I had to have our cat put down today. I cry a lot when I think about it. Every time I go downstairs I end up doing it more. I don't know..I guess I just always thought she would still have some more days left in her, even though she had cancer. My mom said it was for the best, she would go peacefully and it would have felt worse to try and get her to wake up one day only to find her stiff. I'm going to miss her a lot. Heh, my nose is going to be raw a lot from all the tissues and some headaches. My mom told me of this support group for people who lost their pets. I told her no and she looked at me skeptically. I'm sorry, but I don't think a support group would help me right now. Maybe only time. I know some might say maybe make a memorial pet, but that would just leave me in tears for so long. I probably couldn't make a story for her without feeling pain.

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I am so sorry :( it is never easy. In time the pain may lessen, but she will always have a piece of your heart. Never forget that she is always there.

If you don't feel you can make a tribute pet, don't forget that I own Forevermore and am always happy to add an item in there for anyone, or any pet.

Sending you all of the hugs ❤️

hugs you take all the time you need...my husband () and I had a cat suffer from brain cancer as well...its not easy...being sad means that the little one was loved by you so deeply that you are feeling loss...if you need to talk, please feel free too talk to me...I agree with you on the memorial pet...it hurts so so much to see it at times and wish they had more time.

Yes and thank you for that kind offer-hugs- , I'm very sorry to hear that :( Thank you for the support, it means a lot :) Yeah, sometimes the pet would be a very hard reminder.

Thank you both so much! You both have been so supportive and helpful. Any user would be very lucky to have you as friends ❤ -hugs you both tightly-

it took my hubby a very long time to be ok with it...and me as well, even though we rescued a new cat...we still missed him...but I know hes in a wonderful place...the pain will get better. huggles but its ok to be sad ❤ really...

It's nice that you rescued another cat. Thanks, time heals all wounds..hopefully:)

again...if you ever need to talk huggles

I lost a cat to cancer too, around three years ago. She had bone cancer in one leg and it spread. It was so many kinds of awful, especially because she was my first cat. Her name was Zena and she was the best cat I've ever known. She was my best friend, so smart. She was the prettiest marble tabby I've ever seen. I've been thinking about her a lot lately because we're moving and she's buried at this house. I hate that I have to leave her remains here. I have pictures and memories of course, but still. There's a stone over her grave and I'm leaving it there. I hope the woman who's moving in leaves it there. I don't know if she's an animal person or not.

I'm so sorry to hear that. She sounds like a lovely cat :) Awwww. I hope the women who moves in is an animal person too:3

Thanks. She was, she was wonderful.

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I'm so sorry to hear about your cat. I lost my cat, Iris, a few years ago and I still think about her. She had such a strong personality. During Summertime, we would hunt flies that came into the house together. She was my first pet and it hurt a lot to lose her. Don't feel bad about being sad. Losing a pet is like losing a close friend. I'm tearing up now, it's been a long time since I've talked about Iris.

Surprisingly what helped me was adopting another cat. I know, that sounds bad, but it was never about replacing Iris. We actually weren't looking for another pet, but when a family friend came across this tiny little kitten alone in an alley, we couldn't leave him to fend for himself. I remember bringing him home and how exhausted he was. He fell asleep belly up in my brother's hands.

I don't think it's possible to "replace" any pet (Toby could not be more different from Iris). And I'm not saying you should get another pet. Toby helped me open my heart up again when I was so closed off. He helped me deal with Iris' death. Now I remember my time with Iris and I cherish it, though it wasn't very long. Try not to dwell on the fact that your cat is gone, but rather that you were able to be a part of her life.

Maybe you're not ready to tell stories about your cat, but I am here whenever you want to talk.

to be honest I teared a little when I read that story. Sorry that you lost you cat. I bet you had many fun times hunting flies with her:) That's nice that you were able to rescue an animal:) Thank you so much for your support :) -hugs-

I lost my 14 year old tuxedo cat Lulu last year. I had her since I was 8, she was like a little sister to me (I was a very lonely kid). She had kidney failure and by the time she was diagnosed (my vet really sucked and I hate that I didn't go to a different one, thinking back it was clear she had it and they refused to do a blood test) she was almost dead and the vet wanted to put her down. That vet was such a nightmare that I opted to "keep her comfortable" at home instead. They told me she had a week tops. I went and bought her all of her favorite food and treats... she gained her weight back and was doing really well. She lived for over 7 months after that. On Father's Day night she out of the blue had a massive seizure and died later in her sleep. I held her the whole time and I know that's what she would have wanted. She absolutely hated the car, the carrier, the vet. I had her cremated at the SPCA I volunteer at, getting her ashes back really helped. I made a scrapbook of her and made a little "shrine" I guess you could call it to her. It was so hard losing her and my other 2 cats took it really hard to. My one cat still looks for her. I cried for months. It was horrible.

I did the unthinkable and adopted another cat after 3 months. It wasn't intended at all. While volunteering I met a Maine Coon adult girl who had been horribly abused- she was down to 4 pounds when they found her and has Stomatitis, asthma, and a heart problem. Her cattitude reminded me a lot of LuLu and I got really attached to her, I visited her for like a month- it was kitten season and no one wanted her. I just happened to email the SPCA about her one day and they told me she was scheduled to be put down that day. I had to foster her for a month and she still has health issues but she really helped me. I have no idea what I would have done without her, I think it was fate.

So my advice would be to make a scrapbook if you're into that kinda thing, or make some kind of memorial for her. Avoid talking to assholes who don't get it. They will tell you to get over it, cats don't have souls, and "who cares". I was never really a people person but the way some people acted about her death made me haaaate people. My nephews are being brought up in a pet hating household and when she died they were laughing and yelling "HAHAHA LULUS DEAD. LULUS DEAD HAHAHHAA".

I'm very sorry to head that. That's nice what you did for her :) It's very awesome you were able to help and find another cat to love as well. Also thank you for the advice :) Sorry you had to go through that with people and your nephews, they sound like a painxP