Alright guys, so, I've been wondering what qualities, assets, and skills a woman (or I suppose gay/bi males?) views is best in a man. This is strictly NOT SURFACE ORIENTED. Nothing to do with looks and features on their face or what not. Though hygienic does count.

Go ahead and throw your opinion out there. This is for both men and women alike to answer. I'd like to possibly discuss a few of your answers with you as well, if that's alright, and if there's something I don't completely understand.

For those of you wondering WHY I ask this- Well... I just like to know what people perceive these days :) Not only that, but also: I feel like when the right woman comes along, I'll be best equipped to treat her the best a man should treat a woman. So, if I think I'm missing something, I want to be like "OH HEY, that's a good idea!" And get to work seeing about how to go about acquiring such a skill~

I believe the more a person knows, the better equipped they will be to handle any situation, and the better equipped they are, the more confident they'll be. And we all know confidence is where a lot of it starts, right? ;)

Go! :D

Well, from my perspective, a lot of things deemed 'chivalrous' get on my nerves. I work at a job where I often have to lift heavy items because we accept donations from people. I get a lot of guys going 'Oh, I'll carry it, it's heavy' and it deeply frustrates me. I understand they're trying to be nice, but they're playing in to the 'women are weak' stereotype they've grown up with. It's especially bad when I lift it later, only to find out it's actually only a little hefty, not at all heavy.

So that's one little thing, from me. Always ask if someone would like something done, or if they'd like help with something, especially if it's a woman and it's lifting :P

- Every woman is different, so one woman's "best man" is another woman's worst. I'll say just be yourself. You don't need to mold yourself to satisfy the requirements of a woman. If you have to change who you are, you're with the wrong woman.

With that being said, I'll say what I like in a man. The main thing I look for is honesty. I want him to be able to share everything with me. I also want him to trust me as much as I trust him. I don't like a man being possessive of me. I like my freedom, and I want to let him have his too.

I like a man to have similar hobbies as me. I like to be cuddled a lot, so I want him to like cuddling. I don't like to be treated like a helpless baby. I can take care of myself and value my independence. But, I want him to be there for me when I need help. I'm a difficult woman with a ton of baggage, and people tend to give up on me. But, a man who can help me through my depression and anxiety phases is worth keeping.

Everything I've listed is based on what I've learned from all of my relationships. My current boyfriend has all of the qualities I'm looking for. The only thing I wish he could do was cook. :P

It's always best to just be you. Be true to you and your likes and wants out of life. If you stifle these at all it'll hurt any relationship you do go for.

This said mainly honesty, communication, understanding of the fact you're dating another person with their own wants an needs and that no two will be alike, and being true to your word (if you say you'll get lunch or take on a chore to do what you said) are all good things to posses. I know people get jealous, it's natural, however knowing when it's gotten out of hand and talking about it or keeping it in check is always a good thing to be aware of. If you're not the jealous type then great for you :)

Experiences I've had from me and my friends is IF you find someone who utterly MAKES you feel like you WANT to be a better person (of your own choices) to give them the best you can then typically that is a person worth exploring a relationship with. Even if it ends in a friendship or never see each other again every time it's always been worth the time spent.

Mention that because a woman is testy, she's on her period and you deserve everything that's coming to you.

(You'll look and sound like a real jerk if you insinuate it.)

As a women, I would recommend a man learns how to cook and clean for different reasons. Both give people some independence. I know I find men who are clingy very unattractive. Also, it gives you something to do together. Cooking with my ex boyfriend was one of the best parts of the relationship.

Another tip: don't try to solve her problems. If she is venting about having a crappy day, don't offer her tips on how to fix it. Sympathize with her. Only offer advice if she asks for it

Mkay, just giving my two-cents, and a lot will probably be a repeat.

As other people here have said as well, you need to be yourself. When you're comfortable and confident in your own skin, people will sense it and feel more comfortable around you as well.

Gonna agree with as well; it REALLY helps a relationship that you can clean. Not only does it boost an impression of you if you can show a clean home, it improves health and is generally just a good habit, especially for when you move in with someone. There's nothing worse than an imbalanced relationship because one is a helpless slob. It does help if you can cook as well, but it's not as crucial. If they know how to cook, maybe they can teach you and you'll have a fun activity to do together! Trust, respect and communication have already been mentioned, but are extremely important none the less.

Always remember that even if there is a 'we', there is also a you and a me. You are equal individuals in your relation, and you shouldn't feel guilty for needing some alone-time once in a while, nor should your partner.

ALSO VERY IMPORTANT; find someone who is on the same level of intimacy as yourself. Do you love to cuddle and smooch a lot? Don't be with someone who doesn't like that, because one will be unhappy because their needs are not met and the other will be unhappy because they'll feel pressured to meet their partner's needs.

Also since this needed to be good advice for a MAN - if you know you are not entirely clean, please excuse yourself to clean your junk if you are in near vicinity of doing the frickle-frackle with someone. No one likes to smell the smells, nor taste it for that matter.

So far all this advice is pretty good :)

I do know that being myself is crucial to anything, I'm not the type to easily mold myself, though I do like understanding the qualities that people find to be worthwhile qualities. :)

I do love cooking together with my Significant other~! I just need to find one to cook with! Hahahaha. xD

LMFAO for the last thing you said xDDD Hygiene is very important! :DD That was a good one tho xD

Thanks for all the suggestions and talk so far everybody :> I appreciate it :)

Glad you got something out of it c: Wish you all the love from someone special!

BUT YES IT IS JUST VERY ANNOYING when people do not understand that, like yeah OF COURSE i'll go down on you when you just said you didn't shower and you've also just been to the bathroom, that sounds GREAT EXCEPT NOT REALLY

Be thoughtful. Arrange dates together, don't leave it all up to her to be creative.

Listen to her, and don't force opinions down her throat.

If you are serious with her, living together etc. - consult her in your decisions - especially financial. Keep her in the loop and don't hide anything. Try to include her and how things will effect her in your decision making process.

Don't go on extravagant holidays without her to do hobbies and then ask her for a loan because you are a prick who can't afford it... (ie. my bf at the moment..)

As everyone said, a man who can actually keep a house clean is a major plus. It's terrible having to pick up after your significant other... Also many men do not seem to notice things like dust or the need to vacuum or sweep the floor.

Make sure you have clean sheets. Also, as put so very well, ensure that all bits of you are clean for if they are not it will totally kill any romantic mood.

I love my husband's confidence. He never gives up on himself and stays true to his beliefs. He knows his strengths and isn't afraid to show it. He may come off as a jerk, but this is a guy who defends the little guy when they're truly in need.

One thing he does is frequently look at my face to see if I'm upset. This has proven to be a very good practice, because he's become very good at addressing when I'm upset quickly. And I'm an emotional mess, so I really need this. And he never hesitates to say he loves me, and that I'm beautiful, and he holds my hand all the time.

I'm really the luckiest woman on Earth, lol!