So, there's this girl. I have trust issues, but I've known her for going on three years and we've been getting really close over the last four months. I really, REALLY like her. She's amazing, she's funny, she's beautiful. We come from really similar backgrounds and we get eachother in a way that not a lot of our other friends really.. get it.

The only reason I haven't gone for her sooner was because, and here's the thing, until sometime last year she considered herself thoroughly asexual. I won't go too much into her reasons, but she's also 24, and she's had time to think about it. I.. am not asexual. And I've dated asexual individuals in the past and not had a very good time of it. And I don't mean in a way of just not having sex in a relationship, I mean in a way where I was shamed for having sexual feelings for the person. It was at least fairly awful, it was a two year relationship, and I don't ever want to go through that one again. So I just.. considered it a non-possibility until she came out to me as a non-asexual lesbian.

This is all kind of backstory for my actual conundrum here. I really, really like this girl. And I'm at least fairly sure she likes me in the same way. But I don't know if her feelings are as developed as mine. So do I tell her, or wait for her to tell me? Because I'm an awful judge of timing.

I would recommend just telling her. Honesty is everything in a relationship.

TELL HER. If you do nothing, nothing will happen. You gotta make it happen and if you think she won't make a move you may have to force yourself. I forced myself with my current boyfriend and our relationship is going pretty well and I'm happy I told him when I did because alot of girls like him.

I really suggest telling her.

thank you guys c:

Things ended up a lil bit differently than I actually expected them to!! She started flirting with me really hardcore, like. Incredibly hardcore, and we've been talking a lot about it, and nothing is really set in stone, but I'm going to wait until she's up here in a couple more weeks for that. She's an absolutely amazing person and just thinking about her makes my heart turn all gooey, so I'm happy we're kind of on even ground, and we at least know we really like eachother without going so far as forcing ourselves.

But, consider this problem mostly solved!!