so i'm no good at talking on forums or talking to people that i don't know; i'm always very on-and-off on websites (been on subeta 7 years, never talked much on the forums but ALWAYS came back in time for my free totems lol...) and i have intense amounts of (social and general) anxiety when making sure i'm not bumping a topic or otherwise posting something irrelevant to a topic or saying something that might get people mad at me

SO

here is a topic all about that feel when. that feel when something goes wrong. that feel when the forums are overwhelming or scary and you don't talk much because of it. that feel when you suck at socialization or social situations in general

that feel when

- This feeling you're describing is all too real.

I used to have terrible social anxiety and felt like no one cared to talk to me, because I was too awkward or whatever. I stayed away from people and was a loner up until two years ago.

I once tried a forum about 7 years ago on another site. I was doing okay for a few days, but then I got a strike for whatever dumb thing it was. This made me shut down and not go back to the forum. I also didn't go to any other forum or want to chat in any other site, because I was scared of getting in trouble due to my inability to socialize.

It's a feeling that takes years to get over. Luckily, Subeta's forums are very welcoming and accepting, so I was able to get over my anxiety with online chatting because of this community. :)

i used to be on the flight rising forums, and i was on the forums once during a time of total drama; i gave my input on something and was ganged up on and insulted to my face, which caused me to not go back to the forums ever again

i used to be in a cult on subeta, but i, being the autistic soul that i am, misunderstood the point of pinging, and someone told me to stop doing it, so i closed the topic and quit the cult (as best to my ability) and haven't really looked at cults since

i need people to like. show me how to do things or i can't really DO them, or i get scared that i will automatically mess up; i have had nightmares about driving a car since i was four and hell, i had one last night too; shit's serious and i cannot even begin to believe how bad it is lMAO

i do hope that this community is good tho; last time i was told that about a community, it ended up with some pretty awful folk populating every board :'I

So often I feel like nothing I have to say really means anything worthwhile. I'll type something out and then be all 'What the fuck's the point?!' and delete it. Sociophobia and anxiety suck.

- That's horrible. I'm sorry you had to deal with being ganged up on.

Unfortunately, every community has those bad people. I've learned the best thing to do is ignore those types and only respond to the good ones.

Yeah, there are people that teach differently. The ones that yell at you for your mistakes also scare me.

Hopefully, you get a more positive experience this time around.

thanks bro, i really appreciate the kind words and that is true, about the community thing, but the negative comments will always, always outweigh the positive, and one bad thing will cut through a giant positive heap like butter, so. tfw

i do hope i get a positive experience, esp here where it seems everyone is pretty chill and relaxed (though the places i WOULD like to frequent are still so alien to me that i shy away, whoops...)

i feel that rly hard, especially with friends that i was super close with maybe a year or two ago but then we just stopped talking and now i'm terrified to talk to them and i wonder if they hate me or smth (whether or not that's true is up for debate but i will never find out on my own, so, rest in pieces me)

- :)

As for the places that you would like to frequent, lurk them for a bit. Get a feel for the overall atmosphere. If it's a good atmosphere, go for it. If it looks like it could give you anxiety, step away from it and try again in a few weeks or so.