I saw a blog post talking about how transsexual women / cross-dressers were dangerous to "normal" women because they had male genitalia, and things like allowing them in women's internet spaces and bathrooms would compromise the safety of the women involved.

Someone fought that, obviously, and then someone else replied saying that because transsexual women were "conditioned" to be male, they were inherently dangerous because they're just "acting" feminine in order to "pass" as female.

You know what they tagged it as?

"Common sense."

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It's common sense to think 'once had a penis' = 'life-threatening' now? It's common sense to believe that a trans woman is just acting it out so they can what, exactly? Should I be afraid of lesbians, pans, and bis now, too, since those people actually find women attractive? Is that common sense? Should I buy a tin foil hat? How about a bomb shelter? Them trans are coming!

FUCK

TERFs can be infuriating, especially if you know someone who is transgender or are transgender yourself. In my case, I have a dear friend who is practically family. I don't have any recent stories to tell, but there have definitely been moments where I had to just walk away from the computer for a while. Their arguments are just plain hateful and don't even make any sense. If a guy is determined to hurt somebody, I don't think he's too worried about getting caught in the wrong bathroom. I mean, what's next? Get rid of stall doors since they could hide until they're alone with somebody? /shakes head

If a guy is determined to hurt somebody, he wouldn't even bother with the dress. xD He'd just walk into the girl's bathroom and grab whoever. That or grab whoever on his way to the boy's room. Or a janitorial closet. Or an alley. Or just right there in the open, because people don't willingly interfere with much.

Pretty much. There's been cases like that around my area, too, so the idea that public bathrooms will somehow be "safe spaces" as long as we keep transgender people out of them is ridiculous.

Fortunately, I seem to run into more and more people with positive views, so hopefully the hateful people will become a minority, given some time. ^^

Or just make single-stall genderless bathrooms the norm. Not like you can't just line up a few and call it a day. That seems so much easier to me than fighting over stall toilets forever. xD

I've been to a few places that had "family" restrooms in addition to gendered rooms. That'd probably be the best way to do it; keeps the lines from getting too bad, while also having a place for people with kids or who aren't comfortable with gendered rooms. But that's just me, and I don't like public bathrooms anyway. xD

The only downside is all the kids - I've got unrelated phobias associated with them, but... one of them decided to duck under the stall and say hi while I was going once. eue;;; Hey, maybe that's what the terfs are afraid of. lol

Ah, yeah, that's pretty awkward. I'm never sure what to do around kids, haha. My mom once suggested babysitting to make money and I was just like "NOT A CHANCE". I'm pretty sure I'm gonna wind up having a bunch of cats or something. xD

I don't actually remember this, but apparently I babysat when I was ten once and tied the toddler to a chair because he was "being annoying." I haven't been allowed to babysit since. ouo;;;

Well, cats are good. They don't say transphobic things, and they always clean and potty-train themselves, which is a pretty big plus.

Oh wow. xD We've babysat before, but that was just my mom offering to watch friend's or coworker's kids for a couple of hours. Volunteering at an animal kennel(not a shelter, more like a pet hotel) was more my thing. For the most part we just walked dogs, but we also got to spend time with pets whose owners wouldn't be able to pick them up for a while.

We've had cats for years, and we've had a dog for about a year and a half now. Hopefully we'll be able to get another dog once we move(which, again hopefully, will happen later this year -fingers crossed-). 'Course, it's gonna be a pretty busy time anyway, since we'll have to find a house and everything, not to mention I will probably be started on online college classes by then. Maybe. xD Lots of stuff has been coming up over the last year, so nothing's really set in stone.

That sounds fun - kind of wish it was a pay job. :x I'd happily make my living that way. If I lived in NY, I could - walking dogs is a pretty big thing there. Not out here, though. Everyone's retired and wants to do it themselves.

Aw, I want a dog so badly. xD Mostly for therapeutic reasons (when I babysat my friend's tiny terror walking him every day helped me form a schedule and my health improved dramatically), but my mom insists -she'd- be left to take care of it and uses our last cat as an example, failing to realize A: I literally JUST took care of a dog for its full 12 years of life B: that she refused to let anyone near the stupid cat because he was "a little shy" and she was afraid he'd get "upset" if someone other than her touched his things.

Then she blames me for not seeking therapy. Can't win with that lady.

You know what is common sense?

Once Had a Penis = Normal Human Being

How to be an abnormal (or at the very least rare/unusual) human being:

• Maybe born with extra genitalia
• Maybe born with flippers or missing toes
• Three Noses on each arm
• Purple Skin
• Not Human

The overuse of the word "Normal" kinda irked me in that sense. It's kind of a normal thing to be trans, it's not anything "WOW NEW AND SPECTACULAR AND WEIRD". It's normal to be tall, short, boy, girl, or even unsure of who you are. Those things are all normal and it's a part of being alive, being human.

It was pretty fun, though stressful at times. Certain dogs were a bit scary(like one pit bull who got really clingy- as in, grab your hand and don't let go clingy), though we were usually told to let the people who work there handle them. Then there were a few escape artists whom we had to chase down. x_x But that wasn't as bad once we got better kennels and the yard got upgraded.

We wanted a dog really badly, too. We had to give our last dog away because we were moving to a place with a two pet limit(and of course no one told us she could be grandfathered in), so we kept the cats because the move wouldn't be as bad on them as it would be on her with how old she was. After four years we were able to move here, where the limit was three pets. We knew they were changing it soon, so after asking around a bit we found out that if we went ahead and got a dog, we could grandfather him in to the current two pet limit. We wound up adopting our pup before our furniture even got here, haha.

Hmm. I want flippers. xD

But that's exactly my sentiment!! These terfs treat trans people like they're not even human, like they're some abnormality that might attack.

Even gender abolitionists, people that want to destroy the notion that there are inherent roles and norms for each gender - people you'd expect to be on board with transitioning - claim trans people /support/ gender norms /by/ transitioning, not realizing that if gender norms didn't exist, people would STILL be doing the same crap (dressing in dresses or t-shirts and pants or calling themselves a gender) because people tend to not wear jeans with dresses just out of interest of physical comfort, and mostly just because genders mean more than what society expects them to do in life.

I could rant all day about this because the thing that pisses me off the most about anti-trans movements is that the source of their hatred is ALWAYS some form of hypocrisy or logical fallacy. Always.

Aw, that's puppy behavior. xD I would've been melting over that and trying to get them to do it again. I suck at training animals, lol.

I feel sorry for escape artists - it usually means they're uncomfortable for some reason, and I always want to fix the problem but never can figure out what that problem might be. Pain in the ass running them down, though.

As would any family. xD Pup > couch. I understand pet limits, but why such a tight one? I can't have four fish? xD Does it scale with the type of animal?

Personally I'd prefer a set of wings and flying capabilities, but fins and gills would be fantastic. :V

What really gets my goat is that some people actually laugh at the "idea of someone being the opposite gender of what they really are".

I had a friend who got some death threats for making a comment about someone referring to him as "they/them/their" after asking them to just use male pronouns ("He/Him/His") and a ton of people started calling him "truscum" and the like. Friend in question is a cool guy, and it took a while when he came out as trans to get used to using "he" rather than "she", and I was, at one point, the obnoxious cis friend who asked 10,000 questions until he finally summed it up in one simple statement:

"I just want to be comfortable in my own body, as a male and not a female."

It was cute when he was little, but once he grew up his bites got stronger. >< He wound up leaving bruises on my mom's arm once; only reason he didn't puncture the skin was because of her heavy winter coat. After that the workers told us to leave him to them. The other scary ones were genuinely aggressive, though.

Oh, but I did let a doberman nibble on my hand a bit. xD Poor thing had managed to hurt her foot on the metal kennel, so she was wearing a cone and was really tired. She liked gently holding my hand in her mouth while I pet her. :)

Usually the escape artists were really hyper puppies. They wouldn't escape directly from the kennels, but they would slip past us when we went to put the leash on them, or they would wriggle out of the leash. Fortunately only one dog has managed to get very far from us outside, and he was known for it. We did manage to track him down, though. ^^

Fish are fine I think, but with dogs and cats it's limited(and more exotic animals like snakes are banned). We've been renting houses since we knew we'd only be around here and the last place temporarily, and simply haven't been able to afford places with higher limits. Doesn't help that we're basically living in one of the most expensive states right now. >< But as I said, we're hopefully gonna be moving to a more permanent place soon, in a better area.