on a daily basis because we work together, but there is not much time for interaction, and we should not even show others that we are in a relationship. That is not the place for it. However, when I do spend time with him outside of work, I really enjoy our time together. He has more interest in making me happy than necessary, and actually insists that it doesn't matter what he wants as long as I am satisfied. Which is entirely untrue and a bit off-putting. And not to mention that we do not get the opportunity to really be together outside of work that often. I also understand that he is accustomed to it only being himself, and his friends from his childhood that he spent (and spends) most of his time around. I didn't have an issue with it in the beginning because I think couples should have their time apart from each other to be around these important people, but it's beginning to feel like I can usually be around when they are busy or can't find time for him. I mean, I can spend time with all three of them at once, but I tend to be the fourth wheel because his friends are overbearing people. He's invited me numerous times, and they seem to like me. I just don't believe I can take their personalities for too long. At least not for six and seven hours. I just can't? I have noticed that he just cannot tell them no every once in a while. They stay over at his house a lot. I mean a lot. They spend the night, trash his room, and are a bit... dumb. They're aware that we're dating now. We finally decided to tell them because being around each other so much, especially alone, is kind of hard to hide. They seem to ignore this though and won't give us time alone. This is my biggest battle at the moment with him. I cannot expect him to shove these people aside for me. It's only been two months after all, but it feels like I'm trying to wedge my way in at times for his time or attention.

And maybe I am overreacting, so that's why I am currently seeking some advice.

, Maybe you can tell him and his friends you might them, but you wants also more time alone with him. You can begin to ask this polite and friendly and if they don't understand how important this is for you, you could use a more clear directly and a straight way to tell them what you want.

If they understand you, the posibility to make apointments about the spend of time with you and his friends, will be much better.

Your feelings are valid and you should definitely communicate these issues with him that you are having and/or feeling. His age does not seem like an issue, but it seems his maturity level might be? You cannot mold someone to be who you want them to be, but you can help them grow into a better person than they already are. It seems like his past affected him, and now he's just getting into a new relationship and it seems like he does need some guidance. Which is challenging, yes, but the results can be worth it. If it seems to drag you on for too much, then the best decision to make for yourself is to choose to stay or leave. Your well-being and energy are important too! As for his friends, ask for alone time. Do they really have to come over for that long? Even I would be taxed after spending that much time with that many people on multiple occasions (and I'm an extrovert!). Hope this helped in any way, shape, or form!

Your feelings are valid and you should definitely communicate these issues with him that you are having and/or feeling. His age does not seem like an issue, but it seems his maturity level might be? You cannot mold someone to be who you want them to be, but you can help them grow into a better person than they already are. It seems like his past affected him, and now he's just getting into a new relationship and it seems like he does need some guidance. Which is challenging, yes, but the results can be worth it. If it seems to drag you on for too much, then the best decision to make for yourself is to choose to stay or leave. Your well-being and energy are important too! As for his friends, ask for alone time. Do they really have to come over for that long? Even I would be taxed after spending that much time with that many people on multiple occasions (and I'm an extrovert!). Hope this helped in any way, shape, or form!

Sometimes it takes awhile for people to get used to being in a relationship, especially a healthy one. The issue with his friends might not really be something you can fix, if you think you can you might need to sit him down and have a good chat with him. Despite what he says he might be a little hesitant to really spend a ton of time with you for fear of being thrown back into a super unhealthy relationship? Either way, communication is the most important thing here.

From someone who has never dated anyone (me), I can tell you it might take some time for him to understand what it's like to be in a relationship. He does seem to want to make you happy from what you've said, though I'm not sure what kind of relationship you're looking after. Wouldn't it be enough to hang out with each other? At least that's what I think relationships are for the most part. Try becoming friends with him? Imo that's a prerequisite for being in a relationship with someone but you could do both simultaneously. As for his friends, I'm not so sure what you can do. After some time passes you can tell him you need time alone away from everyone else, but since his friends have been there for a long time, I don't know if he can tell them no.