So…questions of a more personal nature. I had a really weird dream last week that leads me to believe I may not be done finding myself. So…what does it mean to…

like girls, but more sexually than romantically.

like guys, but only as romantic suitors and not the other thing.

be into chicas sexually, but also have an aversion to sex.

love your femininity but secretly long to go andro (because chicks who dress like dudes are pretty sexy)

Formerly, I’d ascribed to biromantic greysexual homosexual, but…I’m not sure that’s entirely correct now

I'm actually pretty close to the same way. I'm sexually attracted to women, but not men; and yet romantically attracted to men, but not women. That being said, I can develop a sexual attraction to a man once romantic feelings have been established. In the end I ended up marrying a man, because in my case I found it was a much stronger foundation to build a relationship on.

When it comes to telling other people what my sexuality is (if I choose to), I usually just dumb it down to "bi", because it's simple and people understand the gist of it. If I want to try and describe it a little more accurately, it's more like I'm homosexual, yet heteroromantic.

Though, I will admit, I do try and avoid defining it any further than that with complicated or uncomprehensible labels. I honestly mean no offence by saying this; it's just a personal preference of mine. Of course anyone can call themselves whatever it is they're most comfortable with - I just don't care to label myself in such a way that would make explaining my sexuality more complicated than it really needs to be. If someone wants to know the finer details, we can discuss it; but I'm not going to bother confusing them with terms they've never even heard of. But, again, that's just me. =)

In any case, my advice is to not overthink it too much - especially if you're feeling overwhelmed by it. I can relate to wanting to understand your own sexuality as much as you can, but sometimes it's not as simple as black or white. Just take a deep breath; you don't have to have it all figured out today.

Sexual orientation has to do with sexual attraction. It's possible you're only romantically attracted to men because of heteronormativity -- if you don't feel sexually attracted to them, it's possible you're a lesbian. Deciding how to present yourself (feminine vs. not) doesn't change your femaleness. Like , I don't prescribe to any labels beyond sexual orientation - straight, gay, or bi. The addition of new labels as a fun thing to put in your bio seem to be an internet trend and a result of identity politics.

I understand exactly. For all intents and purposes, I tend to simplify myself and just go "gay", though I do like the specificity of extended labels. I think I could be romantically attracted to women, it's just... It's hard to explain. I've always seen more a romantic involvement with a man, though the other sense cannot be so. I never wanted to marry. I never could see myself as a "wife", and I've always hated the idea of the pomp, circumstance, and attention of a wedding. However, I have always known I was going to adopt children, rather than have my own. (It's complicated) Yeah, I had a feeling it would come to "just wait and see." The thing that throws this all off a bit, though? I've had two (platonic, schoolbound) boyfriends, but I've never really gotten into a female relationship. As I jokingly say to myself, I don't really know how to lesbian.

I'm definitely not sexually attracted to men. I've seen...online things, and it's led me to just be utterly disgusted by them. No, thank you.

I think you might be overthinking things a little. Sexuality is fluid. It is an undeniable gray area. Gender can also be fluid. Finding yourself can be a lifetime process and it will morph and adjust as you grow and cross pathways with others throughout every stage of your being. It's completely fine to not have a label, or feel you have one and change it the next day.

It's normal to be sexually attracted to women because the society we were raised in teaches young men to look at women as sex objects rather than human beings with deep personalities, and when a girl feels that way it's partly because we are only the byproduct of that sort of marketing. It's important to keep that in mind.

Thank you, and that is constantly in my mind. However, I am inclined to believe it's a tad more than that with me. But...I'm an artist. I might yet discover that there isn't an actual attraction beyond the fact that I hold women as God's most beautiful creatures.

I'm still trying to figure myself out and I'm 28. I don't know what I am, but I think girls and guys are pretty hot. I'll make a comment to my mom or brother about a girls chest or her ass (my mom doesn't like hearing things like that), or my mom and I will check out hot guys. I also have sexual dreams about girl/girl, as well as girl/guy. I've had relationships with men (friends with benefits) and I'm not a fan of sperm. I actually think it's pretty gross.

So, what do you think?

I can see a guy as good-looking, but not containing any actual sexual appeal. I prefer cute to anything that would be "hot" or sexy. I haven't had relationships but for two school-bound, platonic affairs with guys. I know I'm only interested in guys romantically, not sexually. Dream-wise, the best ones are the chica dreams.

You sound like you're bisexual, but I don't know about the spectrum beyond gay/bi/trans. I know it delves into demisexual, blah blah. Nitty-gritty stuff.

Don't label yourself. You can use a generic definitition peharps for people that are not really in the known about the categories.

I've always thought that I was bi. I've dated only girls since my teens and tbh I've never done anything sexual, let alone kissing. So I'm pretty sure I'm ace and rarely blending into the demiromantic spectrum. I just don't see myself with a partner or having feelings for someone. It gets complicated, so don't stress with it.

I'm with on this one. Orientations aren't a hard-and-fast thing. Labels are only a tool, and they can be useful or they may not be. You don't need to feel pressured into finding the exact set of labels that work for you; it may be more productive to just find partner(s) that work for you c:

Assuming you're female, the labels I'd pick out from your OP are: homosexual, and heteroromantic or biromantic. I have no idea what chicas are, sorry!

Chica=Spanish for "girl" :D Heteroro- or biro/homo. Sounds like I went right back where I started LOL Sorry for the choppy brief response, little time left. But thanks for the input!