My online best friend of 7 years just told me last night that she's sick of me because I'm lazy and don't stand up for myself. What do I even do when the person I trusted so much, could only be myself around, and just cared about so much tell me they're sick of me? Like, what. Literally all I did was cry myself to sleep last night. I just want things back to normal. She's apologized and everything and apparently we're "okay", but there's just that nagging feeling, y'know?

Hmmm, it was rude and uncalled for. But at least she was honest? I had a bff who was sick of me and didn't tell me; our relationship soured until I blew up. Your best option is to take it as criticism and try changing a little bit? Being more active and having more of a 'spine' is a great thing. I would say you can start by telling your friend what's on your mind, but I suppose if she's apologized it's a little over that... But if you still have a nagging feeling then perhaps bring it up once and for all again. That or start making new friends if you can. c:

Unfortunately, when we're young, we don't always know how to express ourselves well in a relationship. Sometimes friendships just don't last more than a few years, and sometimes they do.

I think your friend was overly blunt, and I don't think you should go out of your way to not be friends anymore..just give the relationship some space.

And while it hurts, is anything she said true? Don't change yourself to make someone else happy, but if you feel she's right, maybe try taking some of the harsh criticisms to heart to better yourself. I don't think I would discuss them with her, though.

While what she said may have hurt, really take a minute to really evaluate what she meant by what she said. Maybe do something to change? What led up to this? Do you complain about anything a lot?