Job advice?

Today, I learned from another employee that two people who are employed at the pet store (one of my jobs), would like me "fired". Lady "S" has told this employee that I don't do a good enough job cleaning the cages or the sink. The sink in the back room is a bitch to clean and I do my best to clean and wash it out when I'm done bird cages on Sunday. I was also told that the reason why I was put on bird cages is because "S" didn't like the way I was washing the hamster cages. She said every time she came into work, the cages didn't look clean and there was always mold in the water bottles. As part of my job, I did wash and rinse the bottles. Furthermore; she mentioned that when it comes time to dusting, she has to "fight with me" so I can do my job. I'm nearly 30 and I do what I am told. We all hate dusting, that's a given.

From this same employee, I was also told that lady "D" had told her that if the pet store was her business, she would've fired my years ago because I'm not up to her standards and she would never hire me onto HER business.

This employee said she hasn't heard my boss complain about me, only "S" and "D" and that also, my boss doesn't like the fact that we should need second jobs. I'm sorry, but I can't live on $50 a week and I've never had extra shifts there. The employee (we'll call her S2) gets all the extra shifts. It's never me and she's been working there one year before me.

What should I do?

Also off the topic on the pet store, at my other job an employee had a birthday yesterday. She invited everyone at the store, except me. I feel so unliked right now, I just want to cry.

P.S. I have been fired from this pet store before, but I was a kid.. I don't know how old I was... probably anywhere from 19-22. I was young, I admit that.

I know you have good advice

I have good advice? o-o I'll try to live up to that ^-^ Sorry for the delay, and sorry for the undoubtedly long response. I wanted to give this some thought.

In your approach, I think a lot depends on who holds the power. You said that your boss hasn't been complaining to your knowledge (which of course is very good). My question is, do lady "S" or "D" have a higher status than you in the hierarchy? Either way in the short term, I would try to tilt the way you see this on its side. Right now you are seeing "S" and "D" as adversaries because they are admittedly saying hurtful things and making life difficult for you. If you go into it considering the other people adversaries though (whether you confront them or not) they will treat you in kind. I'd vote for (at least starting out with) a non-combative stance. For example: If they have a problem with the way you do a specific thing, maybe ask them if they have any suggestions since they have been there longer. "I've been working hard to clean the bird cages, but I don't think they're quite up to your standards. Do you have any suggestions on how to do the job more efficiently?" If there's actually a better way to do things then groovy you may get free tips. If there isn't then it still acknowledges them as a person and recognizes their opinions, which is a big step in communication of any kind. I'm not saying any of this is easy, especially when sometimes all you want to do is bop them on the head for being annoying. BUT I think it may start to change the tone of communication between you, making the situation suck less. ^-^

As to the party. I honestly have no idea. That feeling just always hurts. Sometimes you just need to ride the emotions out and when you're calm again make a point to talk to that person who held the party. It could be something as harmless as they felt they didn't know you well enough, it could be malicious, it could be rude. At this point you don't know, and the only way to know is to be at a point where the party-giver feels they can be honest with you about that. As a bonus it may improve relations so the next time around you don't have to feel like this. If you want to vent properly about it though let me know? <3

My youngest brother told me not to say anything and to keep pretending that I know nothing. He also said that if I were to get fired, to tell my boss that "I get treated better at [other job]"

I confronted the party holder on FB. She said it was party for some close friends, but I could've come if I wanted. Well, FU.

I can see where that might be a stop-gap method in the short term. My main problem with it is that his method would not address the problem or try to change the root of it. Oh my. Well that's a bit of a slap in the face. Maybe next time make a point of talking to the person when you're less upset so you can go about it more calmly and if it happens again it doesn't hurt as much?

My dad sort of made me feel better. He told me not to say what my brother said. My dad said that "S" and "D"... those are just their opinions and that they are not the boss. Those are mean comments that are meant to hurt someone. I've been working for my boss for about 5-6 years now. My dad said obviously she keeps me for a reason, although she does get on my case sometimes about something that I didn't do. My dad also said that if "S" and "D" do influence my bosses' decision to fire me, to then tell my boss that if she keeps listening to them, all of the staff will be gone. If that were to happen, it just be all be the seniors working.

About situation , my coworker said that we can hang out and do something if "I like". Fuck no. It hurt not to get invited.

Well I'm certainly glad that your dad could help ^-^

1. Maybe now is the time to ask for a review from your boss. Just a casual 'hey can I be doing anything better?' is easiest. It could help quell your fears, and if there is any validity to their comments, it will come up and you can do something about it before it does escalate. If it is just straight cruelty, they chose the person they knew would open their mouth to you.

2. Yeah I wouldn't accept an invite after either, because it's forced now. You definitely know where you stand with her now though, which isn't much of a consolation really.

I agree with about asking for a review, or just maybe having a small sit-down with your boss and just have a chat (and possibly request more hours?) Also like your dad said, your boss obviously keeps you around for a reason, no one would keep someone around that long if they didn't like the work they did, or had some faith in them to do their job correctly.

Also I really, really wouldn't bother with the party girl. I definitely know it hurts to have something like that happen, but it's probably for the best if these people are treating you like this regardless.

I would maybe suggest to your boss about doing some team building stuff. Just to kind of see one another outside the workplace and sort of get a better read on things as it seems to be quite uncomfortable between you and the other staff.

That's a good idea about having a sit down with my boss. I never thought of that. Also, my boss doesn't really like to fire people. There's this younger girl who works there (her neighbour to be exact) and she's on her phone the whole entire shift, so I've heard. I've worked with her before and she just stood there and talked to me the whole 4 hours.

I hate having hostile co-workers. It makes every day of going into work a huge drag. How invested are you in this job? If I were you, I'd definitely start looking elsewhere. Don't quit until you have something else lined up, of course.

You don't need those people in your life. Even if you like the boss, even if you like the pet store. I've been in that same situation before, and it wears you down.