Long Story short: I can't forget my ex. He hurts me in many ways, is pretty much toxic for me with his behaviour and I can't keep carrying on with this.

After we didn't talk for a week he told me "Yeah, I really want to see you. Have some fun with you (you know in what kind of way), but there's a little problem: I have something going on with another girl". He also texted me how he loved me and missed me and that we've had a lot of fun when we were together (yeah, that's actually right). I've deleted him from everywhere but he can still send me sms since he still has my number (and my phone won't let me block sms somehow). I've always told him he should stop with his sexual innuendos and that it really hurts me how he treats me now (he just wants to be friends with me now but also wants to fuck me), I think I don't deserve this. The problem is I still kinda love him...I was happy for the first time in my life when we were together after a broken relationship. So now I'm sitting here, drunk as fuck and still crying over his ass. I really want to forget him but I just can't. And all those "stop already you're hurting me you little shit" e-mails I've been sending doesn't seem to do a thing with him. He's always like "Oh okay. I respect your decision bye" and it all starts again. And it's driving me mad because he does all the nice things you do with someone you like with another girl (he told me I even know her which makes it even worse). But everytime he writes I have the huge urge to text him back.

This makes me so sad and enraged that I couldn't even have fun with my best friend today, she even did everything just to make me laugh...I feel THAT horrible. I also noticed I have huge problems with letting stuff/people go. I'm going to bed now and try to catch up some sleep (it's 3 am here), I hope my mood is a bit up tomorrow, but I doubt it. Bleeeh. Can somebody give me some tips to get over him and ignore him? It would be so appreciated, most of my friends don't understand it since they've all been in long-term relationships or are married...

First things first, what your going through is completely normal, and your not alone in your feelings. It's hard to get over someone you've grown so attached to, and want to be around.

At the end of the day, if he makes you feel this way, regardless of however else he makes you feel, then it really is the end of the line.

Your not going to just get over it overnight, and you can't just block it all out, oh how I wish that was possible.

You have to have will power, to not reply. Replying only adds fuel to the fire, and starts up a conversation, which you really don't need :(

Surround yourself with friends, and just generally keeping yourself busy are really good steps to getting over someone.

I hope this helps a little :3

i have the same problem; i have trouble letting things and people go. honestly, i can keep things against people for years and even if we left on amicable terms i can't seem to just fully "let go." i think the best thing in this case would be to really just stop him being able to contact you at all. speak to your provider to find out a way to block his number or just really lay it out for him. sometimes people (read: men) don't seem to understand that no means no and when you say not to contact you anymore, then that means not at all under any circumstances. you'll never be able to get over any feelings toward him if he's still contacting you and you allow him to do so (even if a part of you does want him to, but you know it's in your best interests not to.)

i found that getting rid of anything that reminds you of that person (either gifts they'd given to you, or just anything you associate with them) really helps. i had something that i was going to give to a then-girlfriend who ended up being really toxic and i kept it for almost two years after and have only recently gotten rid of the thing and it honestly really helped.

otherwise as said, it'll get easier with time, but there are things you can do to help the process and not leaving you feeling so down about it. focus more on yourself; do things that you like to do, paint your nails if you like to do that, get a haircut, just something that'll take your mind off of him and onto yourself. sometimes it's good to take time for yourself after these sorts of things.

i hope you feel better!

Thank you! I'm meeting up with a friend I haven't seen for a while, I hope she can stand my whiny complains lol

Whenever I get those feelings, I actually get a new haircut/color (my bangs are violently red now, the rest black). It...helps me somehow to make me feel better about myself. Thanks for your advice! Now I need to get rid of his only thing I have left from him...his underwear ^///^

I think what could help is further rationalizing your feelings in addition to doing what others have advised. What I mean is... you don't miss HIM. You miss those happy FEELINGS that he gave you. Another guy can make you feel happy in a non-toxic way. If you believe in this, you should get over him easier than it's going right now. ;O; I wish you the best. You are totally entitled to knowing what makes you feel uncomfortable and horrible. Don't let him or anyone pressure you into something you know and feel is wrong for you. /big hugs

Thank you and you are most likely right. Well, it was the first time I was really...happy =/ hugs back

I know the feeling. :C There's better guys out there! Hang in there! n__n (btw awesome avatar)

Thank you! You have a gorgeous avatar too =D

ugh I feel you! It's the worst when you still have feelings for them even though you know, logically, that you shouldn't. stupid feelings. I guess what you could do is tell him you need space and you won't be talking to him for a while. That way when he does inevitability text you a few days, a week, two weeks from now, you can ignore it, delete it, and be completely validated. He'll probably pick up on it, get mad, and go crazy and even text you whatever he thinks will get a rise out of you or will get you to text back BUT. But since you told him you needed space, he has no actual reason to get mad at you for not responding and if you see him in real life it will be real easy to say, I told you I needed space. Bam! The only response to that is that he didn't give it to you which puts him in the wrong. And if he does get pissed and hurt? Good. Maybe see how he likes it for a change. :)

I hope he gets to know how it feels. Thanks for your advice.

I know the feeling! You have to block him from social media and your phone. It hurts, yes, but in the long run you will be grateful to have him no longer in your life. You deserve better! Always remember that. It's his loss!

Thank you :) We haven't talked to for like...two weeks? It still hurts but everyday it gets a little bit better ^^