So there's this guy I have a crush on. I really shouldn't but I can't help myself. My really good friend, I'll call her May, is friends with him as well. She told me he is a huge player and to be careful. The other night, he sent me a message on facebook asking if he could come over to, "love on me as a friend." I told him not at my house (I'm renting a room from someone and I feel it would be disrespectful to her and the other two people who leave here. I didn't tell him that). He than said he was joking but we need to get a drink sometime. I said yes and that ended the conversation.

That morning I had breakfast with another good friend of mine and I showed her the messages. She said to be careful but to go along with it and play hard to get. That way he will see that he can't control me. I didn't want to sound stupid and ask how to play hard to get. So, any tips on how to play hard to get? I usually let guys know I like them and have never played this game. Any helpful tips are appreciated.

And yes, I do realize it may end up only being a sex thing and I'm okay with that. I'm taking 18 credits and I work 30 hours a week. No time for a boyfriend.

I don't think playing hard to get would be your best option here. I think you should just tell him outright that you don't want a boyfriend, even though you do find him attractive, and that you know about his reputation. Don't be playful, be straightforward. Showing him you won't be jerked around is easiest when you don't let him play his games. Playing hard to get is only going to play in to his little games, and won't do you any good in the long run.

Thank you. I really didn't like the idea of playing hard to get. It's not me. I'm a straightforward, no nonsense type of person. But I will do this rather than hard to get. Thanks again