I had just started taking a course called Abnormal Psychology at my college and i came past Antisocial Personality Disorder in my studies. To have this disorder you have to have the following: Failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest, Deceitfulness, as indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure, Impulsivity or failure to plan ahead, Irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults, Reckless disregard for safety of self or others, Consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations, and Lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another. I believe my cousin has this disorder because she lies about everything. She's 21 and she's been lying to her family and others about the whole duration of her life. I can bring some examples into play as also the other symptoms: -When she just got her drivers license she lied to her mom about driving and staying over at a friends house, she instead drove with that friend 8 hours away to Chicago. -When her and her mother got into an argument she punched her mother and broke her nose. -She (just recently) tried to steal my mom's wedding rings out of her own bedroom, my mom would of never gotten them back if she wouldn't have spoke up. -She has lied about the things she has sold. She conned my grandmother out of 10 dollars and lied and said that the phone was prepaid and there was still service on it when there wasn't. -She's left her mothers before and didn't show up until late with no regards to how her mother was worrying about her. -She has a criminal record, she stole money from her boss and tried to lie her way out've it and her boss ends up suing her. -She knows how to talk sweetly to my grandparents in ways where they will give her loads of money because they don't want to see her or her child starve. -She can't keep any relationship whether it be work or personal going for long as she constantly treats people like garbage, she's only nice to people when she gets what she wants. I'm telling this story because I want to know if there is some way to help her. Our relationship so far this year has been acquaintances. I have distanced myself away from her so I won't get caught in her constant trouble. I want to be as anonymous as possible with my approach. Her mother doesn't think there is anything wrong with her daughter. I would love to see a day where I would be able to have a healthy relationship with this person without not being able to trust her.

The mom and grandparents know, they're in denial and enabling.

Unfortunately there's nothing you can really do in this situation unless she or someone else in her immediate family asks you to help because they won't listen to you. Just stay away from her like you're already doing.

From what you told me, there is no doubt your cousin does have a disorder of some kind. She needs counseling. Unfortunately, unless your cousin or her mom sees a problem in her behavior, they aren't likely to seek professional help.

Is there anyone else who notices her behaviors as problematic?

My parents think that her behaviors are problematic but they don't want to bring up that situation in fear that it would cause a fight between them and the family. She has been to psychologist appointments though. First psychologist she went to, she ended up not liking what they said to her and she left. Second psychologist just helped her with "anxiety". I don't know if she was told she had another problem because she wouldn't tell us what happened, she just said she didn't want to go back.

Yeah, that's what I'm going to do. It's just sad that I really can't do anything to help her.