So, I havent been on here in forever but I have an issue and I don't know how to address it. I'm known for over reacting and being a well known "aggressive person" so I need other inputs.

I can put the long story only if others are interested in giving me advice.. However, what would you do if your friend spat a bunch of nasty words to you and said she couldnt be friends with you because she doesnt like "How You Are.." How would you take that? Would you be insulted or just brush it off?

I would... probably be at least a little insulted. But I would try to focus on more of a "alright then, screw you" attitude. Because if they're saying that, then they shouldn't be the kind of person you hang out with anyway.

I agree completely! I told her friends dont say that and she said that I was "overreacting" How could you not take something like that to heart.

I had someone I considered a friend like that. It got to the point where she would try to change how I was. After a few years I stood up to her, broke it off with her, caved back into hanging out with her, repeat. The last time I realized how much of a doormat I was being and did something I had really wanted to do that she kept me from doing to show her that I wasn't going to cave in again. Now, after maybe a year break of not really talking to each other, she realizes what she was doing wasn't acceptable. We're starting to hang out again, and she hasn't tried to control my life since. We have both learned a lot from the situation.

I am ridiculously patient and used to be super timid, so as you said you're aggressive it might not unfold like that. But I just wanted you to keep in mind that she may turn into even more of a toxic person, or maybe you two will work it out. There's a range of ways this could go. What do you think you're going to do? How did you react to her?

See, I'm sort of timid and quiet but when someone upsets me or im upset about something I complain about it and they consider me aggressive. I can be aggressive just because I've dealt/still dealing with a lot of things. I used to bottle things up and not talk to anybody about them and now I learned to open up and talk about it and to some it sounds like... complaining. (I would say the B word but it is inappropriate on this site...) I'm not even sure I want to make things better. Her roommate/ an acquaintance of mine says its my fault too when I have done nothing wrong. I'm a pretty open/honest person I can admit when I have done something wrong. I dont blame people for my actions but this time it was her. We texted again the other day and when I looked through the texts it went from anger and hate to im sorry please be friends with me its all my fault and not yours. I dont like that. If you're gonna say something then change your mind? It's like she is afraid or like... Idk how to describe it. Another friend of mine I asked him about the situation and he was like "Well when we were all at the dorms you were pretty depressing to be around." I've matured at a young age. I feel like my friends are immature, want to have fun all the time, and they dont know when to focus on school or take life seriously. Everything is games and fun. Im not like that and thats why I dont have many friends. :/ Im still hurt how she said "How you are" she never even specified what that even meant but it still hurt my feelings. I've gotten into fights with friends but they never said that to me or anything as insulting...