I'm planning to run away from home. I'm tired of putting up with half the crap that people tell me and do to me, and now I wish to run away and never look back. I'm done with school. I'm done with my family. I'm done with my whole life. Why should I stick with what I have if everything makes me miserable? Why should I stay? I'm not gonna put up with whatever and expect something good to come out of it. Tell me one reason why I should never run from my problems?

It sounds like you're very angry about something.

But I don't think anyone can give you a satisfactory answer without knowing the details of the situation.

I do know that life can get frustrating, especially when you're young but old enough to want to be independent. It can even be painful or scary at times. But trust me - and I'm speaking from personal experience here - unless your life is in immediate danger, there are always better, and safer options than running away.

If you want to talk, but don't want to go into details in public, my inbox is open and I'm willing to listen, okay? I promise I won't judge you over how you're feeling. I know what it's like to feel angry and alone.

I agree with Saren. Life can get extremely frustrating, and even people you care about can make it so. I don't know the full details or why you have been pushed to the point of leaving your home. If you want to talk my inbox is open so feel free to shoot me a message if you want to vent. No judgement here.

. I ran away from home when I was 19. I drove 1,832 miles to Texas with about $650. After 3 days of staying with someone I met on Xbox live (who didn't murder or rape me) I found a job and an apartment. I also immediately adopted a kitten because I've always wanted one. I did not know food stamps existed and I was spending too much on rent/heat/ac/cat food + toys that I decided to steal food and other stuff from Wal Mart. Yes this was dumb. This landed me in jail for 5 days and 4 nights and a class B misdemeanor on my record (which is still there 3 years later.) I wish I had known about food stamps. I lost my job and apartment and was homeless for a bit until one of my new friends let me stay with him. He had an extra bedroom in his apartment. After a month I got a job at Massage Envy holding a sign out on the highway. On my breaks I'd talk to the therapists and they said it was really easy coursework, only 6 months of classes, less than 3 grand total. I then got into a car accident after 2 weeks at this job. I had to go back home to live with my parents again until I healed. I immediately went back to Texas 4 months later to start massage school. I am now running a successful business with a chiropractor and also working at Massage Envy as a therapist. However I am back home again because I injured myself again, but I don't want to share that story, it's a little embarrassing dumb drunk story. I am not glad to be back home, I miss Texas very much. But I wouldn't make nearly as much money down there and probably wouldn't have my independent business.

Anyway, in short, I think you should leave home. Please know that food stamps exist and are very helpful and easy to get. If you decide to adopt, I wouldn't go for a dog because those are expensive. Look for studio apartments, they don't have a bedroom but they can be cheap depending on which state you choose (if you're American.)

And most of all, save save save your money!!! If you're going to drive far away somewhere, take canned food and eat that so you're only spending money on gas. Don't speed. On my way to Texas I got pulled over in Virginia for doing 90 in a 70. Over 81mph is considered reckless driving and I was fined $333 and was expected to show up in court but I was actually in jail on the day I was supposed to be in court lol so obviously that didn't go over well. My drivers license was suspended for 16 months after this. I was unaware for a looooong time, that's why it was suspended for so long.

Annnnnnyway, traveling is fun but very dangerous so leave prepared! And have fun and be safe! Lock your car doors! Good luck!

First off all: Please take a deep breath and calm down. Second: Call for help. I don't know where you live, but please look it up on the internet.

Running away is not the damn solution. Be safe.

I disagree, read my post. Running away was the best idea I've ever had. Obviously a lot of negative things happened to me but I overcame them and made myself a better person with an awesome career.

I see your point but this is not a debate and I won't engage in any type of confrontation. I just want to make sure that this user is calm enough to make a good decision.

That is a good idea, I wasn't so calm and collected when I decided to run away. But I didn't talk to anyone about it, I just one day up and left. Hopefully this topic gives the OP some insight.

You were 19, I doubt OP is that old. What you did was reckless and dangerous and shows that you are still very immature to believe that is a good option. I hope you at least have the maturity to realize you made a dangerous mistake encouraging someone who is clearly a child to follow in your adult mistakes. You are not providing insight, you are promoting dangerous life choices to someone in a fragile state.

Please, for your own good, stay at home. Running away is not glamorous, or a solution. Notice how the only person who told you to do it has been in jail? Well I haven't ever been in jail, and I'm attending college a year early. So I think it's safe to say I have a bit more experience with reaching your end goals. Everyone else, including me, is urging you to stay at home. Find a therapist to talk to, find internet friends to confide in, heck, you've already started that, find a tutor to help me school, but remember that running away is the seemingly easy option that has a lot of consequences later. If you don't want to end up poor, stealing, depending on people who very well may murder you, kidnapped, or worse, and believe me there's worse, stay at home. I hate to be this harsh, but running away is a foolish and immature option that truly shows how desperately you need professional help. I have reported this thread, not because you shouldn't have posted, and I'm very glad you thought to reach out to someone before making a destructive decision, but so the admins can hopefully find your IP address and parents, somehow.

First of all, how do you know how old OP is? How is OP "clearly a child"? How old are they? Second of all, I run my own successful business and pull in over $500 a week, how is that immature? I was in the exact same position OP was in, I just didn't post about it online. I too was in a "fragile state." The main reason I left was because my boyfriend broke up with me, I failed a suicide attempt, and wanted to get out of my tiny town and away from my ex and all his friends. I think I have a right to encourage someone to pursue a new life somewhere else. Also, did I say I was providing insight? No. I shared MY story. You are so rude. Running away was the best thing I ever did. If I didn't run away I'd be flipping burgers or some other minimum wage job instead of pursuing my passion in helping others feel better. Living on your own without other people telling you what do to gives you time to figure out what you really want and I think OP needs that.

Edit: I was in jail for stealing food because I didn't know food stamps existed. Wow. Learn how to read. You are so mean for no reason. Not everyone can afford college or therapists.

You did say that, first of all.

Second of all, I may be rude, but you're dangerous.

Third of all, my mother is making over $1,400 a week running one of her two businesses, so honey please. 500 a week is 26,000 a year. That's barely enough for food and an apartment, nevermind unexpected medical expenses. A "successful" business makes a crapload more than $500 a week. That you don't know that proves that you're still, financially at very least, immature. That you're encouraging reckless behavior shows that you're emotionally immature.

Fourth of all, no mature person posts on a website full of strangers that they're running away and uses a syntax like that. Their prose was immature and unformed, signaling either a lack of education or maturity. By the nature of their post, I was able to deduce immaturity.

Fifth of all, what OP needs is help and support in a safe environment, which will be much harder to find if they run away.

Sixth of all, ok great you're pursuing something you love. You are a 1 in a million "success" story, and I say "success" because you're still barely making enough money, but most people need college to pursue their dreams. And that becomes exceedingly difficult the less supports you have, as you're

as you put it.

So could you please just stop encouraging dangerous behavior just because you're the statistical anomaly that still has a criminal record and couldn't even afford the mortgage for a decent house in a nice neighborhood, much less the costs associated with that. needs to realize the example you're setting isn't exactly a life of luxuries, and that you are a terrible example to be following.

There are all kinds of people in this world with different personalities. Running off and being independent may have worked out for you even though times are tough. I don't know your background or how horrible life really was for you back home to drive you to leave a family and friends who care about you and were probably extremely worried about you (again don't know your home life)

However, the same holds true for the OP. We don't know the kind of person he is, what problems he suffers from and running away to be on his own could be extremely dangerous and he wrong decision. They shouldn't make a life changing decision like this when they are not thinking straight.

Running away from your problems is never the answer, you need to face them. I don't know what your home life is like but you need to think straight if you run away. Where would you go? If you run away, you'll have no job, no home, no life. You'll need to pay bills, rent, utilites (electric, water, sewage, etc), money for food and clothes. If you have a car, that will be even more expensive. You'll have gas bills, maintenance like oil changes, filter changes and if your car breaks down, that will cost money as well. Even if you think you have a friend you can live off of for free, that will be very straining on them.

Life is hard now, but it could always be worse. Go away to college, get yourself a good degree to get yourself a good job to live your own life, happy. Whenever you feel like quitting, just motivate yourself to finish school, think how going away to school means you don't have to stay home, even if you have to take out loans to stay in school because then you will get out with a good job and never have to look back. Things will get better. Even if you think you've hit rock bottom, things can only get better from there.

I didn't say I was giving insight, I was saying the whole board was insight not my specific post.

Okay. I'm a massage therapist. How many massages do you think I can give in a week before I collapse? I work between 12-15+ hours a week. For that many hours, that amount of money is pretty damn good. My business is successful for the field I am in. I have regular clients including a woman who sees me 3 times a week and has been coming to me since the end of November 2014. I opened my business October 2014.

I am 21 years old. Don't compare me to a woman who has been around long enough to give birth to a child who is now in college. Seriously? How do you expect me to compare to that?

I am not financially immature. I am doing very well for myself and my cat nowadays. I have no issues whatsoever. I have no idea why you're being so snobby. I am being supportive. Like I previously stated, running away was the best decision I ever made.

Or maybe they didn't want to tell their entire life story? Or maybe they were tired? Or maybe they were distracted? There are a million reasons people don't use proper grammar. Especially when I'm texting my sentences are barely sentences. You are looking way too far into this.

I went to college. I am now making $50 an hour. That is success. No quotations. Dream come true.

I'm not encouraging anything. I shared my story. I'm sorry I got hungry and wanted to eat. But you are right. I should have just became an anorexic. I don't know what else to tell you. I was hungry and I wanted food. That makes me a criminal. Mortgage? I was living in an efficiency apartment making $7.25 an hour. I didn't even own a bed. The one window I had didn't even lock. "Decent neighborhood" ya have you ever been to Texas? I got cat called by Mexicans whenever I left my apartment. Someone was actually murdered down the street from where I lived in a different apartment complex. We didn't even have grass, just a giant mud puddle. It wasn't "decent" nor was it a "neighborhood." I got over all that, that was 3 years ago. I'm not a thief and I'm making good money for myself. This conversation is over. I'm blocking you now. You're a bitch.

(not gonna ping since I don't know if this is still relevant since it's been four days since your post, but posting anyway just in case it helps anyone...)

I'm not really in a position to tell you that running away is not the answer, because life isn't that black and white. However, there are factors and things to think about. Sometimes we make choices in the heat of the moment that we end up regretting later. I've ran away twice in my life, both occurring right after huge fight with my parents. I'm not gonna go into too much details unless you want me to, but basically, the first time I ran away, I was 15 (almost 16). Not having having finished school or a job didn't really pan out for me. LUCKILY, for me, after a week, my parents texted me to come home...much to my relief. Being as stubborn as I was, I would not have returned home until they begged/forced me to somehow no matter how miserable I was. And I was MISERABLE because it's gets pretty hard humid and hot where I live. And it's scary on the streets in the middle of the night. I was hungry a lot (c'mon, I was a teenage boy). Running away only works if you have the means to legally support yourself.

The second time I left home worked out better for me because I did have a decent job. I was in college. I mean, things were still hard but I had the means to get housing and food. Plus, at this point in my life, I had a real life friend who let me crash at his place until I got my shit together. At first, I was sleeping in my car though until he found out, lol. I feel like someone might say I was just moving out since I was an adult and in college, but I call it running away because I left home with nothing except my car and wallet. The thing is, I did move out before all this but then I moved back for reasons (not financial reasons). But yeah, I left home because of an argument with my parents (and we've never talked since). My sister was kind enough to bring me some essentials....like my laptop and some clothes.

Sorry, so much for not going into details, but I'm actually just summarizing, haha. Life's gonna be tough. You should know. I read that you have depression. That's something you should take into account before you make any decisions. Maybe, after a cooling off period, things won't feel the same. It's inevitable that some days are good and others bad. I obviously don't know what your situation is so I can't tell you what to do, but if you haven't already made a decision, please also consider safety and health. Anyway, stay safe, Jaey.

Adults (which you are at 19) don't "run away from home." Even if you're living with your parents, leaving their home to try to establish your own life is healthy and normal, even if it sometimes involves doing things like staying with a friend or living in your car for a while.

Minors "run away from home." It is not healthy, normal, or safe, not to mention the fact that encouraging it is a crime ("contributing to the delinquency of a minor" and/or "assisting a runaway.")

I pray that your irresponsible behavior in this thread hasn't resulted in getting hurt. Or worse.

I'm done with this board, stop pinging me.

"Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle"

We really don't know someone else's entire situation, and even if we did who's to say what would work for one would work for someone else? There is some very good, sober advice for OP. I feel that soup's story was equally important. OP asked for pros and cons of running away. Whatever he decided, it's a positive there are multiple perspectives and resources on Subeta. Soup leveled with Rowan and was very forthcoming about her experience. (Other people did, too, but she seemed to take the most heat).

We assumed Rowan is a minor, but that has more to do with the law than actual competence to live on your own, imo. Anywayyy I think changing your life to make yourself happy is healthy; whereas maintaining a situation that makes you depressed will continue to wear on you. We all want you to be happy, we just hope you take the safest/easiest path to get there! Sometimes mistakes are inevitable, but learning from them is all up to you.