So i just met my boyfriend friends, the problem is i'm a shy person in rl. They made an effort to talk to me but i just smile and ignore them, its not like i am arrogant or what, i want to talk to them but i'm just shy. AND SO AWKWARD ☹ so i just sat there and hang with my boyfriend. They think i'm snobbish and just wanna talk with my boyfriend. I really wanna talk to them, and be friends with them too, but i feel so awkward, i dont know what to talk, what to ask... T_____T and i'm pretty sure they dislike me now... noooo... i'm not what they think. sobs

I've met them for several times already, but still i'm so quiet or i'll just play with my phone. (Lame tactics to avoid talking) Tips please :<

Hey hun, for starters just introduce yourself and tell them I'm really shy so sorry if it seems like I'm snobby when I'm not. Ask them how they are or how their day went. Get to know them and let them get to know you. Just be you. -hugs- You will be able to talk to them more so if you don't play on your phone so much because alot of people would think your being rude as your supposed to be visiting them not playing on your phone, ya know? But try asking how they are and everything or if they like dogs, or if they want to double date sometime or something. :)

I hope this helps.

❤ I'm exactly the same way as you - super awkward and anxious with people. Even people I've known for a loooong time sometimes. Talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling so that he can talk to his friends and say look...my gf isn't a snob, she's just super shy and people make her anxious, then they won't think you just won't want to talk to them or something. Weirdly, I was ok with my ex bfs best friend because he was also really awkward and just made random comments and was easy to 'bounce' off of, but maybe talk to them about what jobs they do, what interests they have, suggest things to do together like...bowling or something? Find out about their families, if they have gfs and like suggested, ask if you guys could double date...

Stop playing with your phone! Before meeting up with them, ask your boyfriend what you common interests are. That way, you can start convos like, "Hey, I hear you're into ____. So am I!" and you can start up a conversation from there. You don't even have to talk, but smile and laugh at their comments or something so you seems like you're paying attention.

Don't assume they don't like you. If you go in with a positive attitude, your experience will be 100% different than it will if you go in assuming no one likes you.

Seriously, though, the worst thing you can do in a social situation is ignore people or play on your phone. It comes off as rude, and it doesn't sound like you're that kind of person at all. So just try your best.

Since these are existing friends of your boyfriend's, I would suggest talking to him, and going from there. I hope everything works out. :)

If you do think you gave off a snobbish first impression, the next time you see them just apologize and say "I am sorry if I came off as snobbish! I was really anxious to meet you all." That should allow you to start fresh. However, if you are smiling and at least speaking when spoken too then I don't see how someone would think you were snobby! Unless they asked you a question directly and you smiled and ignored them.

I hope everything has gotten better for you hun. I haven't seen an update from you or anything and I was curious as to how everything was going? If you need anything feel free to comment or smail me :)

Oh my god, i never got a ping for this thread. Thank you so much for the tips guys, thanks a lot T^T

i haven't meet them for a long time. Last time, we go to karaoke, i sat at the corner and watched. They asked my bf ''is she sick?'' Lol. I'm only like that if i'm with people i don't really know, if i'm with my friends, i talk a lot till they ask me to shut up haha. I guess it takes time... :c

I honestly think if you would put yourself out there a bit more, so they can get to know you or so they know you are trying it would work better for you. Whereas they won't think your snobby or just don't want to be there. I'm the same way with people I don't really know, but if you don't try to be involved then chances are they will never get to know you and you won't get to know them. Your boyfriend seems to enjoy you being around, but he might be getting sick of them asking if your sick, or if your snobby. Try to show them who you are or explain that your shy until you get to know someone and do you best to make an effort :)

I agree with what others have been saying and talk to your boyfriend to see what topics you feel comfortable with that his friends also like. Also, try asking them questions just to get to know them. You can start with really easy and general questions like what do you do for a living? If they're in school, what are they studying? Hobbies? What do their parents do? Stuff like that. I would also see if your boyfriend could just hang out with one or two of his friends from time to time so you feel more comfortable. I know it can be unnerving with a big group of people you don't know.

Also, are you....old enough to drink? xD Don't get crazy drunk or anything but a drink or two will make you feel more relaxed so you won't feel as shy and be more open to conversations.