Hello Subetians! FYI: Some things explained may be considered a bit TMI so please read upon your own risks <:

Alright, so I have a doctors appointment scheduled for this coming thursday. And just with any other visit, I am super nervous about going. Its an appointment with an OB/GYN because I'm a little concerned that my period hasn't started. I was suppose to start a little over two weeks ago; knowing so because I'd complained a week before thinking "I'm going to be on my period on my birthday, its going so suck, gonna be miserable and grumpy, blah, blah, blah." (I was suppose to start on 6/28 or 6/29 ... my birthday was 7/5)

Now; before jumping the gun: I did consider my lifestyle, how stressed I've been and the fact that I have abnormal periods. [li] I was working the grave yard shift at waffle house - super stressed and miserable job. I did quit. (woo!) [li] Yes I'm sexually active with my boyfriend. [li] I'd just moved to the state of Ohio from the mountains of North Carolina [li] I stress very easily, and I'm a nervous person over all [li] No, I cannot be on BC because of my medical history - and I am not willing to risk those non-hormonal BC's

Generally if I am super stressed, my period is about three days late, so for me to be going on two weeks later and I STILL haven't started, has raised some alarms, I've also been taking note of some weird abnormalities/symptoms that have been reoccurring:

[li] By 3a.m.-4a.m. This wave of nausea literally crashes over me. I haven't reached to the point of vomiting but I have had some close calls. [li] Fatigue : I've got a pretty balanced sleep schedule since quitting from Waffle House. This does not mean I wont stay up til the crack of dawn because I'm a night owl though normally I can get through the day pretty fine. Lately I've felt completely drained and exhausted. I can take a 1-2 hour nap and still feel like I've not slept. [li] Mood Swings - (this isnt really abnormal cause I have these all the time ) - I've been super pissy, or overly emotional lately and I've caught myself in the middle of them |: And I've cried at the littlest of things, including my nephews cute little video of him playing with a coke bottle when he was still crawling OTL [li] Cravings - I either want something or I go to get something to eat and suddenly lose my appetite

Have you taken a take-home pregnancy test? Yes. I took two of them about five days after I realized that my period hadn't started like it should have. Both of which came out negative. The only issue I have here, is that when I read the instructions (wat) - it stated that if you go certain amount of time without taking the test that the results may not be accurate.

Also: When I normally CONSIDER taking a preg. test my period is like LOLTROLLED. IM HERE. and just Chuck-Norris punch me. And I still haven't started.

So: I'm super nervous for Thursday. Part of me is like: AMG IM PREGNANT :D and the other part of me is like OH MY GOD IM PREGNANT T-T We weren't planning a baby any time soon but I'm kind of excited? But super scared at the same time. What if I am? What if I'm not? I feel like I'm going to be disappointed if I'm not but at the same time I don't even know ;-;

It's hard to say without your doc confirming one way or another, so try and not freak out too much (good or bad) until you know for sure. You already know this, but if you're not pregnant, freaking out about it can delay things. You can also be experiencing psychosomatic symptoms, which just confuses things even more. So, for a lack of a better phrase, don't count your chickens before they hatch. =P

If you think you got a false negative from an at-home pregnancy test, it's best to wait at least three days before testing again. It's possible you tested too early for the hCG in your urine to be detectable, so waiting a few days is best if you're still not convinced it was accurate. Some women find it helps to use the first pee of the day, right after you wake up; but if you do decide to test mid/late day, just be sure you aren't diluting your results by chugging a bunch of water beforehand.

Sometimes urine tests aren't enough to confirm, and if you still get a negative result your doc will likely request a blood sample to confirm once and for all. Depending on the lab, it can take a few days before you'll know the results, so be prepared for that.

Keep in mind that average, healthy, fertile couples have about a 20% chance of conceiving in any given month they're actively trying. That being said? Both my sister and I are living proof that the "rythm method" (tracking your cycle and not having sex on fertile days) does not work. As in neither she or I would be alive today if it weren't for my parents using this method as their "birth control" (you think they'd have gathered that once I came around, but nope! Hello, little sister! XD I'm not complaining, mind you =P). Long story short? Assume pregnancy is always possible when not using birth control (and even then, no BC is 100% effective).

I don't know your medical history, but if having a child right now isn't in your plans, you really should look into your birth control options a little more. Perhaps discuss them with your doctor when you see them on Thursday? They would be able to recommend something that would suit your more specific needs better than I can, in any case. Even a less than ideal option could be better than nothing, if being a parent is something you feel you aren't quite ready for.

In any case, feeling nervous, excited, scared - they're all natural reactions. If you feel you need someone to talk to, regardless of how this all unfolds, you can always message me. =)

Thank you so much for your input. I'm trying really hard not to get ahead of myself - some how much instinct is telling me things otherwise. When I went out other other day literally, all I heard were baby-topic related conversations and stood there among myself and just gave the :| face. I'm mostly going in preparing to be told that I'm not going to be expecting (also getting a pain medication refilled because of painful cramps when mother nature does come knocking) I kind of want to be, but at the same time, I don't even know if I am prepared for that change in lifestyle. My nephew is proof that the rhythm method does not work - though my sister in law swears by the books despite stressing to her that it doesn't work like that. My boyfriend and I kind of use the "pull-out method" before climax. (TMI I know lol) I honestly do not want to go to the doctor but I know I kind of have to T-T

If you think you are, you will have the symptoms, no doubt.

I once was 12 days late (my periods are always on point), thought I had all those symptoms and went to my doctor and turned out I was not :p And wouldn't you know it, my damn period came a day after! I was so worried that I would imagine symptoms, (this still happens with everything, your mind is a powerful thing)

If you are, it might still be too early to test but if you are two weeks late USUALLY a pregnant woman would have enough HCG to show a positive on the test. But everyone's different and you could have a one of the unique scenarios.

Whatever the case may be, im sure you'll be fine!

Good luck! ❤

Thank you ^_^

Edit; 7/16

I have the possibility of being pregnant. But they do not know for sure yet - if I don't start soon I need to go get blood drawn. She also mentioned that because my mom had a PE she recommended that I get screened for some blood clotting disease. I am to take a pregnancy test next week and then the following week. Urine samples sometimes aren't enough, and theres the chance that it could be an ectopic pregnancy. But there is just no way of knowing at this moment.

She also stated that its not healthy to be living in stressful environment because I can make myself physically sick. I need to find ways to distract myself as difficult as it sounds, and I need to work on a healthier eating habit and start exercising. I'm not over weight (I actually lost 4-5 lbs) I just need to have a healthy lifestyle lol.

Yeah, I kind of suspected they might say something like that.

I don't know if your doctor mentioned it, but I'd recommend you start taking either prenatal vitamins or a multivitamin that has folic acid in it. If it turns out you are pregnant (and plan to keep it), you're going to be glad you did. Even if you're not, it'll still help with that whole "healthy living" thing - at least until your eating habits improve (I mean, no one wants to have to take vitamins forever, right? =P).

A harsh reality is that even if you and your partner are entirely healthy, there's still a one in four chance it could end in miscarriage. There's a lot that can go wrong in the first trimester, and for the most part it will be entirely out of your control (blood clotting issues was one of the things I was tested for for this same reason). The best you can do is make sure you're taking care of yourself as best you can, and try and relax.

The next week or two are probably going to feel like the longest ever, so finding a distraction would be a very good idea, just in general. =P

(And, going back to your previous reply: I know what you mean about baby-related topics constantly popping up all around you. My husband and I have been trying for 2+ years and that's pretty much been my every day since. D= haha)

The concerns that were raised was the potential blood clotting disorder that I may or may not have/potentially be at risk for one way or another especially if there is the chance that I am pregnant. My mom had three miscarriages and has had complications with every single one of her pregnancies. She told me to take another pregnancy test next week, and one after and to not to be sexually active during that time frame (-dies on the inside-) Regardless of the baby; hell yes if I am do I plan on keeping it lol. My boyfriend and I already decided on that. I'm trying to drop heavy hints on my friends that We. Can. Not. keep. Staying. in. this current. house. Because of the environment. There are 10 dogs, 7 Cats (four out door and three kittens) and five people living in this house right now. And I can't keep doing this. Not if there is the potential of me being pregnant.

Haha I figured you'd be planning on keeping it based on some of your previous comments, but I didn't want to assume. =P

It's good your doctor is looking into those things for you; even if you aren't pregnant now, it's still good information to have for the future. I'm also glad to hear you've been discussing this with your boyfriend. I know some women prefer to know for sure before telling their partners, but I've always felt full transparency to be best. Now you know you'll have his support, regardless of the outcome - and that's always reassuring.

And holy crap! I don't care how big of an animal lover you are, that'd be enough to stress out anyone. I mean, the busiest house I ever lived in only had two dogs and five cats and I thought that was insane. I hope they'll be able to understand, pregnancy or no, that living in that kind of chaotic environment definitely isn't for everyone. D=

Oh definitely. I just wish I had more questions answered. But at the same time, she told me it may be too early to determine which is why she wants to wait on doing any blood tests to determine. (That and needles nothankyoupls)

And even as an animal lover, I know my limit. Three is enough. My boyfriend and I technically have four but I wouldn't be upset if we found Faye, (Corgi/Pug/Dashchund) a better home. I'd really wish they would find all of the kittens a home, as much as I adore one of them, I dont think the dogs will inevitably do well with them when we do finally get the house. My labrador likes to nip at them as it is. x.e It's - yes its very stressful. And despite what they say I don't think anyone understands.